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Old 04-15-2017, 07:32 PM
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Please, tell me it does get easier...

Six days now and man, what a roller coaster... Panic after panic that I am not going to make it. That I am going to drink, sooner than I think... Coming here to post, frantic, reading some very nice posts and things get easier, calmer in a way and then! Bing, another out of control sense of being episode, I'll never make it, I'll never make it... Tonight, just trying. Must stop judging whichever direction this takes me... I guess. I am so afraid to say that this time, it feels different. After so many relapses that were after the "This time, I mean it" monologue. This time around, I am more suspicious than before. Is it because I am giving up on myself, slowly but surely? Alcohol sure was a great solution to tell my crazy mind to just shut up, be quiet...
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Old 04-15-2017, 07:39 PM
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It gets a million times easier. Just don't think about anything besides now and what you have to do today to stay sober. Future tripping leads to anxiety and thats hard to deal with.
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Old 04-15-2017, 07:49 PM
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Congrats on 6 days. That's awesome.

It most certainly does get easier. Every day you can put in the bank, the addiction gets a little weaker. Everyone is different, but if you have been hammering the drink hard then it will take time to settle down.

I tried to remember that any thoughts of drinking and any cravings were the psychological effects of my addiction getting p*ssed off that it was being starved. Try to think of it this way: If your addiction is getting p*ssed off, it means you are winning.

Keep going. I'm at twelve weeks and the 24 hour a day obsession with alcohol has (for the moment) evaporated.
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Old 04-15-2017, 07:58 PM
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Yep, it definitely gets easier. The first week was hell for me. Keep coming here and asking questions, and use any other support you can find.
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Old 04-15-2017, 08:03 PM
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It gets easier. Stay here and post and read. Don't give up six days is fantastic.
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Old 04-15-2017, 08:05 PM
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Oh yes, easier and easier, especially early on! There are ups and downs, life has ups and downs, but the general trend is, it gets much easier over time. The biggest tool in my shed, that I used the most, was, distract, distract, distract - when thoughts of, I want to drink, I'm not gonna make it, came up, my first response was, stop thinking about it and focus on something else until the urge and thoughts go away, because they always do.
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Old 04-15-2017, 08:50 PM
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Yes, it gets easier.

"Will it be easy? nope. will it be worth it? absolutely."

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Old 04-15-2017, 09:16 PM
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it does get easier. much easier....at times, damn fun...and peaceful...the anxiety WILL quiet down.

The early days are messy. Constant ups and down...paranoia, anxiety...it's HARD...but worth every second of it.

Sometime in the future, there will be that day when you wake up after a long night of sleep, the voices that scream in your head will be silent and you will know peace and feel free. Don't quit before that miracle happens.
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Old 04-15-2017, 09:41 PM
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It gets easier - noone would be sober for long otherwise
Hang in there - and use the support here

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Old 04-15-2017, 09:59 PM
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Good work on day 6 & with time & understanding it gets easier
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Old 04-15-2017, 09:59 PM
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Ditto to what everyone has said so far - just wanted to add that I would go to bed early, sit in the bathtub (I usually hate baths), listen to "fluff" audiobooks when the roller coaster got too bad in the early days.
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Old 04-16-2017, 06:55 AM
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Depends on what the problem is. If it is alcohol and you just stop drinking, it will get easier. If it is alcoholism and you just stop drinking, it will most likely get worse unless you do something to treat it.
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Old 04-16-2017, 06:57 AM
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Please, tell me it does get easier...

if it didn't, we wouldn't be here.
getting sober was the hardest thing ive ever done. harder than fighting cancer.
staying sober has been easy and well worth every second of fight.
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Old 04-16-2017, 06:58 AM
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It gets easier - noone would be sober for long otherwise
Hang in there - and use the support here
That's reassuring. The image I have of me is as a drinker because that's what I've been for years and I guess it takes time and a lot of trust for that to change
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Old 04-16-2017, 03:50 PM
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Yeah it's not overnight - I drank for 20 years - but it will change tho

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