Love and Trust
Love and Trust
I feel so hypocritical today. Actually the past few days. I am hoping its just all part of the transition to a normal life. To the point: I am having a hard time loving people and trusting about everyone. Last night I lost my cool and blew off at the family over something stupid. I also feel like everyone is lying to me 24/7. I am attempting to integrate myself back into a church environment after taking some time away, but I am afraid to trust anyone in a leadership position again.
But I'm the one that lied all these years, I'm the one who can't be trusted. Please tell me this is normal. I'm several weeks into this, if that matters.
But I'm the one that lied all these years, I'm the one who can't be trusted. Please tell me this is normal. I'm several weeks into this, if that matters.
what do you need to trust people about? i trust people but watch their actions. if the actions don't match the words I remember. i don't say anything, but i file it away.
the folks i work with in corporate america, they will throw me under the bus. trust them, no. always aware.
folks at church, trust them sure, why not. trust that they believe in God? sure. trust them with my house keys, no.
i guess i give everyone the benefit of the doubt. believe in others, help others as i can. i never expect anything in return so i am never disappointed.
the folks i work with in corporate america, they will throw me under the bus. trust them, no. always aware.
folks at church, trust them sure, why not. trust that they believe in God? sure. trust them with my house keys, no.
i guess i give everyone the benefit of the doubt. believe in others, help others as i can. i never expect anything in return so i am never disappointed.
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I understand what you are feeling.
I to have returned to my church after being away for nearly 40 years and it is a tough transition. I have met with a priest so my wife and I can get remarried in the church. Going to mass has been stressful and after living without God for so long it sometimes feels odd to go.
I have had so many influences over the years saying that God isn't real and religion is a money making scam; it bothers me that I do not trust my faith more.
I to have returned to my church after being away for nearly 40 years and it is a tough transition. I have met with a priest so my wife and I can get remarried in the church. Going to mass has been stressful and after living without God for so long it sometimes feels odd to go.
I have had so many influences over the years saying that God isn't real and religion is a money making scam; it bothers me that I do not trust my faith more.
I found my issue was I didn't trust myself. After all I had made a series of really bad choices that lead to me becoming an alcoholic. I also acted like an ass for a couple of years there and was kind of embarrassed about that. I was still holding on to the fear that I wouldn't stay off the alcohol too. It took some time to earn my own trust back but it eventually happened. I also trust me to be able to handle it if someone gets the jump on me or lies. No matter what I'll survive.
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To the point: I am having a hard time loving people and trusting about everyone.
And even if someone does lie to you, that's on them, not you. Listen to your gut. That still small voice within will tell you if you're being lied to. And if they lie to you? Love them from a distance. It's not personal. They are spiritually sick if they chose to lie.
Last night I lost my cool and blew off at the family over something stupid.
I also feel like everyone is lying to me 24/7.
I am attempting to integrate myself back into a church environment after taking some time away, but I am afraid to trust anyone in a leadership position again.
Take time to get to know people in leadership positions at the church. Let your gut and heart guide you if this is a person you can trust or not. Take it slowly and keep checking in with your heart. If you make a mistake and trust someone who shouldn't have been trusted, it is okay. In the beginning, it is a little confusing to tell sometimes if it's your mind or your heart guiding you. It's okay. It's not about you. Ever. It's about said person who can't be trusted.
People are human. But that doesn't mean everyone is "all bad" or "all good". It's part of experiencing life. Someone you thought couldn't be trusted may actually be trustworthy. Or someone you thought was trustworthy, might break your trust. It is all okay. It's humanness and part of the journey and learning process.
Take baby steps. Stick your toe in the water so to speak and go slowly. Trust must be built.
But I'm the one that lied all these years, I'm the one who can't be trusted. Please tell me this is normal. I'm several weeks into this, if that matters.
Lying is just a defense mechanism. It's not God's will for you to lie. Continue the journey of the growth it'll take you to step each new day toward God's will to be truthful and honest in all of life.
No one can hurt you unless you let them.
Trust God.
Be trustworthy.
Good luck as you continue your recovery journey.
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