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Old 03-20-2017, 04:33 PM
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44 months today

Well, here we are again, a winter with two trips under my belt where I didn't drink even though I was around alcohol the whole time. Don't miss it really. I find myself struggling with not looking down on people who drink. In fact I think drinking is so ridiculous that I can't fathom that I was caught in that death spiral. I drank so I got one PI, two DUI's. Got mugged one time and countless of accidents where I hurt myself. I thank God for not being in a serious accident and hurting someone or worse killing someone. I almost lost my wife to drinking and I can go on and on. The last straw was when I got Gout which my doctor attributed to my excessive beer consumption in conjunction with a general bad lifestyle and diet. I quit almost four years ago and about two years ago I made some diet changes and I have never felt better. My blood results went from dismal to very good for the most part. I honestly have to say, I can't believe that I didn't quit sooner. I tried so many times to quit but my heart was not in it. I just got sick and tired of it all one day in August of 2013. I knew that I was on a death spiral and I would soon be without both my wife and job if I didn't finally give this up. I did a complete mental change, this time I wanted to quit. I didn't want to be slave to the bottle anymore. Has it been easy you might ask, by no means no. I have my up and downs like most people, but I keep reminding myself that I do not want to go back in to that hell ever again. Thanks for reading.
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Well done tnman !
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Congratulations tnman!! 44 months is fantastic!!
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Great story tnman!
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Old 03-20-2017, 06:19 PM
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Congrats on the 44 months.


Originally Posted by tnman1967 View Post
I find myself struggling with not looking down on people who drink.

I know what you mean. Last night I was at a bar that was holding a fundraiser. I only went to support one of the bands that was playing.
Their was this drunken old fool making a real ass out of himself, wandering around, dancing, yelling and bouncing off the walls - I was really annoyed. If this same thing had happened when I was drinking I probably wouldn't have even noticed him.

Between going to AA regularly and trying to surround myself with sober people I am getting more sensitive and less tolerant toward intoxicated people.
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Congratulations, tnman!!!! Well done !!!!!
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Good for you tnman. Tremendous achievement
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Congrats tnman, that is a great accomplishment.
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Old 03-20-2017, 07:30 PM
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I envy you, 24 months was my record so far, but reading your story made me more determined that this time I'm going to make it stick .

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Congratulations

I hope you can get past the looking down on people. I understand it but I'm not judging - but nowadays I figure anyone doing what I used to do could use a little empathy.

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Originally Posted by Dee74 View Post
Congratulations

I hope you can get past the looking down on people. I understand it but I'm not judging - but nowadays I figure anyone doing what I used to do could use a little empathy.

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Well said, Dee. There but for the grace of God...
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Wowee..fantasic
BTW was the man who used to stand giving me eyebrows in the shop where I used to buy my whiskey at 8.00 am a relative of yours? Just kidding
I think it's great you can look back and see with new eyes what a waste drinking is.
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Addiction is a huge epidemic and continues
to affect many lives today. Some make it into
recovery and many don't. Hopefully those
who are still struggling find us here in SR or
seek the abundant help that is always available
to them to get sober and clean before it's
too late.

Sometimes it takes others to get the sick
person help they so desperately need in
order to live. Just like my family did for
me yrs ago.

I'm glad to know you are living today
and not dying from your addiction.

Good job...!!!!
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Good job Tnman! You are on your way...
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That's a great achievement. You should be proud!
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huge accomplishment tnman! an inspiration to us all, thanks for sharing
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Excellent job, Tnman.

This is great news.
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Old 03-21-2017, 04:10 PM
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Originally Posted by Dee74 View Post
Congratulations

I hope you can get past the looking down on people. I understand it but I'm not judging - but nowadays I figure anyone doing what I used to do could use a little empathy.

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Well it's more of a pity feeling really, can't fathom why they think it's needed at every turn in their life, and I'm not necessarily aiming this at alcoholics. There seem to be an awful lot of people who can't do anything unless alcohol is served. I know social drinking is supposed to be the cultural norm. I for one think it's stupid, so yes it's hard not to look down on people. But hey, who is perfect correct?
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Originally Posted by FormerBeerLover View Post
Well said, Dee. There but for the grace of God...
See my post to Dee, yes empathy goes a long way, but I wasn't necessarily aiming it at alcoholics per se. Just tired of a society which can't seem to function without all these mind altering substances.
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