Wake of despair
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Wake of despair
This last week as I was driving I got a call. One of my best friends (like a brother to me) succumbed to liver disease. He was doing OK, but relapsed once again. Died alone, in pain.
He was smart, gifted, beyond generous, and pretty much a friend to everyone he met. He was rarely angry or inconsiderate, even when drunk.
The reason I wanted to tell you guys is not for sympathy. I'm gonna be fine. I wanted to tell you about the seemingly endless heartache he left behind. -A wife, a four year old son, both parents, a brother, too many friends to count and a church youth group that adored him. All of us absolutely broken hearted.
If you would have told us 15 years ago that one of us two were going to die young from drinking, we both would have picked me. -My life is better than ever (due to recovery), and he lost everything.
If anyone is on the fence tonight or has an open bottle, join me in stopping for good.
Although my recovery belongs to me, I am now dedicating it with love to those that I've lost. I'm absolutely sure my friends (multiple) and my mother would tell me it was just not worth the cost.
He was smart, gifted, beyond generous, and pretty much a friend to everyone he met. He was rarely angry or inconsiderate, even when drunk.
The reason I wanted to tell you guys is not for sympathy. I'm gonna be fine. I wanted to tell you about the seemingly endless heartache he left behind. -A wife, a four year old son, both parents, a brother, too many friends to count and a church youth group that adored him. All of us absolutely broken hearted.
If you would have told us 15 years ago that one of us two were going to die young from drinking, we both would have picked me. -My life is better than ever (due to recovery), and he lost everything.
If anyone is on the fence tonight or has an open bottle, join me in stopping for good.
Although my recovery belongs to me, I am now dedicating it with love to those that I've lost. I'm absolutely sure my friends (multiple) and my mother would tell me it was just not worth the cost.
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A very sad story indeed Leviathan but I'm glad you shared it. It's all too common actually and I'm sorry for your loss. I saw the same thing happen to a husband of a young wife and family that I work with and I'm seeing it happen right in front of me with another family. I'm glad to hear you are doing OK in light of the situation and you are doing a good thing by sharing it.
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Thank you for sharing and I too am so sorry for your loss. Like Scott said, lots of us have been there- I am only 9 months sober and have already lost a program friend who was a few weeks ahead of me in AA. I too have a friend I am watching quietly kill himself, like Scott.
This is a good reminder that AA's primary purpose is to carry the message to the alcoholic who still suffers. That will be a more focused part of my prayers today, as well as for those like this sweet family who are affected by the alcoholics.
Take care of yourself.
This is a good reminder that AA's primary purpose is to carry the message to the alcoholic who still suffers. That will be a more focused part of my prayers today, as well as for those like this sweet family who are affected by the alcoholics.
Take care of yourself.
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