Emotional Maturity Support Thread
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Brenda - Keep writing, keep processing through things. That's what we are here for.
I find it helpful to write out the challenges that I'm facing. Private journals never worked for me but the interactive nature of SR has been immensely helpful to me. I need the good folks here to help me see things clearly, to remind me to love myself when I don't, and to just listen.
I pray I can provide that same warmth and support that others have shown me.
Sometimes self forgiveness takes time.
I find it helpful to write out the challenges that I'm facing. Private journals never worked for me but the interactive nature of SR has been immensely helpful to me. I need the good folks here to help me see things clearly, to remind me to love myself when I don't, and to just listen.
I pray I can provide that same warmth and support that others have shown me.
Sometimes self forgiveness takes time.
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Emotional Maturity...Spiritual Maturity...
Facebook is good for some things. Saw this today and thought it was excellent!
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What is Spiritual Maturity?
1. Spiritual Maturity is *when you stop trying to change others,...instead focus on changing yourself.*
2. Spiritual Maturity is when you *accept people as they are.*
3. Spiritual Maturity is when you *understand everyone is right in their own perspective.*
4. Spiritual Maturity is when you* *learn to "let go".*
5. Spiritual Maturity is when you are able to *drop "expectations" from a relationship and give for the sake of giving.*
6. Spiritual Maturity is when you *understand whatever you do, you do for your own peace.*
7. Spiritual Maturity is when you *stop proving to the world, how intelligent you are.*
8. Spiritual Maturity is when you *don't seek approval from others.*
9. Spiritual Maturity is when you *stop comparing with others.*
10. Spiritual Maturity is when you *are at peace with yourself.*
11. Spiritual Maturity is when you *are able to differentiate between "need" and "want" and are able to let go of your wants.*
*& last but most meaningful !*
12. You gain Spiritual Maturity when you *stop attaching "happiness" to material things !!*
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In my experience, it really is a slow and simple process and much more about coming to accept the world as it is, than trying to figure things out.
Peace
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Facebook is good for some things. Saw this today and thought it was excellent!
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What is Spiritual Maturity?
1. Spiritual Maturity is *when you stop trying to change others,...instead focus on changing yourself.*
2. Spiritual Maturity is when you *accept people as they are.*
3. Spiritual Maturity is when you *understand everyone is right in their own perspective.*
4. Spiritual Maturity is when you* *learn to "let go".*
5. Spiritual Maturity is when you are able to *drop "expectations" from a relationship and give for the sake of giving.*
6. Spiritual Maturity is when you *understand whatever you do, you do for your own peace.*
7. Spiritual Maturity is when you *stop proving to the world, how intelligent you are.*
8. Spiritual Maturity is when you *don't seek approval from others.*
9. Spiritual Maturity is when you *stop comparing with others.*
10. Spiritual Maturity is when you *are at peace with yourself.*
11. Spiritual Maturity is when you *are able to differentiate between "need" and "want" and are able to let go of your wants.*
*& last but most meaningful !*
12. You gain Spiritual Maturity when you *stop attaching "happiness" to material things !!*
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In my experience, it really is a slow and simple process and much more about coming to accept the world as it is, than trying to figure things out.
Peace
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Thankyou Paul. Good list.
I think it important for everyone to recognise that being a world expert on not having emotional maturity I find it to be very useful. On my self imposed Spanish Inquisition process- I am getting 'there'.
I think it important for everyone to recognise that being a world expert on not having emotional maturity I find it to be very useful. On my self imposed Spanish Inquisition process- I am getting 'there'.
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Originally Posted by paulokes 
Emotional Maturity...Spiritual Maturity...
Facebook is good for some things. Saw this today and thought it was excellent!
*************************
What is Spiritual Maturity?
1. Spiritual Maturity is *when you stop trying to change others,...instead focus on changing yourself.*
2. Spiritual Maturity is when you *accept people as they are.*
3. Spiritual Maturity is when you *understand everyone is right in their own perspective.*
4. Spiritual Maturity is when you* *learn to "let go".*
5. Spiritual Maturity is when you are able to *drop "expectations" from a relationship and give for the sake of giving.*
6. Spiritual Maturity is when you *understand whatever you do, you do for your own peace.*
7. Spiritual Maturity is when you *stop proving to the world, how intelligent you are.*
8. Spiritual Maturity is when you *don't seek approval from others.*
9. Spiritual Maturity is when you *stop comparing with others.*
10. Spiritual Maturity is when you *are at peace with yourself.*
11. Spiritual Maturity is when you *are able to differentiate between "need" and "want" and are able to let go of your wants.*
*& last but most meaningful !*
12. You gain Spiritual Maturity when you *stop attaching "happiness" to material things !!*
************************
In my experience, it really is a slow and simple process and much more about coming to accept the world as it is, than trying to figure things out.
Peace
P
Facebook is good for some things. Saw this today and thought it was excellent!
*************************
What is Spiritual Maturity?
1. Spiritual Maturity is *when you stop trying to change others,...instead focus on changing yourself.*
2. Spiritual Maturity is when you *accept people as they are.*
3. Spiritual Maturity is when you *understand everyone is right in their own perspective.*
4. Spiritual Maturity is when you* *learn to "let go".*
5. Spiritual Maturity is when you are able to *drop "expectations" from a relationship and give for the sake of giving.*
6. Spiritual Maturity is when you *understand whatever you do, you do for your own peace.*
7. Spiritual Maturity is when you *stop proving to the world, how intelligent you are.*
8. Spiritual Maturity is when you *don't seek approval from others.*
9. Spiritual Maturity is when you *stop comparing with others.*
10. Spiritual Maturity is when you *are at peace with yourself.*
11. Spiritual Maturity is when you *are able to differentiate between "need" and "want" and are able to let go of your wants.*
*& last but most meaningful !*
12. You gain Spiritual Maturity when you *stop attaching "happiness" to material things !!*
************************
In my experience, it really is a slow and simple process and much more about coming to accept the world as it is, than trying to figure things out.
Peace
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Originally Posted by paulokes
Emotional Maturity...Spiritual Maturity...
Facebook is good for some things. Saw this today and thought it was excellent!
*************************
What is Spiritual Maturity?
1. Spiritual Maturity is *when you stop trying to change others,...instead focus on changing yourself.*
2. Spiritual Maturity is when you *accept people as they are.*
3. Spiritual Maturity is when you *understand everyone is right in their own perspective.*
4. Spiritual Maturity is when you* *learn to "let go".*
5. Spiritual Maturity is when you are able to *drop "expectations" from a relationship and give for the sake of giving.*
6. Spiritual Maturity is when you *understand whatever you do, you do for your own peace.*
7. Spiritual Maturity is when you *stop proving to the world, how intelligent you are.*
8. Spiritual Maturity is when you *don't seek approval from others.*
9. Spiritual Maturity is when you *stop comparing with others.*
10. Spiritual Maturity is when you *are at peace with yourself.*
11. Spiritual Maturity is when you *are able to differentiate between "need" and "want" and are able to let go of your wants.*
*& last but most meaningful !*
12. You gain Spiritual Maturity when you *stop attaching "happiness" to material things !!*
************************
In my experience, it really is a slow and simple process and much more about coming to accept the world as it is, than trying to figure things out.
Peace
P
Facebook is good for some things. Saw this today and thought it was excellent!
*************************
What is Spiritual Maturity?
1. Spiritual Maturity is *when you stop trying to change others,...instead focus on changing yourself.*
2. Spiritual Maturity is when you *accept people as they are.*
3. Spiritual Maturity is when you *understand everyone is right in their own perspective.*
4. Spiritual Maturity is when you* *learn to "let go".*
5. Spiritual Maturity is when you are able to *drop "expectations" from a relationship and give for the sake of giving.*
6. Spiritual Maturity is when you *understand whatever you do, you do for your own peace.*
7. Spiritual Maturity is when you *stop proving to the world, how intelligent you are.*
8. Spiritual Maturity is when you *don't seek approval from others.*
9. Spiritual Maturity is when you *stop comparing with others.*
10. Spiritual Maturity is when you *are at peace with yourself.*
11. Spiritual Maturity is when you *are able to differentiate between "need" and "want" and are able to let go of your wants.*
*& last but most meaningful !*
12. You gain Spiritual Maturity when you *stop attaching "happiness" to material things !!*
************************
In my experience, it really is a slow and simple process and much more about coming to accept the world as it is, than trying to figure things out.
Peace
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Originally Posted by GroundhogDay
I still try to change my husband.
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I'm finally letting it go. I can't change it. I can't control what anyone thinks of me. It doesn't matter what any of them think of me.
I gave someone mild grief, they shut it down the best way they knew how, and it was over. Only I spent the next two months acting as if I'd murdered someone and was worried about the body being found.
Did I ever even admit what it was I did that I was embarrassed about? I drove past their house and honked my horn. That's what I did. That's all. I was giving them grief and he shut it down and then it was over, they moved on and I couldn't.
I got to the point today, after weeks of bellyaching over nothing, that I was so tired and so depressed and so miserable I wanted to go buy a bottle of wine. Come on! This is ridiculous, enough is enough!
Let's move on.
I gave someone mild grief, they shut it down the best way they knew how, and it was over. Only I spent the next two months acting as if I'd murdered someone and was worried about the body being found.
Did I ever even admit what it was I did that I was embarrassed about? I drove past their house and honked my horn. That's what I did. That's all. I was giving them grief and he shut it down and then it was over, they moved on and I couldn't.
I got to the point today, after weeks of bellyaching over nothing, that I was so tired and so depressed and so miserable I wanted to go buy a bottle of wine. Come on! This is ridiculous, enough is enough!
Let's move on.
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