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Originally Posted by oldsoul112249 
In my experience arriving at a goal or achievement can be a letdown. The excitement, striving and anticipation is gone..sort of an empty feeling. Maybe set a new goal, something to look forward to..replace it. I also craved when something good happened. I wanted to celebrate and feel even better. A trigger I need to watch out for.
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Originally Posted by Cascabel
The above really resonated with me. Having reached a goal of any kind can be a major trigger. The "empty feeling" cries out for alcohol to fill it. It's better to set a new goal.
Whenever a goal was achieved, a new posession, a promotion, status, etc, I was dissapointed that I was still the same person. This external achievement didn't change anything internally. There was instead an emptiness and the way to fix that is to set another goal......
It took me a long time to learn that lesson. The big book talks about "worship of other things" (than God) and I think I now understand what is meant. I need to be working on my relationship with Him, my internal condition, and my external world will be fine regardless of what is happening.
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Originally Posted by Gottalife
It resonated with me too. Retail therapy, career advancement, lust (once you've got it you don't want it) all come to mind.
Whenever a goal was achieved, a new posession, a promotion, status, etc, I was dissapointed that I was still the same person. This external achievement didn't change anything internally. There was instead an emptiness and the way to fix that is to set another goal......
It took me a long time to learn that lesson. The big book talks about "worship of other things" (than God) and I think I now understand what is meant. I need to be working on my relationship with Him, my internal condition, and my external world will be fine regardless of what is happening.
Whenever a goal was achieved, a new posession, a promotion, status, etc, I was dissapointed that I was still the same person. This external achievement didn't change anything internally. There was instead an emptiness and the way to fix that is to set another goal......
It took me a long time to learn that lesson. The big book talks about "worship of other things" (than God) and I think I now understand what is meant. I need to be working on my relationship with Him, my internal condition, and my external world will be fine regardless of what is happening.
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Originally Posted by oldsoul112249
In my experience arriving at a goal or achievement can be a letdown. The excitement, striving and anticipation is gone..sort of an empty feeling. Maybe set a new goal, something to look forward to..replace it. I also craved when something good happened. I wanted to celebrate and feel even better. A trigger I need to watch out for.
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Originally Posted by Soberandhealthy
whoao 4 years i cant put together a week and yes and drunk and no you are not missing anything. this is an insidious disease plese dont give up please do it for me give me hope
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