Claustrophic and Irritated at a Bar Trying to Get Water
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Originally Posted by August252015 
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Reading Centered's story- I realized that several times a server skipped over my chair when I actually did want to ask for a diet coke. I think she heard the conversation between a couple of couples about bloodies v GnTs. Whatever. She finally did come around to me and I got my drink - but I went up to the actual bar to get my refill rather than put up with her nonsense.
Not the same situation as yours, but it made me realize that there are a lot of bar/alcohol situations beyond the explicit ones (restaurant/bar) and so many ways this whole getting-our-drink vs them-getting-theirs thing can come up.
Reading Centered's story- I realized that several times a server skipped over my chair when I actually did want to ask for a diet coke. I think she heard the conversation between a couple of couples about bloodies v GnTs. Whatever. She finally did come around to me and I got my drink - but I went up to the actual bar to get my refill rather than put up with her nonsense.
Not the same situation as yours, but it made me realize that there are a lot of bar/alcohol situations beyond the explicit ones (restaurant/bar) and so many ways this whole getting-our-drink vs them-getting-theirs thing can come up.
I'd have been annoyed too, but also kinda watching as a 3rd party...like a second show besides the comedy one was unfolding all around me.
Or you realize that that is your character defects creeping back in, the selfishness of wanting others (the server) to act the way you think she should act?
Bottom line- you talked through all of it here, and based on your notes back to people did a good job thinking this one through.
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I envy the sober people who find more joy in dancing now that they're sober. I'm two years sober and solid in my sobriety but I can't picture myself ever dancing again. I did karaoke sober one time at the cajoling of my friends and it will be the last.
I see dancing and karaoke as two things that I did in the past (drunk) but will probably never do again. I'm okay with this. You don't see many people skateboarding in their 40's. It's something they used to do but stopped with age.
Same goes for hanging out at bars. I'll meet people at one but I'm ready to leave after one Coke. Never stay more than an hour. Side note: isn't it funny how I'm satisfied with one Coke when before, 12 beers wasn't enough? How did I drink that much liquid?!
More power to the people who dance until their feet hurt but I hung up my dancing shoes when I stopped drinking. A very minor exchange to get my sanity back!
Another side note: I was the one dancing wildly until my feet hurt. Then the next day I'd be in my bed sick and shaking. What a life that was.
I am content with the fact that I am a shy, non-dancing, non-singer.
I see dancing and karaoke as two things that I did in the past (drunk) but will probably never do again. I'm okay with this. You don't see many people skateboarding in their 40's. It's something they used to do but stopped with age.
Same goes for hanging out at bars. I'll meet people at one but I'm ready to leave after one Coke. Never stay more than an hour. Side note: isn't it funny how I'm satisfied with one Coke when before, 12 beers wasn't enough? How did I drink that much liquid?!
More power to the people who dance until their feet hurt but I hung up my dancing shoes when I stopped drinking. A very minor exchange to get my sanity back!
Another side note: I was the one dancing wildly until my feet hurt. Then the next day I'd be in my bed sick and shaking. What a life that was.
I am content with the fact that I am a shy, non-dancing, non-singer.
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Originally Posted by MelindaFlowers
I envy the sober people who find more joy in dancing now that they're sober. I'm two years sober and solid in my sobriety but I can't picture myself ever dancing again. I did karaoke sober one time at the cajoling of my friends and it will be the last.
I see dancing and karaoke as two things that I did in the past (drunk) but will probably never do again. I'm okay with this. You don't see many people skateboarding in their 40's. It's something they used to do but stopped with age.
Same goes for hanging out at bars. I'll meet people at one but I'm ready to leave after one Coke. Never stay more than an hour. Side note: isn't it funny how I'm satisfied with one Coke when before, 12 beers wasn't enough? How did I drink that much liquid?!
More power to the people who dance until their feet hurt but I hung up my dancing shoes when I stopped drinking. A very minor exchange to get my sanity back!
Another side note: I was the one dancing wildly until my feet hurt. Then the next day I'd be in my bed sick and shaking. What a life that was.
I am content with the fact that I am a shy, non-dancing, non-singer.
I see dancing and karaoke as two things that I did in the past (drunk) but will probably never do again. I'm okay with this. You don't see many people skateboarding in their 40's. It's something they used to do but stopped with age.
Same goes for hanging out at bars. I'll meet people at one but I'm ready to leave after one Coke. Never stay more than an hour. Side note: isn't it funny how I'm satisfied with one Coke when before, 12 beers wasn't enough? How did I drink that much liquid?!
More power to the people who dance until their feet hurt but I hung up my dancing shoes when I stopped drinking. A very minor exchange to get my sanity back!
Another side note: I was the one dancing wildly until my feet hurt. Then the next day I'd be in my bed sick and shaking. What a life that was.
I am content with the fact that I am a shy, non-dancing, non-singer.
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