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Mountainmanbob 06-26-2016 07:02 AM

Drunks remind me of me
 
I don't do it often but, when I hang around people drinking to even a slight excess I seem to get bored with the atmosphere very quickly. Thus unless it's a very important event such as my daughters wedding reception etc etc I prefer not to go.

I use to drink a lot with my neighbor next door on his back porch. Now occasionally I hear the guys over there drinking with their loud mouths just a flapping with no where to go. They are average guys but, when they get to drinking they think of themselves as mighty great in their own minds.

Kind of remind me of me in my old drinking days.

MB

hypochondriac 06-26-2016 07:10 AM

I can't cope with it anymore either MB. For some reason in early sobriety I thought it was really important to be able to sit in the pub sober with friends who were drinking. I did it fine but man it got old quick. Drunk people are dull. I hardly ever hang out in drinking places now. I play gigs in pubs sometimes but the band are always sober (enough anyway), and my partner works in a pub so he is even less likely than me to wanna hang out in one. Absolutely no one's personality improves with alcohol.

Soberwolf 06-26-2016 08:36 AM

Glad them days are behind us both

Mountainmanbob 06-26-2016 09:11 AM


Originally Posted by Soberwolf (Post 6016403)
Glad them days are behind us both

No reason to hang out in a barber shop

unless we want to get a haircut.

A nice sober day wished for all,
Bob

least 06-26-2016 09:40 AM

I hardly ever go anywhere so don't see too many drunks. But my neighbors across the street like to congregate on their front porch drinking beer and getting louder and louder. :scorebad

Makes me think of the bad ol' days when I'd be drinking all day... :(

Ambuler 06-26-2016 09:48 AM

This post just made me realize the reason behind my husband's blank stare/"Would you just shut up?" face when I would get on one of my wine-fueled monologues on world events and the like...Hmmm I thought I sounded brilliant. Guess not :a090:

MIRecovery 06-26-2016 09:50 AM

I seem to be hyper sensitive to people that are drinking. I like or even dislike people just the way that are. What I really have a problem with are the people I like sober who get obnoxious after a few drinks. I agree with others alcohol does not help anyone's personality.

It still makes me cringe a bit thinking I was that person for a lot of years

entropy1964 06-26-2016 09:59 AM

I've never really hung out with hardcore drunks...ironic :) Aside from very sloppy drunk people that have lost all ability to read social queues (like shut up or get away from me) I find people that are drinking and having fun to be funny. Even funnier when I'm sober because I can just sit there and giggle....and feel really glad that I'm not at the center of it. I dunno, doesn't bother me. But again, I don't really have interaction with heavy drinkers. And if I could get silly drunk every once in a while and not have it ruin my life? I'd do it. So I don't judge.

TheEnd 06-26-2016 11:42 AM


Originally Posted by Frickaflip233 (Post 6016560)
I've never really hung out with hardcore drunks...ironic :) Aside from very sloppy drunk people that have lost all ability to read social queues (like shut up or get away from me) I find people that are drinking and having fun to be funny. Even funnier when I'm sober because I can just sit there and giggle....and feel really glad that I'm not at the center of it. I dunno, doesn't bother me. But again, I don't really have interaction with heavy drinkers. And if I could get silly drunk every once in a while and not have it ruin my life? I'd do it. So I don't judge.

I have actually had the same experience. Sloppy drunks are just annoying especially when they get in that "I love you man" mood, but a few buzzed or slightly intoxicated people at a party can actually liven things up and can make it a fun atmosphere.

zjw 06-26-2016 02:14 PM

id unno if it reminds me of my olden days but the few times i was aorund it i found there behaivior obnoxious annoying and rude. I thought ugg I think i was just like that at one time ::Facepalm:: why didnt someone point it otu to me then it hink people probably did but then gave up trying after a while.

i just cant stomach being around it anymore. lucky for me its rare i'm around that sort of thing.

Mountainmanbob 06-26-2016 04:11 PM


Originally Posted by TheEnd (Post 6016647)

Sloppy drunks are just annoying especially when they get in that "I love you man"

Reminds me of a time a while back when my drinking close to drunk neighbor and I had an argument. Right after the argument he wanted to give me a man hug. Honestly, l could have lived on very well without it.

At times it's just the booze talking
or the booze hugging.

MB

Mountainmanbob 09-27-2016 09:08 AM

I was fourturnate and never ended up living on the streets as a homeless drunk. Yet, when I often see them I think to myself -- they remind me of me back in my drinking days.

For the drunk drinking in the highest of places or the drunk drinking in the lowest of places makes not much difference. Both will be saddened in time.

M-Bob

Darwinia 09-27-2016 09:24 AM

All I think when I see a boozy party is how I miss it. I know my drinking days are over but unfortunately I will always wish it was not.

ScottFromWI 09-27-2016 10:12 AM


Originally Posted by Darwinia (Post 6151014)
All I think when I see a boozy party is how I miss it. I know my drinking days are over but unfortunately I will always wish it was not.

I think we all remember the "good" times we had when we were drinking because we all did for a period of time. However, our addiction conveniently forgets the bad parts - the hangovers, the drunk texting/facebook messaging, waking up and not remembering what you did or who you did it with, all that other stuff. We cannot have one without the other as alcoholics..it's a package deal.

AucklandAddict 09-27-2016 02:04 PM

It's a lot to do with the amount of drink in a person, not just the presence of drink. Don't forget there's a lot of people out there who can drink socially, who actually only have one or two to take the edge off, and typically loosen up a little and ARE a bit more fun/socially relaxed.

Drunks are bores, introverts coming out of their shells a wee bit is typically entertaining and informative.

SnazzyDresser 09-27-2016 02:38 PM


Originally Posted by Darwinia (Post 6151014)
All I think when I see a boozy party is how I miss it. I know my drinking days are over but unfortunately I will always wish it was not.

It never ceases to boggle my mind how you're still so nostalgic about this poison and the life you had with it.

Mountainmanbob 09-27-2016 02:39 PM

I was speaking of Alcoholics. For these ones one or two or a few drinks is never enough. Many will drink morning noon and night. Not a fun thing to watch or be involved in.
Mountainman

kittycat3 09-27-2016 05:26 PM


Originally Posted by Darwinia (Post 6151014)
All I think when I see a boozy party is how I miss it. I know my drinking days are over but unfortunately I will always wish it was not.

This seems like dangerous thinking Darwinia. I know for me this is not true. Drinking used to be fun, until it wasn't. Nobody would be here on SR if drinking didn't cause them some kind of heartache.

Mountainmanbob 09-27-2016 05:55 PM


Originally Posted by kittycat3 (Post 6151445)
Nobody would be here on SR if drinking didn't cause them some kind of heartache.

That's true for me. Much heartache for myself and the ones close to me.

Actually, I have not even once entertained the thought of drinking since I took my last drink coming up on 9 years ago now. My last two outings were horrendous. I ended up in trouble with everyone, wife, family, friends, neighbors and even once again with the judge.

I will never forget the burn.

M-Bob

BrendaChenowyth 09-29-2016 12:27 PM

Thread title made me chuckle.. because as I said in a recent thread of my own, I had to go to a wedding reception.. We left after dinner and before cake (my date was 90) but by then a couple of her nephews were definitely inebriated. She said to me as soon as we got in the car: "Why do all these men come up to me and kiss me? Do they think I'm gonna go with them???" They are all somehow married in to the family, of which she is the matriarch,but she is legally blind and has Alzheimer's so they could have been anybody!!! Even she had a glass of wine, but I actually did not feel left out at all. Just bemused, wondering if I ever sounded like those guys...


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