Social Anxiety Any advise on how to deal with social anxiety? This was never a issue until I got sober and I'm feeling pretty isolated. Every time I meet new people I get pretty quiet. I still don't feel comfortable in my own skin and I've been sober 702 days. Any advice will be helpful |
I'm naturally pretty shy and introverted around new people, but I've gotten a lot better at it because my job is such that I'm meeting new people all the time. In other words I get a lot of practice :) Did you ever think about trying Meetup? My roommate is always trying to get me to join one of those groups. I tell her I get more than enough social interaction at work, lol. |
I think most of us struggle with being social after we get sober. If I'm honest tho, I was always socially anxious - that's one of the reasons I drank. Whether that was the case with you or not, give it a little time. Sociability is a skill like anything else. It's not a skill I'm great at but I can muddle through now. I accept that I yam what I yam :) D |
Originally Posted by Dee74
(Post 6010220)
I think most of us struggle with being social after we get sober. If I'm honest tho, I was always socially anxious - that's one of the reasons I drank. |
I can relate with everything you said. I remember the first AA meeting I chaired and I was terrified. I was on anti depressants at the time. I don't think I could do it now |
I've never heard of Meetup |
What seems to work for me is to just practice, practice, practice. |
I think its ok to be introverted. I have learned that if I'm feeling quiet in a social setting, I just show interest in others. Ask them questions and let them do the talking. People love to talk about themselves, I like to listen. Win win. And I try to show more interest in them which takes the focus off me. Think less about me and how I'm being perceived and more about them. Accepting me as I am and not worrying about what others think of me helps. |
Still a work in progress. I've had times in sobriety where my social anxiety was practically non existent, and I've had times where it hasn't been this high since middle school. When I am able to let go of the self-centered fear, I am much more calm and relaxed and then socializing almost becomes natural. When I say something wrong, I try to let it go and not make the same mistake next time. The more authentic I allow myself to be, the easier it gets. |
Be easy with yourself, rebuilding out self confidence, self worth, and our place in the world can take time after getting sober. Anxiety is one of the things that I have had to accept and deal with since getting sober. I have found the more I work on my recovery, the more sure I am of myself and the more I am able to handle my anxiety. I have also found working out, meditation, and practicing different breathing exersices has really helped. Counseling and medication have also really helped me. |
I think it's just important to be yourself. For me, it was hard but once I realized that I am happy with myself people that you want in will be there for you. |
I'm introverted and have a tendency to isolate. What helps me is to strike something up with people when I'm out in public. Mostly in grocery stores. It could be a question or commenting on something, giving a compliment. I'm surprised at how many people are responsive, welcome it and love the smiles and a bit of attention, they could be lonely. |
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