Bailey3

Sleepie, I had a physically, verbally and, emotionally abusive father. He was an alcoholic also. Took a few beatings growing up myself.

I walked away from him at the age of 21. Im now 55 and he's dead. Im learning that I need that I need to forgive him. Even in his death. Not for his sake but, for mine. For my sanity and peace of mind.

What you do is your decision. However, don't let your parents transgressions against you forever rule your life.

Dee74

I'm glad you didn't drink Sleepie.

I do think maybe if you want a corner to yourself on days like this, maybe a blog entry might be better? That way noones experience will be invalidated.

It's kinda hard to express your thoughts on a 'parents based holiday' without others feeling you're passing judgement on their experiences.

'People don't have to read it' is true - but they do, and they will comment.

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sleepie

My experiences have been invalidated.

courage2

Let's not get in a fight about who invalidated whom. Instead, let's talk phenomenology ... literally, in the present time you have exactly as much of the entire world as anybody else. You may not think so, but your limits are those of perception, not reality.

I'm glad you didn't drink today! & I'll be glad again tomorrow!

sleepie

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Bailey3

No it hasn't. I empathize with your experience completely.

ScottFromWI

This is a forum based on support, not tearing each other down. You've made your point Sleepie and in light of the responses this thread is closed.