How do you recognize depression?
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What is NVLD? While not a widely recognized or understood diagnosis, experts believe that it stems from problems in functioning of the right hemisphere of the brain, often through trauma, such as birth trauma, tumors, or seizures. Sometimes there is no identified reason for right brain damage.
One of the most important functions of the right brain is to process emotional information.
One of the most important functions of the right brain is to process emotional information.
Does it make sense? My brain literally does not possess the physical matter required for this process. That is rather the definition of a disability.
And why I have so much trouble identifying depression... and why I often feel terrible but don't know why til days later if at all-after some interaction with someone who knows full well what they are doing.
Like I said before, I have been duped, mislead, lied to, cheated on... This condition has left me vulnerable to a great degree and I have paid for it. Of course I feel upset that nobody cared enough to address it when I was young.
That much I can identify. I am not wrong to feel this way.
I worked with a kid for a while who was diagnosed w/NVLD -- this was years ago. He couldn't read facial expressions or body language, so he reacted to people in ways that weren't appropriate to the way they engaged him. One of the things was he was very gullible. Probably made him very untrusting later in life, because he was often taken advantage of.
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No, you're not wrong. You have been through so much, and yet you are willing to do something about the on thing you can control. That takes courage, my friend, and nobody can take that away from you. I am sorry that you are feeling this way now. Have you talked to a doctor about medication? (I'm sorry if you already have answered this) I am taking anti depressants, and even though I'd prefer to be able to handle this by myself, I'm happy that the pills have made the bad times more bearable.
Be proud of who you are and what you are doing. I know I am.
Be proud of who you are and what you are doing. I know I am.
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Courage you knew someone from my planet?!
When I was in my 20's and dating an unconscionable sociopath- he looked at me one day and said "Sleepie, did you know the word gullible isn't in the dictionary?" and for a minute I was like "Really, wow why?"... it's rather crushing in hindsight and knowing this person he would not even care he was preying on someone with a disorder/disability. I mean I was a dummy as a kid that way too and my mother used to have a field day. Like trick me into a dark place in the house then run away and lock the door. She loved it.
But, this ain't the "sick mommy" thread.
Fabela I am feeling better about who I am. I am proud to be different Thank you Fabela But this is an emotional mess for me and I dunno what to do just exactly.
So in the meantime I am in Bed Island with Netflix and foods...
When I was in my 20's and dating an unconscionable sociopath- he looked at me one day and said "Sleepie, did you know the word gullible isn't in the dictionary?" and for a minute I was like "Really, wow why?"... it's rather crushing in hindsight and knowing this person he would not even care he was preying on someone with a disorder/disability. I mean I was a dummy as a kid that way too and my mother used to have a field day. Like trick me into a dark place in the house then run away and lock the door. She loved it.
But, this ain't the "sick mommy" thread.
Fabela I am feeling better about who I am. I am proud to be different Thank you Fabela But this is an emotional mess for me and I dunno what to do just exactly.
So in the meantime I am in Bed Island with Netflix and foods...
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drink a coffee too!
ups and downs and its good your recognizing all of this even tho its a pain to go through. Its going to make you a better person tho.
I got fooled by depression so many times cause it sneaks up on me. I finally started getting good at identifying what was going on and was able to nip in the bud in shorter and shorter time frames so i went from years of it to months to weeks to days to hours.
I gotta stay on my toes or i'll slip down the slipperly slope of despair pretty fast.
think about what your greatful for or something happy. Heck netflix and foods are good ideas too!
I saw ET is up on netflix gonna try and watch that with the kids myself.
ups and downs and its good your recognizing all of this even tho its a pain to go through. Its going to make you a better person tho.
I got fooled by depression so many times cause it sneaks up on me. I finally started getting good at identifying what was going on and was able to nip in the bud in shorter and shorter time frames so i went from years of it to months to weeks to days to hours.
I gotta stay on my toes or i'll slip down the slipperly slope of despair pretty fast.
think about what your greatful for or something happy. Heck netflix and foods are good ideas too!
I saw ET is up on netflix gonna try and watch that with the kids myself.
Drinking fueled my depression, anxiety and paranoia. I truly believe that my drinking was a slow form of suicide. I was so good at putting up a front, that nobody could see thru me (or even cared to look). Hell, I didn't realize myself how bad things got until I ended up in the ER, questioning my own sanity and thinking I was going to die. Point is, we never truly know what's going on in other people's heads until we get a taste of such things for ourselves, and even then can we ever truly know?
For me it is pretty easy although we all have what I call down days/blues, real depression for me goes like this....I am highly generic and always have lots to do including my woodworking business, when depressed I do not want to get out of bed and I start beating myself up for the past and traumatic events really start to drag me down, sometimes I will relive in a dream.
I am very thankful my better half is a Dr who suggested about a month ago I show all the signs of having Manic Bi Polar as she has witnessed first hand the emotional highs and then I crash. So now I am on what the call a mood stabilizer, side effects at first were unpleasant as the brain adjusts but I seem to have been doing fine.
I always encourage people to ask their doc for a mental health assessment, for me I have probably had this most of my life (after my own research, tests etc) and it was a great contributor to my becoming an alcoholic.
Wishing you the best
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I am very thankful my better half is a Dr who suggested about a month ago I show all the signs of having Manic Bi Polar as she has witnessed first hand the emotional highs and then I crash. So now I am on what the call a mood stabilizer, side effects at first were unpleasant as the brain adjusts but I seem to have been doing fine.
I always encourage people to ask their doc for a mental health assessment, for me I have probably had this most of my life (after my own research, tests etc) and it was a great contributor to my becoming an alcoholic.
Wishing you the best
Andrew
Sleepie,
I believe I suffer from some underlying constant form of depression/anxiety. I've come to realize that this is probably baseline for me and something I need to learn to live with. The first time I had major depression, I didn't realize it until years after the fact. I just didn't notice the gradual deterioration. I think it was situational for me as well, as in "who wouldn't be depressed if they found out their spouse was cheating?"
This last time it only took me a couple of years to notice (grimace).
I think you are on base with using your behavior as clues. It's one thing to take to bed island every now and again. But if it's constant and you can't picture actually doing anything else, that's probably a good indicator. I know you are wary of medication, but do encourage you to see the doctor about this. If that won't do, then I'd encourage forcing yourself to get to some place that will help - yoga, meeting, meditation group, something.
xo
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I believe I suffer from some underlying constant form of depression/anxiety. I've come to realize that this is probably baseline for me and something I need to learn to live with. The first time I had major depression, I didn't realize it until years after the fact. I just didn't notice the gradual deterioration. I think it was situational for me as well, as in "who wouldn't be depressed if they found out their spouse was cheating?"
This last time it only took me a couple of years to notice (grimace).
I think you are on base with using your behavior as clues. It's one thing to take to bed island every now and again. But if it's constant and you can't picture actually doing anything else, that's probably a good indicator. I know you are wary of medication, but do encourage you to see the doctor about this. If that won't do, then I'd encourage forcing yourself to get to some place that will help - yoga, meeting, meditation group, something.
xo
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