Sober and no friends!!!
Sober and no friends!!!
It's kinda funny, weird and sad that since I've been sober for 141 days that I have no friends. No-one calls me to hang out, no one comes over and I don't even get text anymore. The crazy part is....I need distance from those relationships and I'm happier without them in my life.
The part that grieves me is knowing how unhappy all of my drinking buddies really are. They're in the same pit of alcoholism I was in but I chose to climb out.
Either way, I'm happily married and have more time with my children now that I'm sober so life is good. Actually, life is great!!!
Stay sober...one day at a time!!! Keep Charging!!!
The part that grieves me is knowing how unhappy all of my drinking buddies really are. They're in the same pit of alcoholism I was in but I chose to climb out.
Either way, I'm happily married and have more time with my children now that I'm sober so life is good. Actually, life is great!!!
Stay sober...one day at a time!!! Keep Charging!!!
Congrats on 141 days! I thought I lost a lot of friends when I quit too, but in reality I just lost drinking buddies. I have also found that now that I've become more involved with my family and kids I am meeting lots and lots of people who are not drinkers, or that drinking has no bearing on the relationship. And like you I am also still saddened at times to remember how empty my life was before when the only thing that mattered was where the next beer was coming from. I feel bad for my old pals who are still in that mode.
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I'm in the same boat but with no wife/girlfriend. So I am still pretty much on my own. I would like a gal, but I am so irritated by the "game" of dating that I just don't want to bother right now. Trouble is I haven't totally accepted that in my head.
My 'friends' are still out there and I could go along but there's always beer involved so why torture myself.
I still haven't found anything outside of the home I'm interested in enough to do, so I haven't met any new friends yet. But I am hanging in there, almost 6 months now.
My 'friends' are still out there and I could go along but there's always beer involved so why torture myself.
I still haven't found anything outside of the home I'm interested in enough to do, so I haven't met any new friends yet. But I am hanging in there, almost 6 months now.
I'm in the same boat but with no wife/girlfriend. So I am still pretty much on my own. I would like a gal, but I am so irritated by the "game" of dating that I just don't want to bother right now. Trouble is I haven't totally accepted that in my head.
My 'friends' are still out there and I could go along but there's always beer involved so why torture myself.
I still haven't found anything outside of the home I'm interested in enough to do, so I haven't met any new friends yet. But I am hanging in there, almost 6 months now.
My 'friends' are still out there and I could go along but there's always beer involved so why torture myself.
I still haven't found anything outside of the home I'm interested in enough to do, so I haven't met any new friends yet. But I am hanging in there, almost 6 months now.
You need to find like minded people to hang out with....
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HI TP770, many years ago I was in a circle of friends that were not healthy. It had nothing to do with alcohol, but I knew I had to cut ties. For what its worth, I was "friendless" for 3 years. No wife, no family...just a job and a place to live.
Hope things are better on your end now!
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yeah i'd rather be sober and alone. I spent a ton of time alone for a while. I've finally managed to make a couple friends but there all online no one local.
and to be honest I dont think i could handle the drama of a bunch of diff friends anyhow.
Congrats on the 141 days thats awesome!
and to be honest I dont think i could handle the drama of a bunch of diff friends anyhow.
Congrats on the 141 days thats awesome!
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