How to stay sober?
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How to stay sober?
With a horrible job?
How do you do it?
I am treated like trash at this place.
It breaks me and kills my spirit.
I have to smile and serve and kiss the butts of entitled, privileged people... you know the type- 200 dollar yoga pants, i phone and a nose ring. They make me die inside. Because they are rude, entitled, mean and awful.
There's one special psychopath customer at my job who has singled me out and I cannot take it mentally. She has chosen me and complained about the craziest, nit picky things, I mean capital C R A Z Y pants is this lady... I have had enough abuse in life and cannot mentally take this... I greyed out at work today, everything just faded into the background and I was light headed... just couldn't believe this is my reality.
You would not believe the level of neuroticism and craziness I have to hear at work and how I have to coddle these people.
They make me lose my faith in humanity and I don't have a ton to begin with.
You know my situation regarding my grey matter... it isn't as simple as "get another job". It makes me so mad I have an unrecognized disorder and cannot get help. I can't live like this. It's not living.
Also due to my hours, I no longer get to see my friends, so I have zero social life now. And, I work on every day there isa group meditation in my city, which I was really hoping to get back into after things settled down with the benzo taper and some time off alcohol.
So things are very depressing.
How do you do it?
I am treated like trash at this place.
It breaks me and kills my spirit.
I have to smile and serve and kiss the butts of entitled, privileged people... you know the type- 200 dollar yoga pants, i phone and a nose ring. They make me die inside. Because they are rude, entitled, mean and awful.
There's one special psychopath customer at my job who has singled me out and I cannot take it mentally. She has chosen me and complained about the craziest, nit picky things, I mean capital C R A Z Y pants is this lady... I have had enough abuse in life and cannot mentally take this... I greyed out at work today, everything just faded into the background and I was light headed... just couldn't believe this is my reality.
You would not believe the level of neuroticism and craziness I have to hear at work and how I have to coddle these people.
They make me lose my faith in humanity and I don't have a ton to begin with.
You know my situation regarding my grey matter... it isn't as simple as "get another job". It makes me so mad I have an unrecognized disorder and cannot get help. I can't live like this. It's not living.
Also due to my hours, I no longer get to see my friends, so I have zero social life now. And, I work on every day there isa group meditation in my city, which I was really hoping to get back into after things settled down with the benzo taper and some time off alcohol.
So things are very depressing.
I hear ya sister.
I wish I had an answer for you. Other than you might have described me there sans nose ring :p
Remind yourself that they do not pay your bills nor do they determine your self worth. Only a person that feels bad about themselves feels it necessary to bring another down or tries to glorify themselves through trendy objects - because purchasing a personality works fantastically!
I know it sounds trite but let them be pretentious snots - if they were truly happy and satisfied they would not behave the way they do - and therein lies their secret. Misery loves company.
I wish I had an answer for you. Other than you might have described me there sans nose ring :p
Remind yourself that they do not pay your bills nor do they determine your self worth. Only a person that feels bad about themselves feels it necessary to bring another down or tries to glorify themselves through trendy objects - because purchasing a personality works fantastically!
I know it sounds trite but let them be pretentious snots - if they were truly happy and satisfied they would not behave the way they do - and therein lies their secret. Misery loves company.
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Oh, I don't believe for a minute any of them feels bad about themselves. I have been tormented by the entitled in life my entire working life. I know it stems from them getting everything they ever wanted and simply being in an "I deserve" frame of mind. The level of entitlement just astounds me. Just... astounds me.
Funny thing... if any of them actually practiced yoga they probably wouldn't act like such abominations to humanity. Because yoga is not about designer pants or rock hard abs. It's a practice and a philosophy.
Stupid consumer sheep.
Funny thing... if any of them actually practiced yoga they probably wouldn't act like such abominations to humanity. Because yoga is not about designer pants or rock hard abs. It's a practice and a philosophy.
Stupid consumer sheep.
Yoga pants don't really work well for yoga...most of them get transparent in the backside from what I've noticed. If a lady is in yoga pants I agree completely that they are most likely not actually doing any form of yoga.
You cannot change them though, you can only change yourself and your reaction to them (I am full of trite tonight :/ ) but I am quite serious.
You cannot change them though, you can only change yourself and your reaction to them (I am full of trite tonight :/ ) but I am quite serious.
What I'm saying is don't let these people who you only share moments in time with determine your outlook on everything. They dictate only that spot they briefly have with you during your interactions with them and then they are gone. They don't deserve the power to dictate whether Sleepie feels good or feels like utter crap at the end of the day.
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these people who you only share moments in time with
What really pains me too is that she is going to get her wishes. I have been instructed to go out of my way to be even more polite to her than I already am. I was doing everything above and beyond to try and make up for someone else's screw up and now she has chosen me instead of the person who screwed up to take it out on.
So anyway she is going to get the validation at the expense of my self esteem. She gets to complain and make one of the "little people" in her day dance and smile. That's what psychopaths do.
It's also very, for lack of a better word- triggering. I was made to smile in the face of abuse all growing up. It makes me literally sick. I was nauseous and like I said, I kind of greyed out for awhile at work after all this was brought up.
My bf says to quit, that he'll take care of me. If I wanted to, that could be me in designer yoga pants and being ugly to people. He makes good money. I never would though. I just never ever would. I have lived on the other end of it for so long I almost don't even want to go out in life because I hate interfacing with people in customer service positions, I feel so guilty because they are horrible jobs and I don't want to bother them. This also triggers all my horrible past experiences and abuses from people and I want to just become a shut in and never see another human face ever ever ever.
Damn Kallista, you wear $200 yoga pants?? Ha
Sleepie, I feel for you I really do. I am someone who can completely relate to you regarding 'the struggle' in the work world. And I'm sure you're going to hear a lot of responses from others who also relate exactly how you feel. The few people who are independently wealthy or own their own businesses, etc will probably not be able to relate.
I have a four-year college degree from a really good school and I have basically nothing to show for it. I have really never worked to my potential probably because of my addiction, and have always had jobs that serve wealthy clientele, many of whom acted as though they were superior beings to me. It bothered me immensely, and I in turn drank alcohol to deal with the fact that I couldn't stand going to work for these people every day. The problem is it backfired, because I'm ended up missing or performing poorly and then giving them a reason to treat me badly and eventually fire me.
Please don't give them the satisfaction of letting you destroy yourself because of their a-hole behavior. Believe me, I had so many days that I wanted to drink myself into oblivion bc everything looked so bleak and miserable. This is just a bad moment, this isn't forever and you are just as valuable as anyone of those yoga pants wearing, iPhone having, nose ring wearing people.
You made a great point about yoga also. I used to teach yoga and I've been meaning to get back into it. I am not a typical Yogi, who takes herself really seriously in acts pretentious. A lot of people have yoga confused with a pose-off to prove how fit they are instead of thinking about the spiritual aspects of it. Yoga is NOT supposed to be about showing off your Lululemon outfits and ripped abs! I see you should get to taking some yoga classes and some meditation to help yourself and I might do the same!! Then yell "Namaste b****s!!" before running out of the room!
Well, maybe don't do the last part, but it would feel really good I bet!!!
Sleepie, I feel for you I really do. I am someone who can completely relate to you regarding 'the struggle' in the work world. And I'm sure you're going to hear a lot of responses from others who also relate exactly how you feel. The few people who are independently wealthy or own their own businesses, etc will probably not be able to relate.
I have a four-year college degree from a really good school and I have basically nothing to show for it. I have really never worked to my potential probably because of my addiction, and have always had jobs that serve wealthy clientele, many of whom acted as though they were superior beings to me. It bothered me immensely, and I in turn drank alcohol to deal with the fact that I couldn't stand going to work for these people every day. The problem is it backfired, because I'm ended up missing or performing poorly and then giving them a reason to treat me badly and eventually fire me.
Please don't give them the satisfaction of letting you destroy yourself because of their a-hole behavior. Believe me, I had so many days that I wanted to drink myself into oblivion bc everything looked so bleak and miserable. This is just a bad moment, this isn't forever and you are just as valuable as anyone of those yoga pants wearing, iPhone having, nose ring wearing people.
You made a great point about yoga also. I used to teach yoga and I've been meaning to get back into it. I am not a typical Yogi, who takes herself really seriously in acts pretentious. A lot of people have yoga confused with a pose-off to prove how fit they are instead of thinking about the spiritual aspects of it. Yoga is NOT supposed to be about showing off your Lululemon outfits and ripped abs! I see you should get to taking some yoga classes and some meditation to help yourself and I might do the same!! Then yell "Namaste b****s!!" before running out of the room!
Well, maybe don't do the last part, but it would feel really good I bet!!!
You say it yourself - they are customers. They are not friends, aunts, hot guys you have a crush on, the person on the phone at midnight - they are random tools that pay for a service and go about their day. They are fleeting...even if they come back, it's only for a minute for them to be insensitive jerks and move on with their lives. Unfortunately a price cannot be out on human decency.
You are thinking very poorly of yourself through their eyes - like you are assuming they are judging you to be less than they - and that may or may not be true by their behavior but it's ultimately VERY untrue in reality because you are less than no one.
Do you think at the end of the day they are thinking about the girl in the shop? So why is the girl in the shop thinking about them and being down and out about it.
It's disappointing that your current schedule is causing you to miss something that you greatly enjoy, but is it not only temporary? Will your schedule not change again to give you more freedom to enjoy things that you like? Perhaps with the current schedule it's just a matter of biding your time, albeit what seems to be a very unhappy time, until it shifts again?
I can't speak on taking your boyfriend up on his offer but I do wonder whether you have a fear of putting some feelers out for other avenues of employment because you feel you will not be up to par so to speak and whether or not you're holding yourself back with this.
You are thinking very poorly of yourself through their eyes - like you are assuming they are judging you to be less than they - and that may or may not be true by their behavior but it's ultimately VERY untrue in reality because you are less than no one.
Do you think at the end of the day they are thinking about the girl in the shop? So why is the girl in the shop thinking about them and being down and out about it.
It's disappointing that your current schedule is causing you to miss something that you greatly enjoy, but is it not only temporary? Will your schedule not change again to give you more freedom to enjoy things that you like? Perhaps with the current schedule it's just a matter of biding your time, albeit what seems to be a very unhappy time, until it shifts again?
I can't speak on taking your boyfriend up on his offer but I do wonder whether you have a fear of putting some feelers out for other avenues of employment because you feel you will not be up to par so to speak and whether or not you're holding yourself back with this.
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With a horrible job?
How do you do it?
I am treated like trash at this place.
It breaks me and kills my spirit.
I have to smile and serve and kiss the butts of entitled, privileged people... you know the type- 200 dollar yoga pants, i phone and a nose ring. They make me die inside. Because they are rude, entitled, mean and awful.
There's one special psychopath customer at my job who has singled me out and I cannot take it mentally. She has chosen me and complained about the craziest, nit picky things, I mean capital C R A Z Y pants is this lady... I have had enough abuse in life and cannot mentally take this... I greyed out at work today, everything just faded into the background and I was light headed... just couldn't believe this is my reality.
You would not believe the level of neuroticism and craziness I have to hear at work and how I have to coddle these people.
They make me lose my faith in humanity and I don't have a ton to begin with.
You know my situation regarding my grey matter... it isn't as simple as "get another job". It makes me so mad I have an unrecognized disorder and cannot get help. I can't live like this. It's not living.
Also due to my hours, I no longer get to see my friends, so I have zero social life now. And, I work on every day there isa group meditation in my city, which I was really hoping to get back into after things settled down with the benzo taper and some time off alcohol.
So things are very depressing.
How do you do it?
I am treated like trash at this place.
It breaks me and kills my spirit.
I have to smile and serve and kiss the butts of entitled, privileged people... you know the type- 200 dollar yoga pants, i phone and a nose ring. They make me die inside. Because they are rude, entitled, mean and awful.
There's one special psychopath customer at my job who has singled me out and I cannot take it mentally. She has chosen me and complained about the craziest, nit picky things, I mean capital C R A Z Y pants is this lady... I have had enough abuse in life and cannot mentally take this... I greyed out at work today, everything just faded into the background and I was light headed... just couldn't believe this is my reality.
You would not believe the level of neuroticism and craziness I have to hear at work and how I have to coddle these people.
They make me lose my faith in humanity and I don't have a ton to begin with.
You know my situation regarding my grey matter... it isn't as simple as "get another job". It makes me so mad I have an unrecognized disorder and cannot get help. I can't live like this. It's not living.
Also due to my hours, I no longer get to see my friends, so I have zero social life now. And, I work on every day there isa group meditation in my city, which I was really hoping to get back into after things settled down with the benzo taper and some time off alcohol.
So things are very depressing.
I feel your pain my friend... I hope you can make a plan to get out of there...
Wait, what? Your bf will take care of you?? Well at least you have that option! But seriously good for you for staying a working woman with a purpose. I'd probably be like all right, I'm down to be a stay-at-home girlfriend in my Lululemon yoga pants! Ha
May I ask what you do for a living, Sleepie (you don't have to tell me if you don't want)?
I noticed that both Kallista and I used the term 'moment' to describe where you are right now and I find that interesting. If we all think of it in terms of just moments and not forever, I can take some of the sting away from crap we're dealing with at times.
May I ask what you do for a living, Sleepie (you don't have to tell me if you don't want)?
I noticed that both Kallista and I used the term 'moment' to describe where you are right now and I find that interesting. If we all think of it in terms of just moments and not forever, I can take some of the sting away from crap we're dealing with at times.
Damn Kallista, you wear $200 yoga pants?? Ha
Sleepie, I feel for you I really do. I am someone who can completely relate to you regarding 'the struggle' in the work world. And I'm sure you're going to hear a lot of responses from others who also relate exactly how you feel. The few people who are independently wealthy or own their own businesses, etc will probably not be able to relate.
I have a four-year college degree from a really good school and I have basically nothing to show for it. I have really never worked to my potential probably because of my addiction, and have always had jobs that serve wealthy clientele, many of whom acted as though they were superior beings to me. It bothered me immensely, and I in turn drank alcohol to deal with the fact that I couldn't stand going to work for these people every day. The problem is it backfired, because I'm ended up missing or performing poorly and then giving them a reason to treat me badly and eventually fire me.
Please don't give them the satisfaction of letting you destroy yourself because of their a-hole behavior. Believe me, I had so many days that I wanted to drink myself into oblivion bc everything looked so bleak and miserable. This is just a bad moment, this isn't forever and you are just as valuable as anyone of those yoga pants wearing, iPhone having, nose ring wearing people.
You made a great point about yoga also. I used to teach yoga and I've been meaning to get back into it. I am not a typical Yogi, who takes herself really seriously in acts pretentious. A lot of people have yoga confused with a pose-off to prove how fit they are instead of thinking about the spiritual aspects of it. Yoga is NOT supposed to be about showing off your Lululemon outfits and ripped abs! I see you should get to taking some yoga classes and some meditation to help yourself and I might do the same!! Then yell "Namaste b****s!!" before running out of the room!
Well, maybe don't do the last part, but it would feel really good I bet!!!
Sleepie, I feel for you I really do. I am someone who can completely relate to you regarding 'the struggle' in the work world. And I'm sure you're going to hear a lot of responses from others who also relate exactly how you feel. The few people who are independently wealthy or own their own businesses, etc will probably not be able to relate.
I have a four-year college degree from a really good school and I have basically nothing to show for it. I have really never worked to my potential probably because of my addiction, and have always had jobs that serve wealthy clientele, many of whom acted as though they were superior beings to me. It bothered me immensely, and I in turn drank alcohol to deal with the fact that I couldn't stand going to work for these people every day. The problem is it backfired, because I'm ended up missing or performing poorly and then giving them a reason to treat me badly and eventually fire me.
Please don't give them the satisfaction of letting you destroy yourself because of their a-hole behavior. Believe me, I had so many days that I wanted to drink myself into oblivion bc everything looked so bleak and miserable. This is just a bad moment, this isn't forever and you are just as valuable as anyone of those yoga pants wearing, iPhone having, nose ring wearing people.
You made a great point about yoga also. I used to teach yoga and I've been meaning to get back into it. I am not a typical Yogi, who takes herself really seriously in acts pretentious. A lot of people have yoga confused with a pose-off to prove how fit they are instead of thinking about the spiritual aspects of it. Yoga is NOT supposed to be about showing off your Lululemon outfits and ripped abs! I see you should get to taking some yoga classes and some meditation to help yourself and I might do the same!! Then yell "Namaste b****s!!" before running out of the room!
Well, maybe don't do the last part, but it would feel really good I bet!!!
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LOL Namaste mofo's!
That made me laugh...
Jobei I was actually thinking what else could I do to deal with all this... not drinking but maybe some other drug... that's bad.
Ugh this woman is really thinking of the girl at the shop! As ridiculous as it is. I swear this is just how my psycho mother used to be I mean she would really hone her knives for a person in her day when she singled them out it could go on for weeks, months, she would just set out to destroy that person. This woman makes me go cold, I can tell she is cut from that same cloth. Kallistia I am willing to bet you are not a psycho so you may not understand this, nor should you, only the unfortunates who have witnessed this close up will know the type!
That made me laugh...
Jobei I was actually thinking what else could I do to deal with all this... not drinking but maybe some other drug... that's bad.
Ugh this woman is really thinking of the girl at the shop! As ridiculous as it is. I swear this is just how my psycho mother used to be I mean she would really hone her knives for a person in her day when she singled them out it could go on for weeks, months, she would just set out to destroy that person. This woman makes me go cold, I can tell she is cut from that same cloth. Kallistia I am willing to bet you are not a psycho so you may not understand this, nor should you, only the unfortunates who have witnessed this close up will know the type!
No...but I do wear yoga pants on occasion and have some piercings and...well I'm typing this on a iPhone. Namaste -----! I like that And lululemons are see through in the backside if you bend just right!! It took me a couple of days to realize why the men were staring at me (for a moment there I just thought they thought I was a hottie )
I think we've got a little yoga group together here...I'm sensing a kinship with you ladies. Maybe we need to get together and do some kind of virtual yoga/ meditation. We can call it,
"Namaste ----!"
Hahaha!! Maybe they thought you were a hottie too! I've been known to wear yoga pants around, and plenty of times when not teaching/taking yoga! It is frightening when it gets threadbare at the bottom, and you know your cheeks are shining through along with whatever thong you have on or other undergarments!
I think we've got a little yoga group together here...I'm sensing a kinship with you ladies. Maybe we need to get together and do some kind of virtual yoga/ meditation!
I think we've got a little yoga group together here...I'm sensing a kinship with you ladies. Maybe we need to get together and do some kind of virtual yoga/ meditation!
I work in a profession that tends to bring out the very best and very worst of people we deal with. Indeed sometimes openly abusive.
If there's one thing we all had to learn is: IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU. DON'T TAKE IT PERSONALLY. We are pretty much able to laugh off the poor behavior either to ourselves and with each other.
Holly.🎋
If there's one thing we all had to learn is: IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU. DON'T TAKE IT PERSONALLY. We are pretty much able to laugh off the poor behavior either to ourselves and with each other.
Holly.🎋
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