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Old 04-20-2016, 01:36 PM
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I'm very sorry for your loss, Tonesward. Drinking won't help you with this loss ... lean on us. Grief is very hard but it won't be more than you can bear ... you will get through it.
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Old 04-20-2016, 01:59 PM
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Tonesward.....that's really below the belt. I am really sorry! Please just try and stay strong and focused no matter how hard it gets. Keep posting, good luck buddy.
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Old 04-20-2016, 03:20 PM
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Prayers for you & your family to be comforted, Tonesward. I'm sorry for the painful time you're going through.
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Old 04-20-2016, 08:48 PM
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Dear tone, I'm sorry about your Dad

I'm sure he would be proud of you for being strong in your sobriety
during such a difficult time.
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Old 04-23-2016, 11:15 PM
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Sorry for your father. Congrats on 72 days.
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Old 05-12-2016, 07:30 AM
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coming off an 11 day bender after 83 days sober

Today is day 1 again
weathered lots of storms in my 83 day voyage but lost it when the divorce papers came
But i know i need to be sober and so now I start again
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Old 05-12-2016, 07:51 AM
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Appreciate your sad circumstances but on the twelfth day of my having stopped drinking I wanted to drink because it was raining or it was too hot in the sunshine, I can't remember. But I didn't. In the twelfth year of my having stopped drinking I wanted to drink because I was arrogant enough to believe I was OK. So I had one. Compared to those twelve years, by great distance the best of my life, the next ten turned out to be the worst. That hell of ten years came to an end two years ago and I have regained the contentment I had in the sobriety of the twelve. Believe that one day that the option of having a drink recedes in your consciousness in the meantime talk to people who understand and then talk some more. By helping yourself this way you're also helping them. Things can never be so bad that they cannot be made worse by having a drink
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Old 05-12-2016, 10:29 AM
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I'm so glad you came back, tonesward. You had 83 days, so you know you can do this. We are here for you.
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Old 05-12-2016, 10:58 AM
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I'm so sorry about the divorce. Been there. That was 12 years ago and I was in AA at the time. I don't regret being sober through the divorce. It actually made things much easier for me. Hang in there.
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Old 05-12-2016, 11:58 AM
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Old 05-12-2016, 12:34 PM
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Good job making a day 1
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Old 05-12-2016, 03:22 PM
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Gee, you've had a rough trot tonesward- glad to see you back here tho

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Old 05-12-2016, 06:09 PM
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Sorry to hear that you're going through a rough time at the moment tonesward but like you I have only just joined SR and already it seems like a great place to get support. Wishing you all the very best.
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Old 05-12-2016, 09:05 PM
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Old 06-11-2019, 02:22 AM
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Please help me to heal

Please help
I am drinking nearly a bottle of vodka a day
I'm 51 and I think i will die very soon if I don't stop but every day I go through the same cycle of shame, resolution to stop, trigger, purchase, consumption and black out
I'm reaching out. I want to stop. I need some help to get through one day sober.
thank you
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Old 06-11-2019, 02:47 AM
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I'm sorry to hear you're still struggling tonesward.
Of course you'll find support here

Have you considered things like AA yet?

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Old 06-11-2019, 06:32 AM
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Old 06-11-2019, 10:03 AM
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Tonesward,

I’m at day 38. I know NOTHING except that time and distance from your last drink are miracle workers. Don’t overthink it. Don’t worry about tomorrow, or even an hour from now. Don’t stress over sobriety success. Don’t batter yourself. Make it as simple as possible.

Just think: I will not drink right now.

Not you cannot, but you will not. Give yourself that painful gift that will reward you in time.
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Old 06-11-2019, 10:08 AM
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Call the AA helpline.
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Old 06-11-2019, 10:08 AM
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Originally Posted by tonesward View Post
Please help
I am drinking nearly a bottle of vodka a day
I'm 51 and I think i will die very soon if I don't stop but every day I go through the same cycle of shame, resolution to stop, trigger, purchase, consumption and black out
I'm reaching out. I want to stop. I need some help to get through one day sober.
thank you
the stop smoking aid “chantix” helped me and others a lot. I don’t believe for a second I would’ve gotten through those first days without it. I’m not on it now, after 2 weeks, but I consider it a lifesaver. You can go to any doctor or urgent care and get a prescription for that. Do some research on Google. There are many studies that support chantix to help quitting. I said to the doctor I needed to quit smoking, I later admitted the truth. He said he has had many patients positively affected by chantix in regard to alcoholism. This is MY best advice, although perhaps listing medication is off rules? It shouldn’t be, though. There is science behind this, and this place is supposed to be for advice and help.
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