I'm not an alcoholic
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I didn't realize I was coming off as an angry a-hole. I was just trying to start up a discussion on apparently a topic that has been beaten to death already. I'm hoping sobriety lasts for me but the problem I have is that not many people know that I have a problem. However, I haven't had a very hard time saying no and have been to many dinner, lunch, special occasions where many are drinking and it hasn't bothered me nor has anyone pressured me. Hope all is well with everyone else.
just to put your mind at rest about the angry a-hole bit, Straightup:
i didn't see you that way at all.
what i saw was a guy with definite opinion and shutting out, pre-emptively, the opinions or experience of those he designated as "old farts".
as an older person, i find that offensive, but i wasn't personally offended.
i just put it down to a closed-minded young know-it-all who had no room for other opinions or curiosity about other views and experiences.
okay, Straightup, you don't know me, so you can't tell i'm being tongue-in-cheek here, and that's why i'm spelling it out.
you don't have to hope sobriety lasts for you.
it doesn't rest on hope.
it rests on work. which can take many different forms.
but that's just my old-fart experience
i didn't see you that way at all.
what i saw was a guy with definite opinion and shutting out, pre-emptively, the opinions or experience of those he designated as "old farts".
as an older person, i find that offensive, but i wasn't personally offended.
i just put it down to a closed-minded young know-it-all who had no room for other opinions or curiosity about other views and experiences.
okay, Straightup, you don't know me, so you can't tell i'm being tongue-in-cheek here, and that's why i'm spelling it out.
you don't have to hope sobriety lasts for you.
it doesn't rest on hope.
it rests on work. which can take many different forms.
but that's just my old-fart experience
Straightup,
I perceived it as you doing a dance in the endzone.
I totally get why there are penalties for that, but couldn't help but be happy for you even if I was rooting for the other team.
Seeing as we're all on the same team, really, it doesn't matter. We can laugh about your arrogance over coffee.
I perceived it as you doing a dance in the endzone.
I totally get why there are penalties for that, but couldn't help but be happy for you even if I was rooting for the other team.
Seeing as we're all on the same team, really, it doesn't matter. We can laugh about your arrogance over coffee.
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Well yes I am. But I came up with a new thought process to help feel better about my "new" self. I believe I wasn't born an alcoholic. I became an alcoholic after abusing it. When I first began drinking I wouldn't be considered an alcoholic. And now I don't drink anymore, so why label myself as an alcoholic. Alcoholics drink alcohol. I don't.
Best of luck.
--YA
Me too.
I could be a lot worse than an alcoholic.
Often I was,
Sometimes I still am.
That's progress for you.
That third tradition is so welcoming and inclusive.
Accepting.
There were times when tradition three was the only thing that allowed me to keep coming back.
I knew what I was.
That was obvious.
I just had trouble saying it.
Took a while to get honest.
These days it's a natural part of sharing in a meeting.
Keeps me honest.
For I am an alcoholic.
All the better for not drinking.
I could be a lot worse than an alcoholic.
Often I was,
Sometimes I still am.
That's progress for you.
That third tradition is so welcoming and inclusive.
Accepting.
There were times when tradition three was the only thing that allowed me to keep coming back.
I knew what I was.
That was obvious.
I just had trouble saying it.
Took a while to get honest.
These days it's a natural part of sharing in a meeting.
Keeps me honest.
For I am an alcoholic.
All the better for not drinking.
hate to contradict you here, but:
hope....i often gave up hope that i could do this.
and then hope crept back in.
hope that it was doable. i saw others had done it. were doing it. so, therefore, it was doable.
so yeah, hope has something to do with it. without hope, i wouldn't have taken a step towards it, over and over.
hope came before all the work
Right you are, fini! I was strictly talking about the fact that hope doesn't keep us sober. I was referring to your quote:
"you don't have to hope sobriety lasts for you.
it doesn't rest on hope.
it rests on work. which can take many different forms."
I don't wake up and hope I'll be sober today. It's an act of the will. It's a choice. In the beginning hope is what propelled us. Like you said...I saw people here that were sober and happy and confident that sobriety was their new norm. Now that I'm sober I know what it takes to stay this way and I no longer have to just hope. That hope has been fulfilled. I'm the mistress of my own destiny!
Xoxo
"you don't have to hope sobriety lasts for you.
it doesn't rest on hope.
it rests on work. which can take many different forms."
I don't wake up and hope I'll be sober today. It's an act of the will. It's a choice. In the beginning hope is what propelled us. Like you said...I saw people here that were sober and happy and confident that sobriety was their new norm. Now that I'm sober I know what it takes to stay this way and I no longer have to just hope. That hope has been fulfilled. I'm the mistress of my own destiny!
Xoxo
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