imjules

Hi, I'm new here. I've never been addicted to alcohol or drugs, and I can't even imagine how difficult it must be, but I have lost love and hope and parts of myself from loving others who have suffered. I've been trolling this page for a while for support while loving an alcoholic, and after a rough night last night I wrote this and wanted to share. Please know I'm not judging anyone at all, just giving a perspective from a loved one who would do absolutely anything to help. I wish love was enough. If love was enough, there would be no need for this page. I hope this can maybe help someone get a feel for what it is like to be on the other side of an alcoholic..
Alcohol is a thief. When you drink too much regularly, you are inviting this worthless liquid to enter your life and your loved one's lives. It has one goal: to suffocate any love, hope and joy there once was. .
Love is patient
Alcohol is demanding
Love is kind
Alcohol is extreme and mean
Love does not envy, or boast, is not proud
Alcohol takes away all kindness and humility
Love does not dishonor others, is not self-seeking
Alcohol dishonors everyone, is self-serving
Love is not easily angered, keeps no record of wrongs
Alcohol is fierce and will quickly lead to a record of wrongs
Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with truth
Alcohol is evil and a liar, delights in robbing everything good from your life and those who love you
Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes and always perseveres
Alcohol always neglects, always creates doubt with lies, creates hopelessness, and destroys every good thing in its path
Love never fails
Alcohol never fails either
Choose Love <3

ScottFromWI

Welcome to SR imjules. What you have written is so true. If you are looking for support please check out the friends and family forums here, you will find people there who have been through what you've been dealing with and "get it".

Dropsie

Imjules,

Thanks so much for this terrific post.

I am having a hard day today and seeing this glimpse from the other side is very helpful and very much appreciated.

I hope you are getting the help you need.

With love.

imjules

Thank you ScottFromWI. I have been receiving a lot of support from the friends and family forums here. I am grateful to have found SR.

imjules

Thank you Dropsie. I'm sorry you are having a hard day today. Please know the people who love you most want to help. Lean on them, it makes them still feel important to you. And be specific at what you need help with today. It is humble, not weak, to ask for help from those who love you. I hope you find some peace and strength today.

Dropsie

Thank you Imjules -- I am not good at asking for help, but you are spot on.

Dee74

Thank you for sharing that imjules and welcome to SR

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Berrybean

Hi Jules.

Glad you found your way here to SR, and are finding the F&F pages helpful.

Have you considered AlAnon as a support option locally? Sounds like things are tough at the moment

Jsbodhi

Thanks for the post xoxo

CountryChick

Thank you for posting imjules! I definitely needed to read this today!

tim68

That was great. Welcome and thank you.

mylifeismine

Thanks for your beautifully poetic description of a tragedy in
many lives.

SoberinSyracuse

Yes, alcohol is a thief. That's why I quit. But I don't care to focus too much on the affliction that used to torment to me. I'm too relieved, free, and happily re-engaged in life!!

Soberwolf

Excellent thread