42 days sober
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42 days sober
My sobriety date is November 1, 2015. Today I make 42 days sober. I have my green chip in my wallet. I could not have done this without AA and the help of my sponsor. I do not even think about drinking these days. I do admit I have been slacking a bit lately on meetings and prayers. I am not sure I am going to be one of these alcoholics who is 7 years sober and still going to meetings daily. I by no means discount the value of these. I am successfully working the steps with my sponsor and am now working 4 and 5. I have been through hell and back with my depression and many trials and errors on different meds. But I am super happy with my new job and am doing well in it. For the first time in years I feel I have a choice in whether I drink or not. I wish success to everyone who is fighting this battle. I hope you can find your way out like I did. One day at a time.
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There ought to be squares of time, as well, for reflection and/or petition to God, perusing and pastimes. When you generally recognize what's next on your timetable, you'll be more averse to have unmoving time to let your musings meander back to utilizing once more.
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Hi Violet,
sounds like you are having a classic AA recovery, and it is wonderful to hear.
For me step 5 was a major turning point. For one thing I had my first good night's sleep afterwards. It was such a relief to get all my secrets, things I did that I would rather forget. " Coming to his senses, he is revolted at certain episodes he vaguely remembers." These were not always criminal things, but they were things that betrayed my own values.
I really thought I was the worst person ever to come to AA. I never heard this stuff discussed at meetings, nor should it be. I felt alone and apart, even in the AA rooms. I did my fifth with my sponsor. We had done my fourth together the previous day. It worked out fine. One thing I discovered was that I was just an ordinary alcohlic that did ordinary alcoholic things. There is a whole lot more that came with it, but I'll leave that for you to discover, I don't want to spoil the surprise
One thing the book suggests is we think carefully before we chose the person who will hear our story. It makes suggestions on who it might be. Curiously, an AA member is not on that list, and there is no direction in the book about how to hear fifth. I was ok with my sponsor, I guess I was lucky. It is very important we pick the right person, one who will understand yet not judge. The wrong person can have a devastating effect.
Last year in one town, I took 5 people through the steps. 4 followed my suggestion of finding a minister of religion, who are specifically trained in this sort of thing. They came back delighted. The fifth guy, a very nice and earnest young man went to his sponsor from another fellowship, and came back badly damaged. His sponsor had judged him harshly, almost destroying him in the process.
In case you are wondering, I don't have to hear a good fifth step to know it has been taken. The change in the person is obvious. They positively glow sometimes. All the best,
sounds like you are having a classic AA recovery, and it is wonderful to hear.
For me step 5 was a major turning point. For one thing I had my first good night's sleep afterwards. It was such a relief to get all my secrets, things I did that I would rather forget. " Coming to his senses, he is revolted at certain episodes he vaguely remembers." These were not always criminal things, but they were things that betrayed my own values.
I really thought I was the worst person ever to come to AA. I never heard this stuff discussed at meetings, nor should it be. I felt alone and apart, even in the AA rooms. I did my fifth with my sponsor. We had done my fourth together the previous day. It worked out fine. One thing I discovered was that I was just an ordinary alcohlic that did ordinary alcoholic things. There is a whole lot more that came with it, but I'll leave that for you to discover, I don't want to spoil the surprise
One thing the book suggests is we think carefully before we chose the person who will hear our story. It makes suggestions on who it might be. Curiously, an AA member is not on that list, and there is no direction in the book about how to hear fifth. I was ok with my sponsor, I guess I was lucky. It is very important we pick the right person, one who will understand yet not judge. The wrong person can have a devastating effect.
Last year in one town, I took 5 people through the steps. 4 followed my suggestion of finding a minister of religion, who are specifically trained in this sort of thing. They came back delighted. The fifth guy, a very nice and earnest young man went to his sponsor from another fellowship, and came back badly damaged. His sponsor had judged him harshly, almost destroying him in the process.
In case you are wondering, I don't have to hear a good fifth step to know it has been taken. The change in the person is obvious. They positively glow sometimes. All the best,
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