Withdrawl for a heavy drinker
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Originally Posted by ScottFromWI 
Please keep in mind that you cannot "get him to change". He will need to change for himself, and the fact that he's back home drinking again is a pretty clear sign that he's not fully committed to change. It's hard to do I know but at some point you are going to need to let this whole situation go and focus on yourself. You will make yourself sick waiting and worrying about things that are completely beyond your control if you don't.
He's at his flat drinking because if he stops cold turkey he could suffer a dangerous withdrawal. His GP has him booked in for 11:40 tomorrow morning to see if he can get Librium. He's OD'd on Librium before so he's unsure if he'll be allowed it.
Hospital didn't keep him in, so I'm not sure what else he can do.
Believe me, I'm very much at the end of my tether with him. If he does start drinking heavily again, I'm just leaving him to it. Thanks for your advice, I do appreciate it.
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Have you considered stepping further back from the situation?
As long as people enable him to continue the drinking, it sounds like he will.
This must be extremely painful for you to witness.
Maybe both you and his mother should let him sort this out and not continue
to rescue him.
Sometimes people have to hit bottom before the real desire to quit begins to build.
If his ex monitored him before, his mom was bringing him booze, he maybe hasn't
had to be in charge of his own addiction management before.
Stepping back is scary because you care, but it could save his life--
Yes, there is risk, but he has to want to quit for himself.
And you are paying a big toll for his drinking. . .
As long as people enable him to continue the drinking, it sounds like he will.
This must be extremely painful for you to witness.
Maybe both you and his mother should let him sort this out and not continue
to rescue him.
Sometimes people have to hit bottom before the real desire to quit begins to build.
If his ex monitored him before, his mom was bringing him booze, he maybe hasn't
had to be in charge of his own addiction management before.
Stepping back is scary because you care, but it could save his life--
Yes, there is risk, but he has to want to quit for himself.
And you are paying a big toll for his drinking. . .
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My advice would be to extract yourself from the situation.......don't worry about him worry about you. And Scott's right if you hang in there you will hurt yourself......he's gotta care enough about himself to make the necessary changes.
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