Yankee73

Although I don't normally post (I mainly lurk & read) but, right now, it's a case of life happening to me all at once and I would appreciate a pep talk because I have zero outside support and I'm about to punch a nun.

My 4th crappy used car in less than 2 years is dying a rapid death from multiple ailments. I have to wait until November to get another one because I am in Chapter 7 and the bankruptcy must be discharged before I can get a loan. I have to commute almost 2 hours each day and I'm white-knuckling the damn steering wheel. Last night, the back of the driver's seat broke, the back won't stay up and it's like I'm driving around in a dentist's chair!

I need to move closer to work and every time I get the money together, I either need an expensive car repair or I need to buy another cheap, crappy used one, so the infinite commute to work continues.

I am dealing with an 81 year old baby who needs to be in a nursing home and who thinks I'm a slave, mule, chauffeur, spouse, mommy, social worker, bodyguard, therapist and garbage can.

Tonight, I am supposed to go to a company party where the alcohol will be flowing and everyone is a heavy drinker. Attendance is practically mandatory. I need to get out of this event because my mood stinks- I'm stressed, big time and just want to go home and curl up with a book and a cup of tea. The last time I attended the party, no one talked to me. I either got ignored, talked over or interrupted. Their topics of conversation are: beer, football, beer, mortgages, beer, hot chicks, beer, beer, beer.

So now that I got that out of my system (sorry for the vent, but I'm gonna pop), can anyone talk me down off the ledge and help me to get my damn head on straight??? Does anyone have any ideas of how I can get out of this party? I hate lying but I'm about to back out by faking sick.

happybeingme

Fake the sick. Stay in, read,, drink gallons of tea. You will survive. Also, do something about your parent. Set down some rules, tell them what you can and can't do, get your state's department of aging involved to see what they qualify for.
You will get through all this.

ScottFromWI

Just don't go to the party. People miss parties all the time, just say you aren't feeling well - because you aren't! There will be others that miss it too, just call and say you can't make it.

Holds1325

Is there any problem with just saying you can't be there?

I have this dinner that I needed to attend on Wednesday and I know theres going to be a ton of drinking at it. So I basically said, sorry, I can't attend that night. A few tried to ask why and I just said, that I can't and left it at that. People were expecting me to be there and months ago before I quit I would've said yes.

I'm sorry about your car and who you have to deal with. I had car trouble recently myself. It was annoying because that meant walking to work and asking for rides etc. It got fixed weeks later. I find that just having patience that all these things will eventually subside helps.

Berrybean

Sorry to hear about your migraine HBM - there's absolutely no way you can drive or socialise when you can't even see properly for lights flashing in your eyes. Sleep is the only thing that'll fix that bugger. Get well soon.

Soberwolf

Yankee when I feel like this I like to walk & get it out my system i like to listen to music to help motivate & jog my mind sorry about the 'jog' pun

I also agree with everybody else in blowing off tonight your stressed you know what you need ? a nice hot soak in the bath with radox bath foam & a early night so you get plenty of rest

Sorry about your car troubles know you always have us to lean on & you can pm night or day to chat vent etc

Hang in there Yankee were right here with you

bullmas

"My 4th crappy used car in less than 2 years is dying a rapid death from multiple ailments."

Yankee73 , it seems that you may have a growing collection of these old cars , Even junk car buyers will come and pick them up and pay decent cash for them! Hopefully enough to buy one that runs.

Cheers

Yankee73

My next step, once my bankruptcy is officially discharged, is a newer, less junky car! My current one is a peach: it's a "branded" title, meaning it was declared a total loss in an accident, bought from a junkyard, "fixed" and sold to me. I couldn't afford anything else at the time.

UPDATE: Thank you all for your kind words. I just had to let it all out, so to speak. With my current stress level, tonight had the makings of disaster and I have too much recovery in me to let life get me down. I backed out of the company dinner and feel relieved. My plan is for a hot shower, good dinner and an early bed time!

Berrybean

Well done Yankee. It's once we start making our sobriety (and therefore all that is good in our lives) as top of the list of priorities, that's when out sober time grows.

And b r e a t h e
xx

skipper123

Good decision on backing out . if they ask why say you had car trouble !!!

2muchpain

First of all, don't hit a nun. I'm not religious, but you never know. LOL
Glad you decided to stay home. Remember sobriety comes first. Good move.
Regarding your car troubles; have you ever considered going to a car auction? I knew a guy that worked at an auction, and he said people wouldn't believe the good deals that are there. Might want to look into it.
Also, if you still have those cars that met their demise, have you considered putting an ad in a local paper (Penny Saver, etc.) and try to sell the parts that are still usable? Good luck. John

Yankee73

Don't have the old cars. I trade them in for the next clunker. I live in a high-rise, don't think the city would like me double-parking heaps of junk!

Car auctions are usually "stolen/recoveries" or "branded/reconditioned" titles. I am taking the safer option and getting a new one.