chiquen81

I'm finding it hard (I'm 3 days without a drink) to think of or look ahead to activities that are fun and sober. Everyone my age goes "out" and socializing involves drinking. I don't want to do that anymore. A few that I have done that made me lonelier, but at least we're sober activities:

-Read at the bookstore
-Sat at the park pond area and read
-Reorganizing drawers

As you can see I'm struggling. Last week I met 10 people, who seemed great but invited me to midnight dance parties or bars. (Big no no)

I was thinking of joining a martial arts club. Any help or ideas are appreciated.

Dee74

Try something like meetup.com maybe - you could specifiy a sober group....get involved in hobbies or interests...I found volunteering in my community was great for me

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chiquen81

Yes, thank you. I am on meetup for some meditation groups. I forgot to mention it. The volunteering is a good idea, too.

Hawkeye13

What about outdoor activities like hiking and climbing?

Food clubs, book clubs, animal shelter volunteer, other service work?

Gym, yoga, or swimming?

mpr

Really anything that interests you, reading, movies, music, mediate, exercise, drives, walks, cleaning, really just do things, anything, even things you don't like - anything is better than giving in.

I had a horrible evening today but did not give in and just trucked along as best as I could.

doggonecarl

There are countless groups formed around any number of activities--sports, crafts, hobbies, etc. You say you are extroverted...so extrovert yourself over to one of them . Or volunteer, or take a class. YOu are only limited by yourself.

But you are also only three days sober! I wouln't worry so much about what you are going to do for "fun" or "interest" for the rest of your sober life and just worry about staying sober. The activities will sort themselves out.

waynetheking

Staying active is the key. I rode a bicycle for hours just to keep alcohol off my mind. The exercise was great too. Hang in there. It gets easier day after day.

LexieCat

If you like to read, maybe a book club (though you have to be careful, early on, of ones that involve wine-drinking--for some reason book clubs seem big on that). Or if you love reading, maybe taking a writing course? Or just about any adult education class would be fun and social. Maybe learn a second language or learn to play an instrument. Or an adult acting class. The possibilities are darned near endless.