the most important thing
Hi everyone! I'm coming up to 90 days sober (87!!) and am beginning to get used to my sobriety and gaining some tentative confidence. I have learned a lot from all of those around me on SR. I think sobriety teaches different people different lessons at different times and I've become interested in what this road can teach us.
In this thread I'd like to invite each of you to simply write how long you've been sober and what the most important thing(s) that you've learned so far is/are.
Hope you'll be interested and n taking part
In this thread I'd like to invite each of you to simply write how long you've been sober and what the most important thing(s) that you've learned so far is/are.
Hope you'll be interested and n taking part
203 days
1. There are two types of anxiety: the one my genetics creates and the one alcohol creates chemically. Combined together, they are the engines that fuel my spiral into alcoholism.
2. I can manage my biological anxiety through lifestyle changes: exercise, good eating habits, who a hang out with, where I go, how I reward myself, how I deal with the bad things in life.
3. Never underestimate the power of reaching out for help.
1. There are two types of anxiety: the one my genetics creates and the one alcohol creates chemically. Combined together, they are the engines that fuel my spiral into alcoholism.
2. I can manage my biological anxiety through lifestyle changes: exercise, good eating habits, who a hang out with, where I go, how I reward myself, how I deal with the bad things in life.
3. Never underestimate the power of reaching out for help.
Recovered
Join Date: Jun 2009
Posts: 1,129
6 years sober.
1. There is nothing to figure out (disease vs behavior problem or other some such argument). It doesn't matter.
2. Get a sobriety plan and follow the plan. EVERY. DAY. They ALL work IF FOLLOWED.
3. The problem is me.
4. I will continue to glean the gifts of sobriety if I do the daily work required. In other words: follow the directions that I laid out for myself in the beginning and they will work for me until the day I die. (never deviate from the PLAN)
1. There is nothing to figure out (disease vs behavior problem or other some such argument). It doesn't matter.
2. Get a sobriety plan and follow the plan. EVERY. DAY. They ALL work IF FOLLOWED.
3. The problem is me.
4. I will continue to glean the gifts of sobriety if I do the daily work required. In other words: follow the directions that I laid out for myself in the beginning and they will work for me until the day I die. (never deviate from the PLAN)
I will be five years without a drink in September.
I've learned that I don't need alcohol. For anything. Not for fun, not for relaxation, not for stress release, not to celebrate, not to hide the fear and shame and guilt of my drinking and drugging years. I don't need alcohol to fit in, to cope with life, to deal with emotions.
I can live life sober.
I've learned that I don't need alcohol. For anything. Not for fun, not for relaxation, not for stress release, not to celebrate, not to hide the fear and shame and guilt of my drinking and drugging years. I don't need alcohol to fit in, to cope with life, to deal with emotions.
I can live life sober.
Hi everyone! I'm coming up to 90 days sober (87!!) and am beginning to get used to my sobriety and gaining some tentative confidence. I have learned a lot from all of those around me on SR. I think sobriety teaches different people different lessons at different times and I've become interested in what this road can teach us.
In this thread I'd like to invite each of you to simply write how long you've been sober and what the most important thing(s) that you've learned so far is/are.
Hope you'll be interested and n taking part
In this thread I'd like to invite each of you to simply write how long you've been sober and what the most important thing(s) that you've learned so far is/are.
Hope you'll be interested and n taking part
403 days / 1.10 years or 13.22 months - but who's counting
Daily I am pulled more and more away from myself. My thoughts and prayers have become more about others and their needs - what I may be able to do to help someone else. Release (ing) from the bondage of self.
This truly is remarkable coming from a highly self-centered alcoholic like me. Really it's miraculous, discovering true empathy and love. This is solely by grace alone. Don't know why, but there it is.........
I was told after we hit 90 days it's no longer considered relapse but a choice! Happy for your upcoming three months - that too is truly a miracle!!!
Great thread, thanks.
15 plus years.
When I find myself to self absorbed either based on my success or failures in life; it is time to do more for someone else. Never forget to say, "I am sorry" when I am wrong and "I don't know when I don't." Both phrases I never used when drinking.
Lastly remind myself that it isn't all about me.
When I find myself to self absorbed either based on my success or failures in life; it is time to do more for someone else. Never forget to say, "I am sorry" when I am wrong and "I don't know when I don't." Both phrases I never used when drinking.
Lastly remind myself that it isn't all about me.
7-1/2 years sober after drinking for 30.
I numbed myself for most of my life - I didn't grow, change, or mature. What I thought was helping with shyness was actually keeping me frozen in time. Learning to face whatever life hands me, with eyes wide open, was a wonderful gift. I never needed it the way I thought I did. It was never my friend or comforter.
I numbed myself for most of my life - I didn't grow, change, or mature. What I thought was helping with shyness was actually keeping me frozen in time. Learning to face whatever life hands me, with eyes wide open, was a wonderful gift. I never needed it the way I thought I did. It was never my friend or comforter.
Congratulations, AMP! You're accumulating some serious sober time. And your confidence will deepen.
In one month, I'll mark two years of sobriety. What have I learned? Lots! I'll try to keep it to a few brief thoughts:
- Trust that it gets easier and it gets better. There's nothing good in a bottle for me; there's a bountiful world for me in sobriety.
- This journey requires more than simply not drinking. This is an opportunity for amazing growth, though it means we must engage in self-exploration -- a process that is painful, joyous and everything in between. I'm not the same person I used to be. Thank God.
- Being sober doesn't mean you're in a state of non-stop happiness. It does, though, open the door to greater peacefulness. And that makes happiness all the sweeter when I feel it; when I don't, that's all right. My life today is a far cry from the empty, soulless existence -- and that's all it was -- when I was an alcoholic.
V.
In one month, I'll mark two years of sobriety. What have I learned? Lots! I'll try to keep it to a few brief thoughts:
- Trust that it gets easier and it gets better. There's nothing good in a bottle for me; there's a bountiful world for me in sobriety.
- This journey requires more than simply not drinking. This is an opportunity for amazing growth, though it means we must engage in self-exploration -- a process that is painful, joyous and everything in between. I'm not the same person I used to be. Thank God.
- Being sober doesn't mean you're in a state of non-stop happiness. It does, though, open the door to greater peacefulness. And that makes happiness all the sweeter when I feel it; when I don't, that's all right. My life today is a far cry from the empty, soulless existence -- and that's all it was -- when I was an alcoholic.
V.
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