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06-11-2015, 11:45 PM

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Muunray

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Just found out a friend from high school just died during emergency surgery. He was a great and loving person. Survived years of dialysis before receiving a kidney. After receiving his kidney he became so much healthier. He is survived by his wife and his 5 year old son. He was a great community leader and was director of emergency services for the county. Doesn't seem quite right he dies, so young, after all he contributed and I get the opportunity to continue on...

06-12-2015, 12:21 AM

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Dee74

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I'm sorry for your loss Muunray.

Either there's no rhyme or reason behind these things, & life and death events are random..

but I have to admit I need to believe in more than that...

or maybe there is a reason why you and I and everyone else here is still alive...

perhaps many of us don't know what that reason is yet...but that doesn't mean it's not there?

D

06-12-2015, 12:37 AM

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Turtle82

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I'm sorry. I could say more but you're grieving now so I'll just leave it at that and I pray this passes gently for you and his loved ones.

06-12-2015, 05:19 AM

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strategery

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I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

06-12-2015, 05:54 AM

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Opivotal

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I'm so sorry for your loss, Muunray.

06-12-2015, 06:01 AM

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JensDestiny

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Sorry for your loss. It certainly does seem unfair at times. I wish you peace and comfort.

06-12-2015, 07:30 AM

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ScottFromWI

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Very sorry to hear of your loss, peace to you and yours as well as his family.

06-12-2015, 07:33 AM

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Hopeless1978

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So sorry for your loss :-(

06-12-2015, 07:38 AM

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ArtFriend

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Sorry about your friend. It does seem very unfair.

06-13-2015, 10:49 AM

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PurpleKnight

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Very sorry for your loss Muunray!!

06-13-2015, 02:22 PM

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Hevyn

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I'm sorry for your pain Muunray - hoping you feel a little better today.

06-13-2015, 06:54 PM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Muunray

Doesn't seem quite right he dies, so young, after all he contributed and I get the opportunity to continue on...

Hey Muunray,

It sounds like you have a touch of the survivor's curse. That's a sort of guilt and self-loathing based on the fact that you have survived despite your perceived sins while worthier people have gone down. At least that is how I feel sometimes about how I have survived some bad and risky behaviors while others around me who have deserved better have had terrible misfortunes.