Family Is Nervous and Freaking Out
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Do you know what my former sponsor (current AA friend) told me last night? He said that even though I don't drink and drive right now, he said that eventually I will, as every active alcoholic eventually engages in that behavior...is this true? Now I am paranoid that I am going to drink and drive even though I have never done it.
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True, and maybe this is something that I need to explore in counseling. My resistance to getting help (rehab) may be because I am not getting this support from my parents. They frown upon it.
I think putting the blame back on the community is a classic way of not taking responsibility for your own recovery.
I did it for years, so I'm not judging - but I feel you've had a lot of support in your time here Sober.
Support can only go so far tho.
If you feel you need more support from us, or your parents or your husband or whoever - then really it's up to you to find it - whether it's AA or some other group, or counselling or rehab...
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I am 35. I know, very sad, given how much dependence I have on my parents. We have a very enmeshed relationship, and I never truly grew up, sad to say.
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I'm sorry you see it that way.
I think putting the blame back on the community is a classic way of not taking responsibility for your own recovery.
I did it for years, so I'm not judging - but I feel you've had a lot of support in your time here Sober.
Support can only go so far tho.
If you feel you need more support from us, or your parents or your husband or whoever - then really it's up to you to find it - whether it's AA or some other group, or counselling or rehab...
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I think putting the blame back on the community is a classic way of not taking responsibility for your own recovery.
I did it for years, so I'm not judging - but I feel you've had a lot of support in your time here Sober.
Support can only go so far tho.
If you feel you need more support from us, or your parents or your husband or whoever - then really it's up to you to find it - whether it's AA or some other group, or counselling or rehab...
D
I almost felt as if some people here were just waiting for me to fail because they did not agree with how I was going about my recovery.
"But support can only go so far." I think you are right. Maybe people felt they were enabling me and felt as if I needed other support such as rehab and were tired of enabling me. I get it.
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What I was trying to say was that if it is hopeless in me getting sober at this time, I was just wondering if someone can "get by" with having 1.5 bottles of wine each night and sometimes smoking some pot with it? Meaning, could it buy me some time? Can someone still be functional drinking that amount?
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Yes, this is true. Whenever I relapse, I try to rationalize it, but it never works, LOL!
I hear what you are saying. It's just that some of you (not to mention names) were responding to me in the past few weeks. And then I tried again to stay sober on Sunday and Monday of this past week, and I did not hear from a lot of those people. I feel like people gave up on me. But I can understand why they gave up on me, but I am still just pointing it out.
I almost felt as if some people here were just waiting for me to fail because they did not agree with how I was going about my recovery.
I almost felt as if some people here were just waiting for me to fail because they did not agree with how I was going about my recovery.
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Scott makes a good point - you often have multiple threads on the go - that can skew your responses.
You also tend to post a lot in the dead of night when fewer members are online.
The fact that this thread already has 34 replies when a lot of our members are in bed is pretty much indicative of the fact that people do respond to you
I can save you a rehab trip if that's your only question BTW
focus on you and your recovery - everything else can wait...
and remember that you'll get back from your recovery exactly what you put into it, so give it all you have
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You also tend to post a lot in the dead of night when fewer members are online.
The fact that this thread already has 34 replies when a lot of our members are in bed is pretty much indicative of the fact that people do respond to you
I guess I need to go to inpatient rehab to figure out what to actually focus on.
focus on you and your recovery - everything else can wait...
and remember that you'll get back from your recovery exactly what you put into it, so give it all you have
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Actually the rationalizations are working, they make "feel" like drinking is ok or expected , just fill in the blank for a specific reason.
For right now I think some water and calling it a night seems like a good idea, yeah?
For right now I think some water and calling it a night seems like a good idea, yeah?
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Everyone on SR is a volunteer, including the greeters, mods and admins. People come when they can and help who they can while they are here. You have posted multiple threads and received many replies from many different people, just as all others do. I would suggest that you may need support above and beyond what an online recovery board can provide ( in addition ) based in your last few weeks here.
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