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Old 03-27-2015, 12:57 PM
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hello,

ive never reached to that since 8 years , but the meds helped for sure .

i noticed i dont wanna hang out with my alcoholic friends , just from my inside . and i noticed i dont wanna come to any place which has an alcohol vieweable to the customers , just without self pressure . but my mind tell me to act like this . im still on the same meds

zelax 10 mg
tegretol 200
loxapream 6mg

i will visit the doc next week and he told me he might lower the loxaperam to 3mg .

just anote i felt sometimes like i'm broken up with a bad partner and i dont wanna see him because it hurts .
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Eighteen days is great, zvang.

Yes, it can feel like a breakup, especially when we have allowed alcohol to occupy and influence so much of our lives.
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Old 03-27-2015, 01:08 PM
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Congrats on 18 days. I mourned the loss of alcohol as if it were a friend that died. It passed though when I filled my life with new things.
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today , i kinda fought with some alcoholic friend because i dont wanna drink with him . i offered him to drink coffee be he didnt and just left me .
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today , i kinda fought with some alcoholic friend because i dont wanna drink with him . i offered him to drink coffee be he didnt and just left me .
I am sorry that happened, zvang.

It was a fine thing for you to do to offer your friend coffee. We can't control the decisions of others.

I am glad that you made a good decision for yourself.
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Old 03-27-2015, 01:28 PM
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I am sorry that happened, zvang.

It was a fine thing for you to do to offer your friend coffee. We can't control the decisions of others.

I am glad that you made a good decision for yourself.

he might felt rejection and like im making the rules to hang out , he really get angry . but this is my life and im trying to start cope with these situatuin
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Old 03-27-2015, 01:45 PM
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Congratulations on 18 days!
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Zvang congrats on 18 days bud
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Old 03-27-2015, 05:49 PM
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Congrats on 18 days
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Old 03-28-2015, 12:45 AM
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Congratulations on 18 days. Nearly 3 weeks!! That's great.

Sound like you're handling the friend situation well.

I also had problems with some of my alcohol loving / alcoholic(?) friends. Some of them will now openly admit to trying to sabotage me back then and are now happy to join me in alcohol-free activities & meet ups, but others are still defensive and will only talk to me to try to get me back on the juice. I suppose I've just had to learn which people actually are friends, and which were just mutual friends with a common pal, 'Alcohol'.

One of the pleasures of this last year has been making some new, non-drinking friends. Esp the ones at AA. And also becoming a person that it isn't painful to be alone with, as my self-hatred has mellowed and I now really do enjoy a bit of solitary time.

Also I have contacted some old friends (the ones that I'd been angry with for years because I thought weren't properly interested in me because they didn't want to join me on my big booze-train, but I've since realised my own part in those old resentments). It's been great to put those resentments behind me and catch up with what they've been doing for the past 20 years while I've been busy getting rat-arsed.

Anyway - congratulations again.

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alcoholism can be a lot like a toxic relationship for sure Zvang.
Congrats on 18 days

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Old 03-28-2015, 03:57 AM
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So does alcohol got out of my body phsycially now ?
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Old 03-28-2015, 04:59 AM
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It sure does get out of your body in time! Congrats on 18 days; today counts 17 for me.

Every day feels just a little bit healthier. I can't really tell the difference from one day to the next, but when I compare today to a week ago, to a week before that...YES!! The body and the brain are healing.

From people's stories I can tell that it takes longer for some people and shorter for others, but once you stop drinking, the healing does begin.
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now we strengthen our sobriety

Originally Posted by zvang View Post

i noticed i dont wanna hang out with my alcoholic friends

don't wanna come to any place which has an alcohol viewable
If one in early sobriety is thinking such as the above,
seems they have a serious desire not to drink again.

Keep doing what you have been doing and add tools to your sobriety tool belt as needed or discovered.

It seems to be a combination of several different things, either done or not done in our lives, that strengthen our sobriety.

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Old 03-28-2015, 05:10 AM
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I too look at my AV as a relationship gone bad--Good riddance. WTG on 6 months!
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18 Days is fantastic!! Keep it going!!
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Originally Posted by Mountainmanbob View Post
If one in early sobriety is thinking such as the above,
seems they have a serious desire not to drink again.

Keep doing what you have been doing and add tools to your sobriety tool belt as needed or discovered.

It seems to be a combination of several different things, either done or not done in our lives, that strengthen our sobriety.

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Thanks buddy , but you know what that scares me cause it makes me think that the meds are working properly, and when once i stopped them , i might relapse . so really IM SCARED .
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zvang you're doing great Keep it up! almost three weeks!
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Old 03-28-2015, 05:03 PM
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just to let you know guys , i went to a bar to day and drank orang juice .

the bar tender and newly met guy there was impressed . i just felt kinda strong .
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Old 03-29-2015, 04:47 AM
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Congrats on finding the will-power to stick to the juice.

Why go to a bar while you're scared you might relapse though???
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