bad day so right now
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bad day so right now
I have no sober friends. I have no family around. My son's mother left me for a "trial separation." Kind of want to slam my head with something hard and slice up my skin. I won't but that's how I feel. My only other options ate to watch tv or fart around on the web.
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Most of all just worry about keeping yourself together. Get to a meeting if you do AA. If not, get out for a while, even if its just walking around in a mall, coffee shop, going out and seeing a movie. I go out all the time by myself and see movies and actually have learned to enjoy my own company!
And if it doesn't work out with your son's mother, there's always plenty of other women out there who are lonely too. My program tells me to never put too much dependence on a person or people.
And if it doesn't work out with your son's mother, there's always plenty of other women out there who are lonely too. My program tells me to never put too much dependence on a person or people.
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I decided to nurture myself with one of my old interests. I ended up baking chicken and steamed cauliflower some veggies, made a nice dish with leftovers for tomorrow. Instead of hurting myself or drinking I decided that I will nourish myself. I want to get in the habit of eating healthy and exercising again. Once I get my car running again I'm going to join a gym while I look for work. Forcing myself to be strong right now. Thanks everyone. I'm choosing life, but it is hard being alone. Only having my son 2-3 days a week.
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Make those 2-3 days the greatest! Pack them full of memories! Maybe you could do things on the other days In preparation for the time with your son. For example, if he is into trains, maybe you could start working on some models, so that when he comes, you can work on things together. Just an idea! Stay strong and definitely get those workouts in!
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I'm still hanging in there. It's been 10 days I think since she left now. Doesn't feel like a trial separation. She's out looking for apartments and whatnot. In the mean time she expects to just leave all here stuff here until she gets settled in. I'm not ok with that. If she wants space and time to work on herself she needs to get her stuff out of here so that I can make this my place again and not be constantly reminded of her. This was my apartment first. She isn't putting any thought into couples counseling or anything. Not even speaking to me really. It's not like we had a big blowout. She just wants time to get herself in a better state mentally, being bipolar and having mild Aspergers. But I don't think it's right that she gets everything on her terms. She wants to move out, than she needs to move out, not just be separated until it's convenient for her. That has always been my issue with her. She never makes me a priority. She wants everything on her terms.
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Originally Posted by Serotonin 
I'm still hanging in there. It's been 10 days I think since she left now. Doesn't feel like a trial separation. She's out looking for apartments and whatnot. In the mean time she expects to just leave all here stuff here until she gets settled in. I'm not ok with that. If she wants space and time to work on herself she needs to get her stuff out of here so that I can make this my place again and not be constantly reminded of her. This was my apartment first. She isn't putting any thought into couples counseling or anything. Not even speaking to me really. It's not like we had a big blowout. She just wants time to get herself in a better state mentally, being bipolar and having mild Aspergers. But I don't think it's right that she gets everything on her terms. She wants to move out, than she needs to move out, not just be separated until it's convenient for her. That has always been my issue with her. She never makes me a priority. She wants everything on her terms.
Hey Serotonin, just wanted to wish you well. If it helps, why don't you move her things into one place in your apt and out of eyeshot so you won't constantly reminded. This will also make it easier to fix a timetable so she can take her stuff in due course. Kind regards and Best wishes
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Originally Posted by LondonWanderer
Hey Serotonin, just wanted to wish you well. If it helps, why don't you move her things into one place in your apt and out of eyeshot so you won't constantly reminded. This will also make it easier to fix a timetable so she can take her stuff in due course. Kind regards and Best wishes
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