View Poll Results: is the sober life the best life for you ?
yes
128
88.28%
no
17
11.72%
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Sobriety - is this the life that you were hoping and praying for ? poll
This thread may be of encouragement for the one's teetering ?
Mountainman
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To be completely honest.....
I honestly wish I was able to have a few drinks socially every once in a while without getting completely drunk. But.... since I can't I avoid alcohol altogether. Its for the best but I can't exactly say its a dream come true.
I honestly wish I was able to have a few drinks socially every once in a while without getting completely drunk. But.... since I can't I avoid alcohol altogether. Its for the best but I can't exactly say its a dream come true.
This is exactly my reaction -- Carlotta, you got me again! -- I wasn't even going to respond to the poll because the title seemed ... irrelevant to my entire life. But when I clicked on it and saw the actual question I was supposed to vote on, it was easy. Yes, sobriety is unquestionably best for me, always would have been and always will be. Did I want it? No.
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Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: UK
Posts: 2,937
Yes it is the life for me!
Its a lot more peaceful than I expected.
I feel like I have grown up more now I don't drink.
I feel more grounded, my moods are a lot more stable.
I think I am more grateful.
I realise I have so much to be grateful for.
Best of all - there is nothing drinking makes better!
Its a lot more peaceful than I expected.
I feel like I have grown up more now I don't drink.
I feel more grounded, my moods are a lot more stable.
I think I am more grateful.
I realise I have so much to be grateful for.
Best of all - there is nothing drinking makes better!
Getting sober feels like getting my life back. More importantly I fell like myself again. I took a 10+ year detour on the crazy train and was barely recognizable once I finally had enough and jumped off. When I quit I just wanted away from all of it. I never actually thought about what it would be like to be sober and I had long forgotten what it was like to be comfortable in my own skin.
If you are sober today, is this the life that you were wanting.
LOL -- I answered yes to the poll.
I'll keep this simple: living hangover-free is really living.
"If you are sober today, is this the life that you were wanting."
I voted No.
I'm not even close yet.
This has only started.
Sobriety is fuel in an engine that is in overdrive.
This is no dream, no easy fix. It's life.
Bigger and better everyday.
8 years is nothing. I want 80.
I voted No.
I'm not even close yet.
This has only started.
Sobriety is fuel in an engine that is in overdrive.
This is no dream, no easy fix. It's life.
Bigger and better everyday.
8 years is nothing. I want 80.
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Join Date: Feb 2009
Posts: 765
My first 2 years of sobriety were an adjustment to a much better way of life.
I then went through a dark time that kept getting darker until at year 8 I found meetings where everyone's doing the work in the BB. I was suicidal and willing to do whatever it took to truly get well. This is totally common.
The BB process gave me God and now I'm awake and can did comfort whenever I need it, I have a purpose and a way to see my part in things with myself, God and a piece of paper.
If you had asked me this question before year 8 I would've felt I should say "Yes!", out of guilt for "not being grateful enough" or fear of what you might think of my recovery.
And I would've walked away thinking I was alone.
You see, in all my pain and suffering before the BB process, I felt I was the only one who felt the way I did. It was a lonely place to be. And I felt ashamed that I felt that way when everybody else seemed fine.
Really, I just needed to scour the ends of the earth for a way to get well.
And God has brought it to me.
I then went through a dark time that kept getting darker until at year 8 I found meetings where everyone's doing the work in the BB. I was suicidal and willing to do whatever it took to truly get well. This is totally common.
The BB process gave me God and now I'm awake and can did comfort whenever I need it, I have a purpose and a way to see my part in things with myself, God and a piece of paper.
If you had asked me this question before year 8 I would've felt I should say "Yes!", out of guilt for "not being grateful enough" or fear of what you might think of my recovery.
And I would've walked away thinking I was alone.
You see, in all my pain and suffering before the BB process, I felt I was the only one who felt the way I did. It was a lonely place to be. And I felt ashamed that I felt that way when everybody else seemed fine.
Really, I just needed to scour the ends of the earth for a way to get well.
And God has brought it to me.
I love being sober. Active addiction was miserable for me.
But I do have to work at finding things I enjoy, and I have to actually make time to do enjoyable things. I also have been healing from childhood trauma, which is sometimes painful, but also gives me lots of hope and joy. If I had stopped drinking, but not worked on making my life better, I'm not sure what my life would be like right now. I have worked a lot on finding meaning and joy in my life.
But I do have to work at finding things I enjoy, and I have to actually make time to do enjoyable things. I also have been healing from childhood trauma, which is sometimes painful, but also gives me lots of hope and joy. If I had stopped drinking, but not worked on making my life better, I'm not sure what my life would be like right now. I have worked a lot on finding meaning and joy in my life.
Interesting question. I quit drinking because I realized that I was never going to accomplish anything useful, or be able to deal with significant problems in my life while I was drinking. At the time I quit, I had a path in mind for how I was going to deal with those problems. But now that I'm sober, I've discovered there were other options that I hadn't previously considered. Have things turned out as I expected? No. Better than I expected? Definitely.
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Although for many years I deceived myself into thinking that I enjoyed running with the liquid devil, I was actually all along wishing for, longing for and praying for, to be sober.
If you are sober today, is this the life that you were wanting.
Please vote and please explain.
M-Bob
If you are sober today, is this the life that you were wanting.
Please vote and please explain.
M-Bob
I voted yes but not because I got all the things I wanted in recovery but because I did the things I always talked about doing while drinking.
Actually, not much panned out but that`s irrelevant.
What`s important is I tried.
That`s what sobriety has given me. A chance to toss my hat into the ring and get on with life.
Today, I`m 57 and find myself very busy. No mid-life crisis for this recovering alcoholic.
Interesting question. I quit drinking because I realized that I was never going to accomplish anything useful, or be able to deal with significant problems in my life while I was drinking. At the time I quit, I had a path in mind for how I was going to deal with those problems. But now that I'm sober, I've discovered there were other options that I hadn't previously considered. Have things turned out as I expected? No. Better than I expected? Definitely.
much better this way for me. now if i get in a bind, i dont wonder if it was a result of me drinking too much. i had become quite used to having that icky, guilty feeling much of the time. quite a load off. physically speaking, i feel much better also.
so all in all, sobriety beat my expectations.
so all in all, sobriety beat my expectations.
When I was young I would get this thought that in later life I would sober up. Well I carried this thought for many years without much success. Yes, there would be brief periods of sobriety always followed by years of drinking and other sinful things. I actually thought that the devil may be deceiving me into thinking that someday I would be sober but, truthfully I would die drunk. So glad that I have been sober for a while now. As my Sponsor says often, "I would not wish to meet my maker in a drunken condition."
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