Off the wagon...
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Sleepie it sounds like you need to change something in your recovery, after a couple recent relapses. I believe if you put together a longer run of sobriety, you will begin to see the positives of not drinking. The last 13 months has thrown a lot of things at me, including job interviews/new jobs, so I understand what you're going through. Don't let the pressure of the new job be your trigger for drinking. Use SR and other methods of support before you pick up the first drink.
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Join Date: Aug 2013
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Hi.
I know there’s a lot of resistance to AA but it’s helped millions in recovery and was my choice a lot of years ago when no one heard of the internet.
With an open mind it WORKS if we work it. It also helps reading a lot of posts on this site.
BE WELL
I know there’s a lot of resistance to AA but it’s helped millions in recovery and was my choice a lot of years ago when no one heard of the internet.
With an open mind it WORKS if we work it. It also helps reading a lot of posts on this site.
BE WELL
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Thanks guys. Yes I drank yesterday. Now I am off to work soon.
Dee I am not doing anything just SR. AA is a thing I tried in the past, didn't work for me. there was a good meditation based recovery thing near where I used to live but I am far far away from it now and my new schedule won't allow for it. I guess I just planned to try harder and really not overextend myself. That's what started this time around with relapse. Doing too much too soon.
Well, here I go again... six weeks was amazing though, I hadn't gotten that far in years.
I guess If I start again today it will be mid March before I can say that again.
Dee I am not doing anything just SR. AA is a thing I tried in the past, didn't work for me. there was a good meditation based recovery thing near where I used to live but I am far far away from it now and my new schedule won't allow for it. I guess I just planned to try harder and really not overextend myself. That's what started this time around with relapse. Doing too much too soon.
Well, here I go again... six weeks was amazing though, I hadn't gotten that far in years.
I guess If I start again today it will be mid March before I can say that again.
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Originally Posted by IOAA2 
Hi. I know there’s a lot of resistance to AA but it’s helped millions in recovery and was my choice a lot of years ago when no one heard of the internet. With an open mind it WORKS if we work it. It also helps reading a lot of posts on this site. BE WELL
Key words...with an open mind it works if we work it.
Jennifer
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AA didn't work for me in the 90's, it didn't work for me 4 years ago, or 3 years ago. But it is working this time. Why? I kept an open mind. I hated it but I kept going. Now I love it. And understand it. I used to think they were a group of brainwashed, non drinking zombies. I listen to the same stories every meeting and I listen. And son of a gun if almost everything they say applies to my life. I stopped fighting it and go to the meetings. That combined with this site have been really good to me.
Jennifer
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AA was not for me either. Have you tried AVRT?
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ined-long.html
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ined-long.html
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Hi Sleepie, the next time you get strong urges why not post here about it? That way, we can help 
Also, check this out: Urge Surfing ? Relapse Prevention ? Mindfulness
Also, check this out: Urge Surfing ? Relapse Prevention ? Mindfulness Member
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((((sleepie)))).
I don't use AA but it has helped so many people - why not give it another try. Would you consider going regularly and consistently for a month or two, just sitting and listening until you feel comfortable enough to speak?
There are ways to get and stay sober; have you checked out the Secular Connections forum here at SR?
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...r-connections/
I don't use AA but it has helped so many people - why not give it another try. Would you consider going regularly and consistently for a month or two, just sitting and listening until you feel comfortable enough to speak?
There are ways to get and stay sober; have you checked out the Secular Connections forum here at SR?
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...r-connections/
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Originally Posted by SoberLeigh
((((sleepie)))).
I don't use AA but it has helped so many people - why not give it another try. Would you consider going regularly and consistently for a month or two, just sitting and listening until you feel comfortable enough to speak?
There are ways to get and stay sober; have you checked out the Secular Connections forum here at SR?
Secular Connections - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
I don't use AA but it has helped so many people - why not give it another try. Would you consider going regularly and consistently for a month or two, just sitting and listening until you feel comfortable enough to speak?
There are ways to get and stay sober; have you checked out the Secular Connections forum here at SR?
Secular Connections - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
Yeah, if you're going to use AA (imo) you need to find meetings you feel comfortable attending and sharing. This face to face interactions with another alcoholics is a large part of my recovery.
Meetings vary greatly in flavor and format.
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I was thinking, I should have just tried the meditation thing but it's oh so damn hard when you're in the thick of it. I forgot about it. I will look at Secular Recovery, I'd forgotten about that too and thanks for the link to urge surfing.
I kind of posted a thing about knowing my limitations but no responses, so I really didn't want to come on here and say I wanted to drink cause it's gonna get old after a few times and recently people here helped me through a rough spot. I don't want to wear people out or sound like a crybaby especially when we're all going through the same difficulty.
Although, I think those who responded to my thread when I posted about wanting to drink a short while back helped curb what might have been a week bender into just a few days, not even in a row. I mean that people here stopped me from picking up earlier. It's not a perfect record but it's so much better and I am hanging onto that.
And I do thank you all for that.
I kind of posted a thing about knowing my limitations but no responses, so I really didn't want to come on here and say I wanted to drink cause it's gonna get old after a few times and recently people here helped me through a rough spot. I don't want to wear people out or sound like a crybaby especially when we're all going through the same difficulty.
Although, I think those who responded to my thread when I posted about wanting to drink a short while back helped curb what might have been a week bender into just a few days, not even in a row. I mean that people here stopped me from picking up earlier. It's not a perfect record but it's so much better and I am hanging onto that.
And I do thank you all for that.
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
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Ive seen many, including myself, incorporate
a recovery program in their everyday life.
Many go to noon meetings, to get out of the
office, away from work for an hour, to sit
in a meeting, just listening, getting some
little bit of recovery knowledge to hold on
for the rest of the day instead of drinking
or using.
Many will go to an early morning meeting
before work, noontime, late afternoon or
one at night after they have fed the family
and need some down time to strengthen
their own recovery.
As I was going thru ups and downs in my
marriage, raising my kids, just everyday
life, I found escape, a safe haven where
I was not tempted by alcohol and had
the understanding, care and support within
the fellowship of AA.
And it didn't cost me a boat load of money
that it would cost me if seeing a doctor.
Everything I needed to learn was right
there in those recovery rooms as they
went thru each step with me and read
the Big Book of AA.
If someone slipped or went back out,
then I was there to see and hear from them
about what caused them to go back out
so that I could avoid making the same
mistake as they had.
24yrs sober and for each person that
went back out, they returned to share with
me and others that alcohol and drugs
hasn't changed and its still kicking azz
big time today.
Since it hasn't changed all these yrs
for the better, I believe I will continue
building onto my own recovery foundation
strengthening any loose steps or bricks
so that it wont come crashing down on
me.
Find some type of recovery program that
will work for you so that you can begin
to build a strong solid foundation to live
upon for yrs. to come.
a recovery program in their everyday life.
Many go to noon meetings, to get out of the
office, away from work for an hour, to sit
in a meeting, just listening, getting some
little bit of recovery knowledge to hold on
for the rest of the day instead of drinking
or using.
Many will go to an early morning meeting
before work, noontime, late afternoon or
one at night after they have fed the family
and need some down time to strengthen
their own recovery.
As I was going thru ups and downs in my
marriage, raising my kids, just everyday
life, I found escape, a safe haven where
I was not tempted by alcohol and had
the understanding, care and support within
the fellowship of AA.
And it didn't cost me a boat load of money
that it would cost me if seeing a doctor.
Everything I needed to learn was right
there in those recovery rooms as they
went thru each step with me and read
the Big Book of AA.
If someone slipped or went back out,
then I was there to see and hear from them
about what caused them to go back out
so that I could avoid making the same
mistake as they had.
24yrs sober and for each person that
went back out, they returned to share with
me and others that alcohol and drugs
hasn't changed and its still kicking azz
big time today.
Since it hasn't changed all these yrs
for the better, I believe I will continue
building onto my own recovery foundation
strengthening any loose steps or bricks
so that it wont come crashing down on
me.
Find some type of recovery program that
will work for you so that you can begin
to build a strong solid foundation to live
upon for yrs. to come.
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Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: NW
Posts: 96
i fell off the wagon after 13 months and now I need to get my life back on track. I have a decent job and a new baby due any day now. I think the stress of something new coming into my life sent me over the edge but I don't know for sure. I do know I stopped working the program as much as I was before.
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