Jake1961

Article in today's New York Post on dating and having a relationship as a non-drinker.

Can you date someone who doesn’t drink? | New York Post

Turtle82

Enjoyed reading about the current dating scene and drinking. Thanks for posting. I not only dated a non-drinker... I married him.

Bostonsportsfan

Personally, the odds are if I'm interested in a girl she will be a normal drinker or someone who uses alcohol in a responsible way. I could never date an alcoholic, but I wouldn't judge a potential GF for drinking if she has no problems with it, like a lot of the people who drink alcohol. I also think any potential GF would have to accept my past alcoholism/substance abuse problems, so who would I be to judge her for drinking like a normal person? I wouldn't be against a non drinker, but I'd say the odds are if you meet someone they will fall into the "normal drinker" category, over the alcoholic or complete non drinker categories. Just my 2 cents.

MelindaFlowers

I wouldn't mind dating a NORMIE but couldn't handle dating an alcoholic.

Bostonsportsfan

I agree. With all the completely normal drinkers out there, it would be hard to say no to all of them just because they enjoy a beer or a glass of wine in a responsible manner. An alcoholic is a completely different story and I'd never date a girl who's an active alcoholic.

airwick

Milin: Would it bother you to date a nonactive alcoholic?

MelindaFlowers

Probably. I can spot someone who is seriously done drinking from about 20 paces. Like they are comfortable in their own skin.

airwick

Are you an alcoholic?

VikingGF

I especially enjoyed the comments after this article. So many normally non-drinkers. I want to sound like that.

SoberCAH

At this point, my wife would object, irrespective of whether the lady was a drinker or a nondrinker.

Jfanagle

As a sober alcoholic for 15 plus years I dated mostly drinkers although I did date a few longer time sober (5 plus years on average) alcoholics as well. I married my 3rd wife who is a daily moderate wine drinker 2-1/2 years ago. The previous two were also moderate drinkers.

Responsible women who are charming and interesting was my criteria and both with non-drinkers and drinkers I found that it was that trait of responsibility that made them people who I was attracted to.

Just my experience.
Jon

kittycat3

Thanks for posting, I thought it was an interesting article.

I married someone who drank normally but after a year he started to drink problematically. (I'm divorced now.) As a sober person this was really hard for me. In fact I made the poor decision to drink at one time, in part thinking we could maybe reconnect by drinking together. I realize how silly this sounds, but that's what my mind tricked me into thinking at least.

Some addictions can pick up later in life - unlike mine, which pretty much showed up as soon as I opened my first can of beer. So even if you are dating a normie, doesn't mean they will stay that way throughout the course of your relationship.

I learned a lot about the need to keep my sobriety in tact regardless of how much drinking my partner does. That being said I am at times anxious about how I could handle an alcoholic or problem drinking partner, as someone who needs to stay sober it is a scary thought....