Rational recovery vs AA
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Desypete
Addictive Voice Recognition Techique, there is a lot of information about it (AVRT)and Rational Recovery on the internet, and some threads right here at SR in the secular forum.
I was introduced to their ideas on this site the first time here, and I have been sober since.
Addictive Voice Recognition Techique, there is a lot of information about it (AVRT)and Rational Recovery on the internet, and some threads right here at SR in the secular forum.
I was introduced to their ideas on this site the first time here, and I have been sober since.
do they have meetings ? do they go into prisons and help people in there with there drink problem ? do they go around hospitals trying to help people out there ?
these are the things i need to hear being compared about, salvation army is another brilliant organization that help those in need and they get there hands dirty
i am just so proud of what aa does all from people who give there time free
that is something very special in this world i think
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Originally Posted by Freshstart
The urge to drink is not seen as a sign of poor health, spiritual or otherwise.
Originally Posted by LBrain
As for life skills and coping with reality, that is a different issue.
Originally Posted by desypete
if avrt can do the same thing for people then i would take my hat off to it and any other organization out there that would be doing that much to help others
Originally Posted by desypete
so if people want to compare there recovery method v aa then by all means lets compare
I'm not advocating one method over the other, but your argument that AVRT is beyond the reach of low-bottom alcoholics and addicts isn't a strong one. However, as you correctly pointed out, AA is more ubiquitous and easier to find and use. However, there are a number of reasons for that. For one, almost all substance abusers who comes in contact with someone in the healthcare/social services bureaucracy will be directed towards AA or NA. And while not coming directly from AA, this is promotion of AA and the 12-Steps. Few, if any, Dr's, social works, mental health clinics etc. are directing anyone to Rational Recover and the AVRT technique. Although, it would be quite easy to share that information with substance abusers.
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Originally Posted by desypete
i am just so proud of what aa does all from people who give there time free
desypete, you are absolutely right, AVRT is not like AA in the ways you described. There is no outreach to those in hospitals or prisons, no charitable acts like the Salvation Army, The Bridge, Newman, Hillel, Order of St Felix and so on. These are more like each other than AVRT.
They really have different purposes in many ways. Maybe the lack of appreciation of this difference is what leads to misunderstandings.
They really have different purposes in many ways. Maybe the lack of appreciation of this difference is what leads to misunderstandings.
I went through treatment and they taught me to participate in AA, which I have done now for a little over 26 years.
I respect anything which works for anyone.
The most important thing is wanting to quit more than you want to drink, if you reach that point you probably don't even need a program. I failed at everything until I really wanted to quit, the odd thing about going to meetings is they made me think more about drinking than not drinking. I know that sounds strange but they made me feel like I was depriving myself of something I really wanted to do.
I found AA very helpful getting sober because it provided face to face contact with others who shared the same goal. Now I just stay busy doing productive things, and when the addictive voice rears it's head I say no thanks. Still hit a meeting once a month or so though.
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this is my understanding of what its like to be an alcoholic as you will see the drinking is just a side issue
learning how to change is the what i have had to do and still keep on trying to do
my problem is that i have been all about me, what i think, what i feel, what i need, and if i didnt get my own way i would drink on it but i would go to any lengths to get my own way such is the stubon streak i have in me
i am around people who are so like me there alcoholics as well and by them being honest about how they really are in the world how they treat there partners, how they treated people how they would dominate everything to get there own way and this is sober living i am talking about
i came to see i was just like them
i had to change how i live sober if i was ever going to have a chance to not run off and pick up that first drink as soon as poor me had a problem to deal with or poor me didnt get his own way
hence i know i am an alcoholic with the alcoholism personality the ism stands for I, self, me
as its all about me sober or drunk
hence i know a lot of people are not really alcoholic or if they are there in denial about how they really are as a sober person
it really is such a deep problem that goes right to the core for someone like me
if your only problem is you drink a bit to much wine and you find giving it up a bit of a problem it doesn't mean your an alcoholic just because its drink related. this is where the confusing comes into it and people judge if there an alcoholic or not just by the drinking
in the end i came to see it really wasnt about drinking although it was my main problem i came to aa for help with
i didnt know any of how it would make me look at me as a sober person and show me all my bad sides and show me that i can change if i start doing good in the world i can learn new habbits that will stick
learning how to change is the what i have had to do and still keep on trying to do
my problem is that i have been all about me, what i think, what i feel, what i need, and if i didnt get my own way i would drink on it but i would go to any lengths to get my own way such is the stubon streak i have in me
i am around people who are so like me there alcoholics as well and by them being honest about how they really are in the world how they treat there partners, how they treated people how they would dominate everything to get there own way and this is sober living i am talking about
i came to see i was just like them
i had to change how i live sober if i was ever going to have a chance to not run off and pick up that first drink as soon as poor me had a problem to deal with or poor me didnt get his own way
hence i know i am an alcoholic with the alcoholism personality the ism stands for I, self, me
as its all about me sober or drunk
hence i know a lot of people are not really alcoholic or if they are there in denial about how they really are as a sober person
it really is such a deep problem that goes right to the core for someone like me
if your only problem is you drink a bit to much wine and you find giving it up a bit of a problem it doesn't mean your an alcoholic just because its drink related. this is where the confusing comes into it and people judge if there an alcoholic or not just by the drinking
in the end i came to see it really wasnt about drinking although it was my main problem i came to aa for help with
i didnt know any of how it would make me look at me as a sober person and show me all my bad sides and show me that i can change if i start doing good in the world i can learn new habbits that will stick
I'm glad you found your way to recover, desypete.
I found my way too, and even tho I completely identify with the type of alcoholic you are, my way to recovery wasn't the same way.
I think we're blessed to have so many options.
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I found my way too, and even tho I completely identify with the type of alcoholic you are, my way to recovery wasn't the same way.
I think we're blessed to have so many options.
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i have been fasinated by how your early recover was dee, as i have seen many posts from you and the wisdom you have at times is just like someone who has been around aa a long time
you are well up on yourself which is something i have only seen in aa were people have to face themselves and come to see there true person
i get mixed messages at times with the online thing as it paints mental pictures
like the chap who says he made his mind up to not drink again
i want to ask him what did the drink do to him, what did he lose, how low did he go ?
the only reason i think that is because i know many years ago i could of made my mind up and i did for 15 years
but even with all those years of being sober i still drank again
but then when i first gave up in my early 20s i was nothing like i ended up
so i gave up it was easy compared to how hard it was all those years later and my drinking had progressed to daily 24 /7 drunkness
in my 20s i was just a weekend drinker who got drunk and did bad things at times and would suffer from guilt and shame and remorse the next day
so it was easy for me to just give up drinking at the weekends although it was a bit tuff at first but i was no way like the other alchoilcs who had lost so much and there drinking had taken them down like it had
however they did warn me and told me if i am like them then i to would end up like them if i dont do something now about my drinking and how true that was
but i think if people want to compere recovery then we should also compare at what level are drinking problem really is ?
as we are not all the same at the same level hence different things can work for different people
dont know if i am making any sense here ?
i am not trying to knock other recovery methods but more trying to highlight there are huge differences in the conditions of people
you are well up on yourself which is something i have only seen in aa were people have to face themselves and come to see there true person
i get mixed messages at times with the online thing as it paints mental pictures
like the chap who says he made his mind up to not drink again
i want to ask him what did the drink do to him, what did he lose, how low did he go ?
the only reason i think that is because i know many years ago i could of made my mind up and i did for 15 years
but even with all those years of being sober i still drank again
but then when i first gave up in my early 20s i was nothing like i ended up
so i gave up it was easy compared to how hard it was all those years later and my drinking had progressed to daily 24 /7 drunkness
in my 20s i was just a weekend drinker who got drunk and did bad things at times and would suffer from guilt and shame and remorse the next day
so it was easy for me to just give up drinking at the weekends although it was a bit tuff at first but i was no way like the other alchoilcs who had lost so much and there drinking had taken them down like it had
however they did warn me and told me if i am like them then i to would end up like them if i dont do something now about my drinking and how true that was
but i think if people want to compere recovery then we should also compare at what level are drinking problem really is ?
as we are not all the same at the same level hence different things can work for different people
dont know if i am making any sense here ?
i am not trying to knock other recovery methods but more trying to highlight there are huge differences in the conditions of people
I'm too old and too cagey to get into a real alcoholic argument Desy
Whatever type of drinker you are, and whatever type of personality you have, there's a multitude of choices for you when it comes to recovery..I think that's a good thing
I had to read this twice, desy
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Whatever type of drinker you are, and whatever type of personality you have, there's a multitude of choices for you when it comes to recovery..I think that's a good thing
you are well up on yourself
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This incorrect statement pops up around here all the time, desy, it's not just you. 'No real alcoholic can do XYZ. If they can, it proves they aren't a real alcoholic to start with.' This makes it out that you define the words as you go along to suit your own ideas. That's not how it works. I can make a statement about what a 'real man' can achieve when he sets his mind to it, but that would be equally false and dismissive.
You might consider what you are saying to people who have survived worse hells than your own and prevailed. There are a few right here in this thread.
You might consider what you are saying to people who have survived worse hells than your own and prevailed. There are a few right here in this thread.
I'm in AA. I applaud those who keep sobriety following other programs or pathways - and the methods that work for them.
And I really don't give two fifths of five eighths of eff-all what a "true alcoholic" is - or how a "better man" (or woman) than I am would gain sobriety.
Exchange of information and ideas can be helpful. Ideology and bad logic ("no true Scotsman" fallacies) are not.
And I really don't give two fifths of five eighths of eff-all what a "true alcoholic" is - or how a "better man" (or woman) than I am would gain sobriety.
Exchange of information and ideas can be helpful. Ideology and bad logic ("no true Scotsman" fallacies) are not.
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