Almost at 8 Days
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Almost at 8 Days
After another hour, I will be at 8 days. The longer I stay sober, the more clarity I have about how good it is that I am doing this. And the longer I stay sober, the easier it will be to stay sober because I will have time under my belt.
I am aware that my off days will be the most difficult for me, as that is when my husband is off, and when he drinks the most. This Saturday we will be going to his sister's 30th birthday bash. I am going to try and stay strong on that day. In addition, I am going to be open with his family about how I recently relapsed but am now working on staying sober again and will hopefully have 13 days by that day. I will also let them know that I am going to AA so that they know I am serious about this. By being open about my sobriety, I feel that his family can be more understanding of what I am going through, and why I may therefore want to leave the party a bit early before everyone gets really wasted.
But, until then, I want to enjoy my Day 8. My husband is being really nice to me right now. He just has anger issues when things do not go his way, but I know that he really loves me, as he tells me this all of the time. People on the Al-Anon boards tell me that I never deserve to take verbal abuse, but I feel I can handle his anger at times. I am also a very sensitive person, and so sometimes I just need to brush it off or just walk away, or maybe leave the house to let him cool down. He has never laid a hand on me, nor do I think he ever will.
I remember our relationship was a lot better when I had time sober. So I think that the longer I stay sober and work on myself with AA and the steps, this will have a positive effect on our relationship.
I am aware that my off days will be the most difficult for me, as that is when my husband is off, and when he drinks the most. This Saturday we will be going to his sister's 30th birthday bash. I am going to try and stay strong on that day. In addition, I am going to be open with his family about how I recently relapsed but am now working on staying sober again and will hopefully have 13 days by that day. I will also let them know that I am going to AA so that they know I am serious about this. By being open about my sobriety, I feel that his family can be more understanding of what I am going through, and why I may therefore want to leave the party a bit early before everyone gets really wasted.
But, until then, I want to enjoy my Day 8. My husband is being really nice to me right now. He just has anger issues when things do not go his way, but I know that he really loves me, as he tells me this all of the time. People on the Al-Anon boards tell me that I never deserve to take verbal abuse, but I feel I can handle his anger at times. I am also a very sensitive person, and so sometimes I just need to brush it off or just walk away, or maybe leave the house to let him cool down. He has never laid a hand on me, nor do I think he ever will.
I remember our relationship was a lot better when I had time sober. So I think that the longer I stay sober and work on myself with AA and the steps, this will have a positive effect on our relationship.
Congrats on day 8 justbreathe
Now's a good time to make a plan for those off days and the weekend. Think about all the likely scenarios and temptations. Work out what your responses might be...
and, in the end, if it seems too much to handle right now, could you not go to the party this weekend?
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Now's a good time to make a plan for those off days and the weekend. Think about all the likely scenarios and temptations. Work out what your responses might be...
and, in the end, if it seems too much to handle right now, could you not go to the party this weekend?
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Congrats on day 8 justbreathe
Now's a good time to make a plan for those off days and the weekend. Think about all the likely scenarios and temptations. Work out what your responses might be...
and, in the end, if it seems too much to handle right now, could you not go to the party this weekend?
D
Now's a good time to make a plan for those off days and the weekend. Think about all the likely scenarios and temptations. Work out what your responses might be...
and, in the end, if it seems too much to handle right now, could you not go to the party this weekend?
D
Over a week is great JustBreathe. You could stay away from the party (explaining why to the birthday girl), and draw a line with your husband by doing what's best for you. He doesn't seem very supportive, and I get the feeling you're a bit afraid of him? Sorry if that's off-beam. Is there a dynamic in your relationship where avoiding his temper makes you give in even when you don't want to do something?
If you do go, my advice is to eat beforehand and get a large glass of your fave non-alcoholic drink into your hand as soon as you arrive. I take no chances and bring my own.
If you do go, my advice is to eat beforehand and get a large glass of your fave non-alcoholic drink into your hand as soon as you arrive. I take no chances and bring my own.
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Nice work Justbreathe1980 - Just take each day at a time. Treat yourself for getting through each event like the one you are mentioning. Also as you have already discovered, it gets easier with time. But never forget the early few days and how hard it was to get to were you are now, you don't want to go through all the again do you!
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Over a week is great JustBreathe. You could stay away from the party (explaining why to the birthday girl), and draw a line with your husband by doing what's best for you. He doesn't seem very supportive, and I get the feeling you're a bit afraid of him? Sorry if that's off-beam. Is there a dynamic in your relationship where avoiding his temper makes you give in even when you don't want to do something?
If you do go, my advice is to eat beforehand and get a large glass of your fave non-alcoholic drink into your hand as soon as you arrive. I take no chances and bring my own.
If you do go, my advice is to eat beforehand and get a large glass of your fave non-alcoholic drink into your hand as soon as you arrive. I take no chances and bring my own.
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Nice work Justbreathe1980 - Just take each day at a time. Treat yourself for getting through each event like the one you are mentioning. Also as you have already discovered, it gets easier with time. But never forget the early few days and how hard it was to get to were you are now, you don't want to go through all the again do you!
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