The Knowing Doing Gap
The Knowing Doing Gap
Have you found that this gap has closed in a big way in recovery? It took me decades to get the quit drinking thing right but the gap is still there in other things. For example, things like dealing with depression, diet, exercise and all of that. I often find myself doing the worst possible things that make the problems worse even though I know better. I often think that as far as self improvement goes it's a never ending uphill battle. Sorry for the late night rant...
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Yes Oh my, it's an understatement for me to say that I spent so much of my time gathering info, and seeking out patterns and making "connections" between so many things... I am an info addict for sure.
I worked on some specific things like better daily habits that have made me healthier, and more psychologically fit. So many of the gaps are closing, thankfully!
The biggest mind blower is that I've come to the conclusion that there was a philosophical gap between "becoming" and "being." That was the biggest gap that closed for me.
I worked on some specific things like better daily habits that have made me healthier, and more psychologically fit. So many of the gaps are closing, thankfully!
The biggest mind blower is that I've come to the conclusion that there was a philosophical gap between "becoming" and "being." That was the biggest gap that closed for me.
Totally get this. Have no problem saying no to crack or avoiding anyone who is doing it. Healthy eating and exercising? Did great for a while, but lately not so good.
I am a procrastinator, just like when I was using. Back then, it was "I'll get clean later; I'll deal with the consequences later". Now it's "I'll clean the house later, I'll get back to walking later". Character defect? Probably. Guess I really need to work on this as I'm over 7 years clean, but I'm doing it in baby steps, and it only adds to my stress.
Knowing and doing seem to be something I've not yet got the hang of
Hugs and prayers,
Amy
I am a procrastinator, just like when I was using. Back then, it was "I'll get clean later; I'll deal with the consequences later". Now it's "I'll clean the house later, I'll get back to walking later". Character defect? Probably. Guess I really need to work on this as I'm over 7 years clean, but I'm doing it in baby steps, and it only adds to my stress.
Knowing and doing seem to be something I've not yet got the hang of
Hugs and prayers,
Amy
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"Knowledge is power." -- Sir Francis Bacon
No. It isn't. A fatal flaw in Plato's philosophy; possessing genuine Knowledge or Truth, we will thereby do what is right. No. We won't.
"To know oneself, one should assert oneself. Psychology is action, not thinking about oneself. We continue to shape our personality all our life." -- Albert Camus
No. It isn't. A fatal flaw in Plato's philosophy; possessing genuine Knowledge or Truth, we will thereby do what is right. No. We won't.
"To know oneself, one should assert oneself. Psychology is action, not thinking about oneself. We continue to shape our personality all our life." -- Albert Camus
The gap between knowing and doing was the biggest frustration of my drinking days. I knew what I ought to do, but seemed totally unable to do it. Part of that was procrastination, a character defect that gives lots of people trouble.
Parkinson's law on procrastination " delay is the deadliest form of denial"
It was one of my glaring character defects, something I never fixed myself, but I found very early in sobriety that that pattern of behaviour had been removed. I noticed things that would usually be out off were getting done at the first opportunity. I didn't even think about it, it needed doing so I did it, and then later looked back and thought " that's not me".
But I suppose there is a difference between that which needs to be done and that which is optional. That which we ought to do and that which others think we should do. Perhaps we need to find a way to be true to ourselves.
Parkinson's law on procrastination " delay is the deadliest form of denial"
It was one of my glaring character defects, something I never fixed myself, but I found very early in sobriety that that pattern of behaviour had been removed. I noticed things that would usually be out off were getting done at the first opportunity. I didn't even think about it, it needed doing so I did it, and then later looked back and thought " that's not me".
But I suppose there is a difference between that which needs to be done and that which is optional. That which we ought to do and that which others think we should do. Perhaps we need to find a way to be true to ourselves.
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For me procrastination is another form of fear to address still too often. It’s fear of the unknown as it brings out my trying to be a perfectionist, knowing I’m not so I procrastinate UNTIL....
Depression is anger turned inward I just read in a search that was interesting.
BE WELL
Depression is anger turned inward I just read in a search that was interesting.
BE WELL
I get that. Especially with my health. I know I should be doing certain things because eventually it will catch up with me. I knew I should quit drinking long before I actually tried. For me it was a gap of realizing how important it was and then realizing I actually do have a choice. If I know I should do something and then don't I tend to minimize the importance or tell myself that is just how life is.
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Perhaps we need to find a way to be true to ourselves.
Yup, its there. However, I will say that it has all but disappeared since I got Sober. When I was drinking, knowing/doing gap basically applied to EVERYTHING....cleaning, bills, health, quitting drinking.
Very sad, how much I let fall by the wayside.
Bunnez
Very sad, how much I let fall by the wayside.
Bunnez
Have you found that this gap has closed in a big way in recovery? It took me decades to get the quit drinking thing right but the gap is still there in other things. For example, things like dealing with depression, diet, exercise and all of that. I often find myself doing the worst possible things that make the problems worse even though I know better. I often think that as far as self improvement goes it's a never ending uphill battle. Sorry for the late night rant...
For me not drinking gave me a free pass to accomplish other things in life I had been neglecting for so many years. Only because I had more energy. Now after 19 months of sobriety I find myself struggling to get motivated on areas that need improvement.
I think its normal for us. We don't need to tackle everything. Makes me wonder if king alcohol is even more cunning than realized. Waiting for us to trip up.
good post, thank you.
I think its normal for us. We don't need to tackle everything. Makes me wonder if king alcohol is even more cunning than realized. Waiting for us to trip up.
good post, thank you.
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