Frightened and don't know where to start
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I'm on my 4th day alcohol free and it's so hard!! I went out for lunch and had coffee, I really wanted a glass of wine but I'm glad I resisted. I survived my first booze free weekend in a while. I don't feel unwell but I do feel quite spacey and detached, I feel like being on my own and not chatting at all, very low in every. It's nice not having a headache is the morning though.
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Welcome ashamed. I'm new here too and the support here is wonderful and inspiring. We're all in need of support from time to time
Especially in these difficult early days.
We're behind you!
Especially in these difficult early days.
We're behind you!
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Hi ashamedmum, I'm on day 2 and im a mum too. Just want to be healthy so I can be around for my little boy. You can do it, you're doing really well to get to day 4. I'm also worried about life being boring without alcohol especially when out socialising. But the thought of not being around for my son is worse. I'm know it's not gonna be easy but you've made a great start 
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Day 5 and we're having a lovely Sunny day here in Melbourne! Perfect day for a wine with lunch at least...I've resisted though and I'm really proud of myself, I think my family are quite shocked! I'm really lacking in energy and miss the buzz that first drink gives me, sometimes even gives me motivation to clean the house! But I know it's a spiral after that and overall it makes me fed up and depressed.
I keep going round in my head, maybe I could just cut out the day time drinking and have one or two wines when our for Dinner. But I know from experience I can't do that. There are some dinners out in the next couple of months with a friend planned and we both love getting quite drunk, I'm nervous and not sure if I should cancel, I couldn't imagine an evening out alcohol free at this point...I hated it when I was pregnant. I sure am craving alcohol....
I keep going round in my head, maybe I could just cut out the day time drinking and have one or two wines when our for Dinner. But I know from experience I can't do that. There are some dinners out in the next couple of months with a friend planned and we both love getting quite drunk, I'm nervous and not sure if I should cancel, I couldn't imagine an evening out alcohol free at this point...I hated it when I was pregnant. I sure am craving alcohol....
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We've already bought tickets to the event, I may just be upfront with my friend though and tell her I'm not drinking.
One week today, surprised I've done it! I feel like I want to reward myself with a glass of wine, but I won't. I feel so tired, lethargic and boring! I'm hoping my antidepressants kick in soon
One week today, surprised I've done it! I feel like I want to reward myself with a glass of wine, but I won't. I feel so tired, lethargic and boring! I'm hoping my antidepressants kick in soon
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It's funny how we think of something that is damaging and poisonous to us as a reward, isn't it?! It makes no sense. It's a learned go-to response that can be changed. Reward yourself with something else you like. Something good to eat, new clothes or shoes, a pedicure....whatever gets you through and makes you feel like you've treated yourself.
Hang in there. You are doing great! xo
Hang in there. You are doing great! xo
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good on ya ashamed! 5,10,20,etc years may seem like a long time, but most of us with 5,10,20,etc years know that 7 days is an eternity.
getting sober was the hardest thing I ever did. I had to fight my arse off to not pick up a drink. but I knew in my heart it was not a solution for anything that was gonna work so I fought.and fought. and fought.
it took T.I.M.E but it got easier. staying sober has been relatively easy. doesn't mean I don't have unexpected things come up in life that are rather difficult, but I get through them and the great blessing is without wanting to drink! however, the main thing that has made it easy has been major changes in my thinkin and actions, which that took time and practice.
give it time. IF you WANT to stay sober more than anything else and do it for you you can!!
and then you can change yer username to proudmom! which I think you should change that now.
yer not a bad person. just sick.
but theres a solution!!
getting sober was the hardest thing I ever did. I had to fight my arse off to not pick up a drink. but I knew in my heart it was not a solution for anything that was gonna work so I fought.and fought. and fought.
it took T.I.M.E but it got easier. staying sober has been relatively easy. doesn't mean I don't have unexpected things come up in life that are rather difficult, but I get through them and the great blessing is without wanting to drink! however, the main thing that has made it easy has been major changes in my thinkin and actions, which that took time and practice.
give it time. IF you WANT to stay sober more than anything else and do it for you you can!!
and then you can change yer username to proudmom! which I think you should change that now.
yer not a bad person. just sick.
but theres a solution!!
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