It's been a year . . .
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It's been a year . . .
I came to the forum a year ago, almost to the day. At the time my husband had just been arrested for a DUI and I was scared, depressed, and anxious. Well, the legal part is over. He was able to plead to a reduced charge and had the arrest expunged from his record. He has a restricted license, but he is still able to drive, and will get his full license back in a few months. Our car insurance increased by about $50 a month. And, thankfully, his employer never found out, so he was able to keep his job.
One of the things that he was required to do was take an alcohol awareness class. At first he was pretty dismissive about the whole thing, but after a few of the classes he became really concerned. He said he learned that we both are alcoholics and that the only way to deal with that was to abstain. If not, we stand to lose so many things, our health being probably the most prevalent. I don't even want to think too deeply about how this has affected our kids. It tears me up with guilt.
I knew this before he even told me. I had quit last year for a few weeks and felt great, but then I convinced myself (several times) that I could moderate. I can't moderate. I know that deep down. So we are both on day one. I'm doing the one day at a time approach because I can't look that ahead without feeling like I'm losing something. I am looking at it as a breakup with a toxic friend, so I'm sure I'll be anxious and sad for a while, but I am determined to change my life.
Just wanted to share this with you all. Everyone was great last year and gave me some really good advice. I feel like I need to have some control over my life again without alcohol getting in the way.
One of the things that he was required to do was take an alcohol awareness class. At first he was pretty dismissive about the whole thing, but after a few of the classes he became really concerned. He said he learned that we both are alcoholics and that the only way to deal with that was to abstain. If not, we stand to lose so many things, our health being probably the most prevalent. I don't even want to think too deeply about how this has affected our kids. It tears me up with guilt.
I knew this before he even told me. I had quit last year for a few weeks and felt great, but then I convinced myself (several times) that I could moderate. I can't moderate. I know that deep down. So we are both on day one. I'm doing the one day at a time approach because I can't look that ahead without feeling like I'm losing something. I am looking at it as a breakup with a toxic friend, so I'm sure I'll be anxious and sad for a while, but I am determined to change my life.
Just wanted to share this with you all. Everyone was great last year and gave me some really good advice. I feel like I need to have some control over my life again without alcohol getting in the way.
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The only thing your giving up is misery and pain. You can do this. Life is better without alcohol. Its poison. Alcohol is not ur friend. It wants to kill you. Please do not be fooled by the illusion of drinking. When your drinking your killing your body and life one day at a time. Alcoholism won't stop till you're dead. Sorry to be so direct celticgirl. Just give this crap up. Like I said, you can do this.
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I am looking at it as a breakup with a toxic friend,
that feeling passes tho and brighter days are ahead. hang in there and 1 day at a time really is the only way.
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