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Originally Posted by SunnyMe 
Congratulations on one week, Bluebird!
And it's awesome that you're going to church! It does help, at least in my experience. For me, I wasn't able to maintain emotional sobriety on church alone. I had to have AA.
It's ok not to be a people person in AA, by the way. We have a wonderful tradition of take what you want and leave the rest behind. I've sponsored introverts and they do just fine. Their program looks a little different than some others', but that's ok.
Blessings! Enjoy your relaxed Sunday!
And it's awesome that you're going to church! It does help, at least in my experience. For me, I wasn't able to maintain emotional sobriety on church alone. I had to have AA.
It's ok not to be a people person in AA, by the way. We have a wonderful tradition of take what you want and leave the rest behind. I've sponsored introverts and they do just fine. Their program looks a little different than some others', but that's ok.
Blessings! Enjoy your relaxed Sunday!
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Originally Posted by doggonecarl
Good for giving it another go.
Yes, I think that's why you struggle. Thinking you can lick this on your own. Lot of people have found success outside of AA. You don't seem to be that person.
Working the steps without a sponsor? That's like teaching yourself karate in your bedroom.
Yes, I think that's why you struggle. Thinking you can lick this on your own. Lot of people have found success outside of AA. You don't seem to be that person.
Working the steps without a sponsor? That's like teaching yourself karate in your bedroom.
I understand though, you need to do it your way. I was like that too. Good luck...AA and other programs will be here for you if your way does not work out.
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Hi Bluebird, I only use this forum, I don't feel I want to go to AA, it's just not for me.
But the help I got here was enormous and encouraging. I found, though, what the recovery meant, it's as if the booze was hiding the reality of life which I now face, sober. It's amazing how we kid ourselves, or I kidded myself for quite a few years. Though, when not having the booze to fog my brain up I was able to start understanding and dealing with any situations I had to face.
But the help I got here was enormous and encouraging. I found, though, what the recovery meant, it's as if the booze was hiding the reality of life which I now face, sober. It's amazing how we kid ourselves, or I kidded myself for quite a few years. Though, when not having the booze to fog my brain up I was able to start understanding and dealing with any situations I had to face.
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Originally Posted by jdooner
Actually the Big Book specifically addresses this as a "softer way." IT also addresses the outcome for many who try this.
I understand though, you need to do it your way. I was like that too. Good luck...AA and other programs will be here for you if your way does not work out.
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Originally Posted by Mags1
Hi Bluebird, I only use this forum, I don't feel I want to go to AA, it's just not for me.
But the help I got here was enormous and encouraging. I found, though, what the recovery meant, it's as if the booze was hiding the reality of life which I now face, sober. It's amazing how we kid ourselves, or I kidded myself for quite a few years. Though, when not having the booze to fog my brain up I was able to start understanding and dealing with any situations I had to face.
But the help I got here was enormous and encouraging. I found, though, what the recovery meant, it's as if the booze was hiding the reality of life which I now face, sober. It's amazing how we kid ourselves, or I kidded myself for quite a few years. Though, when not having the booze to fog my brain up I was able to start understanding and dealing with any situations I had to face.
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Hey Bluebird
Glad you had a sober Sunday, keep it going, no matter what happens
Keep it fresh, next time the thought of a drink arises, read some of your old posts, stay away from the first drink, take care Of yourself.
Bloss
Glad you had a sober Sunday, keep it going, no matter what happens
Keep it fresh, next time the thought of a drink arises, read some of your old posts, stay away from the first drink, take care Of yourself.
Bloss
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Originally Posted by bloss
Hey Bluebird
Glad you had a sober Sunday, keep it going, no matter what happens
Keep it fresh, next time the thought of a drink arises, read some of your old posts, stay away from the first drink, take care Of yourself.
Bloss
Glad you had a sober Sunday, keep it going, no matter what happens
Keep it fresh, next time the thought of a drink arises, read some of your old posts, stay away from the first drink, take care Of yourself.
Bloss
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Tuesday over and done with, finding work more bearable. Don't even know how I cope when drinking, I suppose I don't very well looking back.
Feeling much more positive.
Thanks
Feeling much more positive.
Thanks
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I totally get where you're coming from with AA, every meeting I've attended I'm the youngest one there, and there's a lot of talk about God, and a lot of born again Christians, which is great, if you find God and that leads to your recovery,each to their own, I know it's meant to be non denominational and non religious but if you read the big book you'll read that even if you thought you didn't believe in God, if you look deep inside yourself you'll see you believe in a higher power, that never sat easy with me. In saying that I've met a few people at AA who are atheists and it doesn't seem to bother them they just take strength from the recovering alcoholics around them
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Originally Posted by hopeforsobriety
I totally get where you're coming from with AA, every meeting I've attended I'm the youngest one there, and there's a lot of talk about God, and a lot of born again Christians, which is great, if you find God and that leads to your recovery,each to their own, I know it's meant to be non denominational and non religious but if you read the big book you'll read that even if you thought you didn't believe in God, if you look deep inside yourself you'll see you believe in a higher power, that never sat easy with me. In saying that I've met a few people at AA who are atheists and it doesn't seem to bother them they just take strength from the recovering alcoholics around them
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