karate

Im going to get through this sober .

Coldfusion

K, don't you have some sober friends or numbers from AA you could call?

karate

Have lots of good friends ,They have been very supportive .

karate

Drinking is just not my thing these days .

I already knew that

Boleo

You've said that dozens of times over the last few months. You have also said:

...dozens of times over the last few months. When are you going to see Einstein's definition of insanity:

"Doing the same thing over and over again - expecting different results."

Shining~Again

I'm so sorry to hear about your grandma.
Hopefully you will be surrounded by support of family and friends to help you through this.
My grandmother was the first person to die in my family. I was devastated for a long time.
Please take good care of yourself, Karate.

grubby

Ouch.

I don't think anyone will fault you for slipping up a day in the face of TWO back-to-back traumatic experiences in such a short period of time........... just be careful here, 7 am to 10 pm? that's a long time to be drinking.

With regards to the whole lawyer thing, im going to disagree with some other posters here............ you should always always ALWAYS consult with an attorney as soon as possible when faced with any impending legal battle. It's just not smart to wait around while the other side gets the head start on you, it's simply not good strategy. Is it a good idea to detox from XYZ substance without some sort of medical supervision?? Exactly. So why would court stuff be any different? Be smart, be pro-active, protect yourself

Try to take it easy, a divorce and a death in the family in the span of a few days? that's rough man...........

be well

ScottFromWI

It was on Sunday. What changed between then and now?

You need help on this one Karate, plain and simple. Buying a dirt bike or "working hard" isn't going to cut it this time. The tough guy attitude only goes so far, and at some point you need to realize your limitations. You have said in the past that you have a wonderful home group and that you are invited to speak at the meetings - call some numbers today. Go to a meeting today. Call your doctor today and make sure he knows about all thats' going on - seeing a counselor might help.

When times are the toughest the strongest thing you can do is ask for help - i hope you do.

Bostonsportsfan

I'm rooting for you Karate, but you should really try to commit to being sober. You seem to want sobriety, but have slip ups now and then. On a different note I hope everything works out for you and your wife.

Hawkeye13

Hang in there Karate
Facing it sober will actually help, believe it or not.

Your mother, and your grandmother, needs you fully there in mind and body.

You can do this.

karate

Granny died about 1 minute before I got to the hospital .

Cant take very many more punches to the gut .

Cow

Yes, I "miss" some big moments in my own life and others cuz I drunk. I not saying I would has been pillar of wisdom, solace and support had I been sober, but, good, bad or ugly, I would has shown up.

Dee74

I'm very sorry for your loss Karate.
The tendency is to numb grief - don't do that.

Grief and sadness are natural reactions to tragedy - let yourself feel - that's the way we process things, make sense of them, make peace with them and move forward.

There's absolutely no reason for you to deal with this alone.
Reach out and find support or ask for help.

D

Cow

Is very hard to see bigger perspective right now, Karate. For you grandmama, was time to pass. It not in you control that you no make it there in time. My momma die in the 30 second I leave room to get something. I sure you grandmama never wish for you to feel "punch in gut" over this, yes? Mourn her, and keeps her close to you heart. My thoughts is with you.

Archelon

You can say "grandma, in your honor I am going to drink" or "grandma in your honor I am going to get sober."

She lived her life. I hope it was long and good.

This is your life, do you want to live sober?

ImperfectlyMe

I'm so sorry karate my heart hurts for all the loss you are facing! Prayers your way, I hope things look up soon.

SoberLeigh

Very, very sorry Karate. Seek out grief support and, of course, lean on us.

I spent thousands and thousands of hours with and caring for my Mom in the years leading to her death. Like Cow, my Mom died when I was not in the room. I was destroyed by her aloneness in death but very wise friends convinced me that Mom chose her time - that she wanted to do it her way. I have since heard similar stories over and over again.

Be comforted, Karate.

jdooner

I am sorry Karate. I know how much she meant to you. She would be so proud of how much you have grown if she could have read all your posts. Stay strong for her man!

songthread

I'm sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.

Jeni26

Karate...I'm missing my own Grandmother today. She died many years ago, but I still have days where it hurts and today is one of them.

I like to think my Nan is looking down on me now and smiling at the life choices I'm making. I have no doubt that she is somewhere near me in spirit. It is a comfort to me to think that we are still connected even now.

Losing someone we love is the hardest thing...think about what she would be wanting for you. You've got your life ahead of you. Take the lessons she taught you with you and move forward.

Hugs to you