the sadest thing about alcaholism
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the sadest thing about alcaholism
For me, the hardest thing about being an alcoholic, for 12 years, the thing which ruined my life, was missed opportunities. I used to play violin and "could have and would have" played in orchestras professionally if I hadn't destroyed my life.
In your experience, whats the hardest, saddest most difficult thing about dealing with alcoholism?
In your experience, whats the hardest, saddest most difficult thing about dealing with alcoholism?
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Originally Posted by fallinggrace 
For me, the hardest thing about being an alcoholic, for 12 years, the thing which ruined my life, was missed opportunities. I used to play violin and "could have and would have" played in orchestras professionally if I hadn't destroyed my life.
In your experience, whats the hardest, saddest most difficult thing about dealing with alcoholism?
In your experience, whats the hardest, saddest most difficult thing about dealing with alcoholism?
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Woulda shoulda couldas lead to drinking for me. I'll let someone else have the self pity. I'll take a fresh cup of coffee and a sunrise, hold the hangover, please. Watching my old drinking buddies suffer and die hurts. I know that detachment, sometimes even "no contact" are necessary for my own personal health but it can be sad. This week has been grim that way.
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Originally Posted by gaffo
Woulda shoulda couldas lead to drinking for me. I'll let someone else have the self pity. I'll take a fresh cup of coffee and a sunrise, hold the hangover, please. Watching my old drinking buddies suffer and die hurts. I know that detachment, sometimes even "no contact" are necessary for my own personal health but it can be sad. This week has been grim that way.
I agree a morning without a hangover is priceless .
I follow up the coffee with a diet coke and a pinch of Copenhagen .
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I revocered most if not all my missed opportunities.
The saddest thing for me was not being able to see the solution when it was right in front of me. I could have saved myself a lot of pain and humiliation.
And the saddest thing today is to see others like that. Unable to see what is right in front of them.
But, you can only see what you can see when you can see it. You can only hear what you can hear when you can hear it,
The saddest thing for me was not being able to see the solution when it was right in front of me. I could have saved myself a lot of pain and humiliation.
And the saddest thing today is to see others like that. Unable to see what is right in front of them.
But, you can only see what you can see when you can see it. You can only hear what you can hear when you can hear it,
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Hardest, difficult most saddest thing?
Wasting years and years of my life being a shadow of the parent I could and should have been. I try not to spend too much time reflecting on that now though because if I'm not careful it can destroy the present.
Today I'm the Mum I always knew I could be. There's a lot of laughter in our house and my relationship with them both is the biggest light in my life.
Try not to dwell in the past. I don't know how old you are, but is there still a future for you with the violin. There is life after alcoholism and it's a great one
Wasting years and years of my life being a shadow of the parent I could and should have been. I try not to spend too much time reflecting on that now though because if I'm not careful it can destroy the present.
Today I'm the Mum I always knew I could be. There's a lot of laughter in our house and my relationship with them both is the biggest light in my life.
Try not to dwell in the past. I don't know how old you are, but is there still a future for you with the violin. There is life after alcoholism and it's a great one
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Jeni's right of course about the other side of the coin and I was remiss in not mentioning that
There is life after recovery and it's a good life
I used to be a semi-pro musician...I still play music - it's not about the fame, it's about the music and I like that now.
there's nothing stopping you doing the same, fallinggrace
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There is life after recovery and it's a good life
I used to be a semi-pro musician...I still play music - it's not about the fame, it's about the music and I like that now.
there's nothing stopping you doing the same, fallinggrace
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The saddest thing for me is the lost years, a 'good enough' parent to my child. Now she is dead, and I can never make it right.
The good things I have learned from my tragedy is to never ever take for granted the precious moments we only have a limited amount of, time spent with those I love. To live joyfully, in the moment and to continuously strive to be a better person today than I was yesterday..
The good things I have learned from my tragedy is to never ever take for granted the precious moments we only have a limited amount of, time spent with those I love. To live joyfully, in the moment and to continuously strive to be a better person today than I was yesterday..
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fallinggrace, I am utterly jealous that you can play violin! I don't have a musical bone in my body but I'd love to be talented in that area.
Can I ask why you can't start now? I go to orchestral concerts often and there is a huge age range amongst the artists.
Can I ask why you can't start now? I go to orchestral concerts often and there is a huge age range amongst the artists.
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