Encouragement
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Join Date: Dec 2012
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Encouragement
just here for some encouraging words really, im 1 month and a day sober and Im feeling completely neglected by the family and im starting to think about drinking again, since I quit I have not had them ask how I am or how im doing, I get ignored all day 
I didn't even get a happy birthday yesterday which really depressed me so im here just getting this out as I have no where else to talk about this kind of stuff.
on another note I hope all you guys and gals are well and are getting on well
I didn't even get a happy birthday yesterday which really depressed me so im here just getting this out as I have no where else to talk about this kind of stuff.on another note I hope all you guys and gals are well and are getting on well
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Join Date: Aug 2013
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First and foremost HAPPY BIRTHDAY! 
30 days is AWESOME!!!
Now go do something nice for yourself to celebrate. Splurge on a new pair of shoes, or a massage, or some concert tickets or a new guitar! From time to time its OK to pat yourself on the back for a job so far, well done.
You've earned it
30 days is AWESOME!!!
Now go do something nice for yourself to celebrate. Splurge on a new pair of shoes, or a massage, or some concert tickets or a new guitar! From time to time its OK to pat yourself on the back for a job so far, well done.
You've earned it
Phoenix Rising Again
Join Date: Mar 2014
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Happy birthday and congrats on 30 days! That's awesome!
I'm sorry about the behavior of your family. Hang in there and keep up your sobriety.
You'll always have your SR family here to root for you!
I'm sorry about the behavior of your family. Hang in there and keep up your sobriety.
You'll always have your SR family here to root for you!
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Join Date: Oct 2013
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2Happy Birthday and Cograts on your 30 days
Sometimes family doesn't say anything since they don't want to pressure you or want
to expect too much. Sometimes they just need more time to know the change is real and lasting.
You are doing great--have faith and know that sobriety benefits you most of all
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Join Date: Nov 2013
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Happy birthday for yesterday.
You are doing so good, hang in there. I am sorry that they are not recognising you at this time but in the end it is about you and how wonderful you are going. Don't let anyone or anything threaten your sobriety. You might not quite realize it yet but your sobriety could very well be your most valuable possession.
You are doing so good, hang in there. I am sorry that they are not recognising you at this time but in the end it is about you and how wonderful you are going. Don't let anyone or anything threaten your sobriety. You might not quite realize it yet but your sobriety could very well be your most valuable possession.
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Join Date: Jun 2013
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Happy Birthday Paul.
How did your family treat you while you were drinking? Did they neglect you before you stopped?
It's still early for you. Bear in mind that you're getting sober in order to live a better life. Not everyone is able to get on board with that. There are no medals, no diplomas, no certificates and no external rewards for getting sober.
Here on SR, all you need to do is extend your hand, and you'll get plenty of supportive attention.
How did your family treat you while you were drinking? Did they neglect you before you stopped?
It's still early for you. Bear in mind that you're getting sober in order to live a better life. Not everyone is able to get on board with that. There are no medals, no diplomas, no certificates and no external rewards for getting sober.
Here on SR, all you need to do is extend your hand, and you'll get plenty of supportive attention.
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HB-Day
endgame, hawkeye: I concur with these remarks. Trust is earned not granted. No-one can know the whys or thoughts of others. I don't know the story, only you know your situation. Give it some thought as to why they may have ignored you. Since I cannot know the situation, this may sound stupid or foolish. If a dog bites you when you tried to pet it for years and someone tells the dog quit biting last month, are you going to reach out and pet it? It's a reach for an analogy but think about it.
Just keep on keepin on and eventually when you have proven to yourself first, then others, they will reach out to you.
Good luck. Stay sober.
Just keep on keepin on and eventually when you have proven to yourself first, then others, they will reach out to you.
Good luck. Stay sober.
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Happy belated birthday, and I second what everyone else says. Your sobriety is the most important thing atm, you are doing it for you...dont expect people to cheer you on, in time they may be more supportive, but it takes time. Even if theyre not you are doing brilliantly, keep at it. Please do not pick up that drink.
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thanks everyone or those asking my family are all alcoholics and carry on drinking all the time in front of me even tho they know I have quit but they have never really been a loving family anyway you guys have made me feel a lot better so thank you sooooooo much!
or those asking my family are all alcoholics and carry on drinking all the time in front of me even tho they know I have quit but they have never really been a loving family anyway you guys have made me feel a lot better so thank you sooooooo much!
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Thats not a good environment to be in, if theyre drinking they are zoned into themselves Id imagine. Get out of the house, go for a walk, that is not a healthy place to be in right now. I feel for you, staying sober is hard enough without it being in your face 24/7
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would love to Dee but no, money is the main issue.
I have been suffering with a anxiety and panic disorder for years and that stopped me before but now im ready to move out because being here is making me ill but I cant
I have been suffering with a anxiety and panic disorder for years and that stopped me before but now im ready to move out because being here is making me ill but I cant
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Hey Paul,
You shed some light on the issue. Thank You.
This is MY opinion. And it is only an opinion.
Understanding the situation a little more, perhaps there is a feeling of abandonment from you peeps. THIS IS ONLY CONJECTURE. Imagine a football team. Their star player one day decides he doesn't want to play football anymore. He quits the team to take up bad-mitten. The football team will feel resentment and may even chastise or belittle their former star for quitting.
The best I can offer aside from what others have already mentioned is, "Welcome to the bad-mitten team!"
Do your best to remain abstinent and to carry on as best as you can. Avoid the temptation to rejoin the old team.
You shed some light on the issue. Thank You.
This is MY opinion. And it is only an opinion.
Understanding the situation a little more, perhaps there is a feeling of abandonment from you peeps. THIS IS ONLY CONJECTURE. Imagine a football team. Their star player one day decides he doesn't want to play football anymore. He quits the team to take up bad-mitten. The football team will feel resentment and may even chastise or belittle their former star for quitting.
The best I can offer aside from what others have already mentioned is, "Welcome to the bad-mitten team!"
Do your best to remain abstinent and to carry on as best as you can. Avoid the temptation to rejoin the old team.
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