Sad sad day yesterday
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Sad sad day yesterday
My little buddy and his companion got out the night before - I guess all the wind got them a bit frazzled and they escaped. I got a call yesterday early that he had been hit by a car. I had to go get the little guy's body and bury him. I still remember the day I brought him home as a puppy...he whimpered every night to be held by me and my wife. Burying him with tears down my face was hard, but it was cathartic.
It was such a difficult day...my oldest was so upset, my wife was too. My other doggy who was with him when it happened also took it hard and was very anxious. I said **** it and had some beers. I just felt like crap and didn't know what else to do. I drank four beers over the course of about four hours...didn't get drunk or anything...just used it to deal with the pain. I usually drink 2-3 beers in a sitting now and felt that one extra wouldn't be that big of a deal. It wasn't but I'm feeling a bit guilty about going over my limit. I had about 15 more beers in the refrigerator - the old me would have downed about 7-8 of those. But, I knew a hangover would only add to my sadness this morning.
I'm not sure the point of this post. God, I hate that my doggy died that way.
It was such a difficult day...my oldest was so upset, my wife was too. My other doggy who was with him when it happened also took it hard and was very anxious. I said **** it and had some beers. I just felt like crap and didn't know what else to do. I drank four beers over the course of about four hours...didn't get drunk or anything...just used it to deal with the pain. I usually drink 2-3 beers in a sitting now and felt that one extra wouldn't be that big of a deal. It wasn't but I'm feeling a bit guilty about going over my limit. I had about 15 more beers in the refrigerator - the old me would have downed about 7-8 of those. But, I knew a hangover would only add to my sadness this morning.
I'm not sure the point of this post. God, I hate that my doggy died that way.
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Oh no; I feel so badly for you, crossfitdad; what a gut- wrenching experience. I can only imagine your great, great sadness; dogs are such an integral part of the family.
I know it sounds harsh, but do try to get right back on track; we can't let life derail us; there are always going to be challenges; we need to find healthy ways to meet them. I know, easy for me to say, huh.
I know it sounds harsh, but do try to get right back on track; we can't let life derail us; there are always going to be challenges; we need to find healthy ways to meet them. I know, easy for me to say, huh.
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Losing a beloved pet is a hard thing. I feel for you, having lost one just weeks ago.
If you love a pet, and you lose it tragically, you should feel some pain. Perfectly normal. It'd be abnormal if it didn't hurt. How does one deal with the pain of grief? By grieving. It's a process. How'd your son deal with it? Your wife? Not by drinking.
Life is full of grief and pain. You better learn to accept it. Sober.
Originally Posted by Crossfitdad 
I drank four beers over the course of about four hours...didn't get drunk or anything...just used it to deal with the pain.
Life is full of grief and pain. You better learn to accept it. Sober.
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Sorry for your loss. I have two dogs myself and I could not imagine being in your shoes right now.
You comment and seem to be hung up on the amount you drink in other posts. The fact you turn to alcohol to cope is a major red flag. Again, its not the amount its how you use the substance. Using a substance or behavior that is not good for you to compensate for something you are lacking naturally is one of the primary roots of addiction.
You comment and seem to be hung up on the amount you drink in other posts. The fact you turn to alcohol to cope is a major red flag. Again, its not the amount its how you use the substance. Using a substance or behavior that is not good for you to compensate for something you are lacking naturally is one of the primary roots of addiction.
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Losing a dog like like that was one of the worst nights of my life.
I had several years sobriety at the time, so (thank goodness) it didn't occur to me to drink.
You hang in there, ......
Carl , thanks for saying what needed to be said. I know you mean it in the most loving way.
I had several years sobriety at the time, so (thank goodness) it didn't occur to me to drink.
You hang in there, ......
Carl , thanks for saying what needed to be said. I know you mean it in the most loving way.
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I'm sorry for your loss CFD.
I know you're hurting now.
In a few days tho I hope you'll come back and re-read Carl's and jdooners' posts.
It's an important topic I really think you need to face.
D
I know you're hurting now.
In a few days tho I hope you'll come back and re-read Carl's and jdooners' posts.
It's an important topic I really think you need to face.
D
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Fragile Circle
We who choose to surround ourselves with
lives even more temporary than our own, live within a fragile circle, easily and often breached.
Unable to accept its awful gaps, we still would live no other way.
We cherish memory as the only certain immortality,
never fully understanding the necessary plan.
Irving Townsend, "The Once Again Prince," Separate Lifetimes, 1986. Used by permission
We who choose to surround ourselves with
lives even more temporary than our own, live within a fragile circle, easily and often breached.
Unable to accept its awful gaps, we still would live no other way.
We cherish memory as the only certain immortality,
never fully understanding the necessary plan.
Irving Townsend, "The Once Again Prince," Separate Lifetimes, 1986. Used by permission
I am so sorry for the loss of your dog.
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