matt4x4

have to be apart of recovery. I know lots of people who are what I like to call one-timers. They get it right away and do not relapse after having recieved the correct information. They follow to the best of their ability everything that is required to stay sober today. Progression not perfection is all that is needed. If I am not progressing I am moving backwards towards that next drunk. And for me, to pick up that drink and believe the lie that it will be different this time, to drink is to die. Because I die mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically. Everything about me dies. I can get back to life if I dont drink and follow some simple spiritual suggestions. And a suggestion is a subtle command. It is suggested that you brake for red lights.

karate

I like a fool always go back ,The volume of drinking I do is not enough to effect my life .

BUT -it is enough to get my stomach messed up .

Mountainmanbob

I had many relapses over the years
seems that I always got to a point in time where I thought to myself
it will be different this time -- yes I can handle it now

but -- being a little different that you karate
the volume of my drinking did effect my life
and others around me

Mountainman

jdooner

For the life of me I don't understand why you hang out on a sober website. I am going to guess the answer is deep down you know what you write is not true. You post to try and convince yourself of the lies you tell yourself to rationalize the ability to drink.

I hope one day you wake up bc you are clearly sleepwalking through your life Karate.

Matt4x4 - I agree with your post 100% - well done.

SoberMama13

Matt, I hope to be one of your "one timers"
I'm almost 4 months sober, for the first time, and I pray I never go back!
Don't think I have another sobriety date in me.
THanks for the encouragement. It gets hard for me when I hear that relapses are part of the program. I don't want it to be for me....

jdooner

Sobermama - I went to AA in '96/97. I never worked the steps and went back out in 98 and quit in 8/27/13. I am not sure if the 8/27/13 counts as one time but I don't think I have another quit in me either. So I am holding onto my sobriety with every ounce of my being.

Relapses are not part of the program! Relaspes happen if you are not honest, open and willing and work a rigorous program. Many people want some magic pill to be happy or fixed but few do the work. If you work your program you will remain sober in my opinion.