When the obsession returns.
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When the obsession returns.
God I hate feeling trapped by my circumstances. Either way I turn I will suffer either financially, physically or emotionally. 7 months on the water wagon and I am not feeling any choice but to continue down this path of sobriety. I don't want to be an alcoholic and drug addict, I fantasize about IV-heroin use and dream about drinking/using. But I know too much now, AA/NA + my past has ruined any chance I have of rationalizing a relapse. So where does that leave me? Stone-cold sobriety. At 28 years old. Gods will for my life is not making me happy right now, I can't take a day off from this sh!t.
Sometimes being sober does suck, especially in the beginning. But that's just because we fantasize about using. We have this romanticized idea about what alcohol or drugs did for us, and we feel we are missing out. But that's not the truth. There is a reason you stopped using, and it probably wasn't because drugs and alcohol were so awesome and beneficial for your life.
Stay the course. It does get better. Thoughts are just thoughts; I don't have to act on them. And if it makes you feel any better, 28 isn't all that young (hmm, maybe that will make you feel worse ). I was 24 when I got sober, and a lot of people on here were even younger, some in their teens. It's never too early or late to live the life you want.
Stay the course. It does get better. Thoughts are just thoughts; I don't have to act on them. And if it makes you feel any better, 28 isn't all that young (hmm, maybe that will make you feel worse ). I was 24 when I got sober, and a lot of people on here were even younger, some in their teens. It's never too early or late to live the life you want.
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Young and Clean I know you don't feel like you have a lot of reasons to feel great right now. But its true a lot of us here wish we had changed our ways in our 20's - and seen the light so to speak.
Your brain is going through healing , with time you feel loads of joy about normal things that seem boring now. But it takes time to heal.
Try to romanticise the future, fantasise about the things you can do with the money you will save going forward not being ruled by a substance.
You are at a brilliant age to make a brilliant life for yourself. As we all are, no matter our age.
Your brain is going through healing , with time you feel loads of joy about normal things that seem boring now. But it takes time to heal.
Try to romanticise the future, fantasise about the things you can do with the money you will save going forward not being ruled by a substance.
You are at a brilliant age to make a brilliant life for yourself. As we all are, no matter our age.
Either way I turn I will suffer either financially, physically or emotionally.
I don't know what your circumstances are but it's usually not true we can't change them - it may involve pain and a little fear, but there's always a way that leads to change and hopefully better times.
Build a life you love - and work on whatever is stopping you from doing that right now YAC
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great chance to redefine yourself... and build the life you want. There is a blessing in everyday.. we just have to look for it. There isn't anything great about jumping back on the rollercoaster and self destructing..... its a painful life when the buzz wears off.... keep going, people don't tend to regret their sober time.......
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Originally Posted by youngandclean
So where does that leave me? Stone-cold sobriety. At 28 years old.
Originally Posted by youngandclean
I can't take a day off from this sh!t.
Congratulations on staying sober! Are you going to meetings, have a sponsor? I also got drink signals and just talking about it, sharing in meetings, kept the monster (craving) at bay. REMEMBER: YOU DON'T HAVE TO DRINK. IT'S ONLY TODAY YOU DON'T DRINK.
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Thank you all for the support. I think a lot of my problems comes from being unable to stop future-tripping, creating thoughts like "oh the rest of my life is too long to be sober." One day at a time is a good thing but it's hard because in the back of my head I know that whether I drink tomorrow or 5 years from now, to drink is to die. I suppose I'm still mourning my old way of life. As terrible as it was, it was what I knew to get me through the monotonous days of discontent. But I didn't drink yesterday so thank you SR.
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Originally Posted by youngandclean
I think a lot of my problems comes from being unable to stop future-tripping, creating thoughts like "oh the rest of my life is too long to be sober."
Thank you all for the support. I think a lot of my problems comes from being unable to stop future-tripping, creating thoughts like "oh the rest of my life is too long to be sober." One day at a time is a good thing but it's hard because in the back of my head I know that whether I drink tomorrow or 5 years from now, to drink is to die. I suppose I'm still mourning my old way of life. As terrible as it was, it was what I knew to get me through the monotonous days of discontent. But I didn't drink yesterday so thank you SR.
It looks like you are involved in AA and NA have you completed or started the steps?
I am 6 months and have thoughts but no desire to ever go back to that life. I don;t romance the ideas, although I do get them. I do think about could I ever return and then I think it through and wonder why I am thinking this and realize its my addiction.
For me when I get this way I try to strengthen my program. Do you meditate? I have found the most significant changes through meditation and exercise.
Remember you are not your thoughts. This means you do not need to act on them.
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