karate

Can't keep a sober string going .

Damn it .

Does life suck so bad we can't face it sober ?
Mine does not .

But still drink , don't understand it .

gvrecovery

I'm in the same boat, I just don't understand why I can't stop for good.

karate

Me neither

least

Keep trying until you 'get it'. Never stop trying.

Mountainmanbob

tapering down never worked for me
cold turkey works best for this guy

Mountainman

LooseGrip

When you quit drinking for a period of time do you find that you feel resentful of the fact that you aren't drinking and do you feel like you are missing out? If so, examine why. What does alcohol do for you that you cant do for yourself? Alcohol is a lie. You are capable of relaxing, laughing, dancing, flirting, celebrating, feeling pleasure and living your life sober. You didn't come into this world ingesting this poison and you were fine. You can find your way back to life before this lie was sold to you.

Raider

If I can string 12 days you can do this. I just know you can. I know it!!!

HopeSho

Well said. Thank you.

Gal220

You are right. There's nothing in life you can experience, no feeling you can go through, that others haven't also successfully dealt with. And there's no reason why you can't also. Circumstances have very little to do with sobriety. The people I know who have long term sobriety do not drink, no matter what. No matter what program, therapy, or method you use to help you stay sober, this is the bottom line. There is no circumstance or feeling under which I can justify drinking. I do not drink. It is never the solution. Until I really came to terms with that, I couldn't imagine life sober.

You have made many bold statements about quitting for good, and 100% abstinence being the solution. That is true. Maybe you need to do something different in order to truly be able to do this. I hope you find what you're looking for.

silentrun

Keep trying Karate.

Grungehead

There were times earlier in my life where my life didn't suck yet I still drank alcoholically. For me alcohol was a coping mechanism to deal with my feelings. It didn't really matter if life was going good, bad or in between, I still was dysfunctional internally when it came to dealing with life and alcohol was my way of coping.

I didn't drink due to the external circumstances of my life but because it was the only way I knew how to deal with life, good or bad. After sobering up I have been learning how to deal with life, good or bad, without having to numb my feelings to do so. To do that I had to do more than just stop drinking, I had to change my thinking (no easy task).

My experience has also taught me that with the way I drink, if my life isn't sucking just give it some time. I seem to have the knack of being able to drink myself out of good circumstances and into bad ones given enough time.

bigsombrero

Maybe it's time to start getting some more organized help, Karate? Can you go to AA or another support group? There's AA online as well these days. Perhaps a doctor, a treatment center, something like that might help? It worked in my case. Good luck.

Sudz No More

I was in the same boat Karate but it really is just keeping the sober string going long enough to get passed the mental impulses. I was the master of 90 days but I always let my guard down when I got that far. The problem I found was that the mental impulses stay with most of us far longer than 2 or 3 Months. For me it took 7 months before I finally felt free of the nagging thoughts and cravings. You really just have to ignore the occasional desires during that first half of year. All those "reward" moments you feel or those "medicate the misery" moments. You just have to push through them to make it long enough for the impulses to stop and they will. You just have to give more time to it.

Don't give any more energy to alcohol either, getting angry at it only continues the mental focus you have on it. Just try to forget about it and blow off those thoughts. That is all they are after you get past the physical cravings, just thoughts. Try again, at least you still have the determination that is the cornerstone to success. You have to want it for yourself before anything or anyone else will matter and I think you do. Just focus on getting beyond 6 months. Mark it on the calendar and keep focused on the goal. If you make it that far you will probably have it licked.

Keep trying.

matt4x4

Moderation never helps. Complete abstinance is the key.

KateL

Keep trying guys, it will happen xxx

dsmaxis10

don't give up keep trying

Birdygirl

I am right here with you! Struggling every day. Only making things worse for myself when I drink. Hang in there. We CAN do this!

Sanantoniosober

I couldn't taper. Drink one, well that didn't do anything, might as well have another. Next thing you know, I'm 12 deep. Might as well have another now since I've already had so much. Next day-"why did I have that first one?"

Sorensen

I drank 60 beers in the last four days and was sober for 9 days before then. I understand your affliction.

Dee74

I think Big S is onto something Karate.

There's no shame in admitting this thing has you beat.

there's no shame in admitting you can't do this on your own.

There's no shame in looking for, or reaching out for help.

I know because I did all three things, and I saved my life.

I still consider them three of the most manliest things I ever did.

D