family sabotage
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family sabotage
I have 30 c/s days.going to meet some family in a week or 2.they no im trying to stay c/s but keep sayin when u get here we goin to have some cocktails. DIDNT U JUST HEAR ME IM TRYING TO REMain c/s.whats ur opinion on someone pushing for a drinking buddy.how do I handle the lets go to happy hour, bbq & beers, etc.etc
I have 30 c/s days.going to meet some family in a week or 2.they no im trying to stay c/s but keep sayin when u get here we goin to have some cocktails. DIDNT U JUST HEAR ME IM TRYING TO REMain c/s.whats ur opinion on someone pushing for a drinking buddy.how do I handle the lets go to happy hour, bbq & beers, etc.etc
Congratulations on the 30 days; that's great progress.
To be blunt they sound a bit unsupportive, I would avoid them completely. I have never taken kindly to people who try to force drink onto other people, even if those people don't have a problem. If someone doesn't want a drink, they don't bloody want a drink. What is wrong with people? Grrrr. sorry xxxxxx congrats on 30 days x
Congrats on 30 days! That's awesome!
It can be tough with family, big Irish drinking family here. I was a month sober and my cousin told me 'oh you can have one drink' at a holiday party and I was amazed at the lack of understanding.
You know you're on the right path and I'm glad you are thinking about the tough situation ahead of time. If you can come up with some one liners you are comfortable with and that will be affirmations for you to stay strong….'it's never one for me, but thanks' 'i'm good' 'doing something new and feel great' - be creative! I've found that people who don't understand are often struggling with their own demons so being non confrontational is best.
It's always nice to have an ally at these things if you can. I had a long time sober cousin who watched my back. If you have someone you trust, ask, be honest about wanting some support.
And I always, always had an escape plan. My own car or a ride or someplace to walk to where I felt safe or a person to call and talk to.
I opted out of many events when newly sober if I wasn't comfortable or didn't trust myself.
You didn't make this decision lightly, you deserve real happiness, be safe.
Sending good thoughts
It can be tough with family, big Irish drinking family here. I was a month sober and my cousin told me 'oh you can have one drink' at a holiday party and I was amazed at the lack of understanding.
You know you're on the right path and I'm glad you are thinking about the tough situation ahead of time. If you can come up with some one liners you are comfortable with and that will be affirmations for you to stay strong….'it's never one for me, but thanks' 'i'm good' 'doing something new and feel great' - be creative! I've found that people who don't understand are often struggling with their own demons so being non confrontational is best.
It's always nice to have an ally at these things if you can. I had a long time sober cousin who watched my back. If you have someone you trust, ask, be honest about wanting some support.
And I always, always had an escape plan. My own car or a ride or someplace to walk to where I felt safe or a person to call and talk to.
I opted out of many events when newly sober if I wasn't comfortable or didn't trust myself.
You didn't make this decision lightly, you deserve real happiness, be safe.
Sending good thoughts
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