newhope01

For some reason I feel like I don't belong here on sober recovery and am beginning to think I am annoying people. I don't really know why I feel this way, I just do.

Maybe its just a cry for attention and some sense of validation or maybe its the low self-esteem talking.

Whatever it is, its bothering me a little.

In fact, I just almost deleted this post.

foolsgold66

You haven't annoyed me yet.

Dee74

You certainly haven;t annoyed me newhope

I think part of our condition is too feel self conscious and unworthy - those feeling can bring us closer to a drink.

It's just more lies we feed ourselves I think?

post away

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karate

I'm the one that annoys the people here .

So you are safe .

Carlotta

I am not sure at what stage of your recovery you are but for some it takes a little bit of time before they get back their confidence and feel comfortable in their skin.
You do belong on SR and you are not annoying me at all so breathe, relax and please keep on posting

SeaScape

Ill let you know if you annoy me! lol

NoJimmy

We all come at this thing from different angles, the common thread is we are all somehow broken and screwed up when we arrive here.
I suggest you stay and continue participating, I'm unaware of you offending anyone, but that really doesn't matter. We all have the same opportunity to contribute something that makes a difference to someone.

newhope01

Thank you everyone. I was really nervous and felt stupid posting this but I am really glad I did. Can you believe everyone's kindness made me cry a little? Got to get use to this whole sober thing.

awuh1

I have to agree with those above, There are people here who are far better than you at being annoying (including myself at times, without a doubt). You have a long way to go to catch up. In fact, in this regard I don't know if you have even begun.

needtostopthis

I have felt that way but I always feel like that even in real life sometimes. I think it is us just doubting ourselves. I know you have not annoyed me at all. Stick around!

MrTumble

You are not annoying for me.

I get the same feelings sometimes, but thats because i know i can be annoying to some people.

Theres a nice quote which goes along the lines of, "whatever other people think of you is none of your business."

Its a bit extreme but the essence is true.

FoolTurnedWise

I think perhaps that some people (like me) use alcohol to help them fit in socially (of course it ends up having the opposite effect). So when the alcohol is taken away, and you are in a social situation (I assume this forum is one), then we (or maybe just me?) have to relearn how to deal with it.

Like needtostopthis said above: Self Doubt suddenly becomes an issue.

[but then I often wonder about extrovert personalities. Surely they don't use alcohol as a mental crutch?]

KateL

You have never annoyed me xxxxx

oOCaptainCrazy

I can relate sort of... I often use alcohol to "fit in" because I've had a crappy past and I'm kinda shy at first and i also suffer with anxiety and sometimes insecurities (what people think of me, etc.)

So i drink to try and be like them, to be normal, do what normal people do. I also do it to fill the the black hole emptiness i feel deep inside and i know that's bad but i'm not as bad as i used to be.

Sadly trying to explain things to my girlfriend, who literally drinks alcohol like 3 times a year and then with water, is really hard.

afloatsober

Just your head telling you lies, just like mine does...
Not annoyed me and even if you did it would be because Gary always knows better.
Ha! Get over it Gary LoL.
Another lie.
Keep on keepin' on Newhope
G