MB8

49 days and not getting easier. I mean it has been but last night and today I was around a lot of drinking. Last night at my house everyone drinking and today at a 6 y/o birthday party. Bad thoughts started entering my head. Maybe.... Just a few..... Everyone else is... It would be so much more fun. Unfortunately when the party was over I'd be left in the dust still drinking everynight. This sobriety things Sux. I mean it's great but dam tough at times. Especially when everyone I associate with drinks. Uuuuugh. 530 on a Saturday night. Man I would love to have a beer.... Or 12. :-(. MB8

Thepatman

You did really well! Be proud of that. As for hanging around people that drink, specially if it's at your house...

I would definitely not put myself in such a situation, not so early in recovery.
I'm at 22 days and staying 50 miles from any booze.

KateL

It's still early days. You are doing well. xx

MB8

I completely agree with you patman. But unfortunately it's all I've known for 20 years and all friends partake. 1 have a 3 and a 5 year old girls. Last night two families came over at 6 for a " quick exchange of gifts" according to my wife. 1 am later they are still there laughing an hooting it up. My wife doesn't drink and never has and can hang out all night and have a blast. I was MISERABLE. She says, " what, does are life stop because you can drink. ". Not in a mean way but she thinks we should just be hanging as we normally do. I'm 49 days. I should be fixed, according to her. She doesn't get it and I don't expect her too. We always hangi out with friends because we all have young kids. Does that just stop. Damit. Why does this have to be SO DAM HARD. Its a complete life style change. :-(.

Gal220

It gets easier to be around people who drink over time, but you may find you don't want to. My husband and I sobered up around the same time (I met him after he got sober). He had been drinking for more than 20 years, and he did eventually fall away from a lot of people who were lifelong friends. We are starting to reconnect with some of them now that we've been sober a few years. But the relationships are definitely different now. I'm sure it's difficult since your wife doesn't understand. Maybe you can just go to bed after a reasonable time next time? Keep at it. You're doing great. I would never have been able to resist that temptation in early sobriety. The kids may not ever realize the difference since they're so young, but I can assure you they will benefit from you remaining sober.

MB8

Thnx gal220. Words that I definately needed to hear I realize things have to change in order for me to change. Makes it easier to no that I'm not the only one going thru or having gone thru this. Thank you. MB8

waynetheking

49 days is awesome! But im here to tell if u go another 49 days you will look back on this day and wonder why you were having a tuff time of it. It will smooth out for ya. Trust me. It gets easier each day. You mentioned a 3 and 5 year old. They need their daddy sane and there for them. Im not telling you anything you dont realize yet. Just stick it out, stay the course. The payoff is awesome!!!

JustODAAT

I also almost exclusively socialize with people who drink, and I get what you're saying. It was incredibly hard in early sobriety. So many times we would get together with people and drinking seemed to be the activity. And no one gets it the way an alcoholic gets it...and if you're the only one in the room, that sucks.

It does get a little easier (I'm in year 2). I won't say it's yet easy for me. I try to remember that the benefits of sobriety far outweigh some drag evenings.

Keep the faith!