A meal with alcohol in it
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A meal with alcohol in it
I've just started a post detox recovery programme and met a few people on the course, one man invited me round to have a meal with him and his wife. He seems really nice and i agreed. But then he said they were putting alcohol into the dish which really messed with my head, he also said his wife would be drinking wine, so i cancelled. I feel bad for not going, but if I'd have eaten a meal with alcohol in and been sat with someone drinking wine i think it would of been unwanted temptation, and even though the alcohol would have evaporated like he said i would have felt like i'd of had a substance. We're on an abstinence based programme so i was a bit shocked when he said they were putting alcohol in the meal. Am i cop out or would this have effected anyone else in a similar way?
I think you made the right decision! I couldn't be around anyone drinking for quite some time. I really wanted to hold onto my sobriety and knew, I didn't have the strength in early recovery, not to cave in.
We have to look out for ourselves and pleasing others wasn't on my menu. I say, good call, Messedup12!
Best Wishes To You!
We have to look out for ourselves and pleasing others wasn't on my menu. I say, good call, Messedup12!
Best Wishes To You!
You did the right thing if you think it would bother you. For many here at SR they consider alcohol in food breaking their sobriety. For me, I was obsessed with drinking and actually tasting straight beer. Cooked in something has never bothered me and I don't consider doing so breaking my sobriety. I am in the minority saying that though, but cooking with wine really does something for certain dishes. I mean, Chicken Marsala without Marsala?
I am three years sober and I cook with alcohol. However, you MUST be do what is best for you to keep you sober. I think you did really well to say you wouldn't go. If you feel comfortable saying why then you should just be honest. Especially at the beginning you must do whatever feels right to keep you going in the right direction and not make it any harder than it already is.
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Yeh thanks everyone. It would of been nice to mix with sober people but right now i'm not ready to mix with people who are drinking, i think that would have been putting myself in the path of temptation, so yeh think i did the right thing. Thanks
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