jaynie04

that^^^

foolsgold66

EXPOSED her? Are you serious?

sugarbear1

pages 66 & 67 of the big book

Pixienottipsy

What does your sponsor say?

GracieLou

Do not take her inventory. To thine own self be true!

If you can look at yourself honestly and come to the conclusion that you have no part in this situation then let it go. Your program and your recovery is your own.

After that, pray for her. I know how hard that seems to do and even stupid but it does help. There is one person, out of hundreds I have met, the just grinds my guts. I don't like her, she is so self centered it is hits you in the face along with the gallons of perfume she wears but once I prayed for her it got easier to be around her.

Just try it, you might be as amazed as I was.

longbeachone

So this dark mysterious character wants you OUT OF THE WAY and will go to any lengths to achieve her nefarious dastardly deeds! MMMOOOOooooooooooowwwwwWWWWWWAaaaaa!!!!! Scary!

C'mon, this is AA, It's not high school! Stop paying attention to this idiocy. You have a substance abuse problem. Treat those around you with kindness and respect and they will respond with the same.

BBSSspirit

She already drank.
What more could you do to her?

We don't get away with a thing!

Marktg34

Have you heard of HALT? It is used in therapy as you recognise in these emotional states we make bad judgements and bad decisions.It stands for hungry angry lonely and tired.It is very important in recovery it stops bad decisions is I am depressed and I am going to self harm.It is also very important and relevant in substance misuse and alcohol abuse.In the past I have self harmed with razors on my arms it is very damaging and distressing way of dealing with severe mood changes. I have not done that behaviour since 2008. It was like a compulsion I had to do it but I stopped very quickly.Think about your behaviour and how it affects your mood and other people.

Anyway that's too dark I am thinking of starting driving lessons soon.

Marktg34

It is a bad coping strategy. When you are in a state of panic or fear it seems like a release.it is still very distressing to talk about even now. I know all the dysfunctional patterns especially food issues as well . It is still very frightening to think I did that I still feel kind of stressed about it today.

Marktg34

It's strange therapy I was thinking about it just yesterday. The more you seem to open up it seems to get easier and it's very easy to speak to stranger in a therapeutic environment.I think looking back it was on of the most difficult things I have ever done in my life.I have gone through some difficult and harsh things in my life but in therapy you also realise that other people have seen and experienced worse.

FeenixxRising

What it is that you think she wants? And how do you believe you are getting in her way?

keithj

When a person offended we said to ourselves, "This is a sick man. How can I be helpful to him? God save me from being angry. Thy will be done."

aabb1st

Kathleen41

Should you have said something? Could you have prevented the damage?

No and No. Serenity prayer. Out of your control. And you are not that powerful. Gods will, not your will, be done. Focus on the spiritual principles the program teaches. Pray that you be divorced from self-seeking motives.

Peace and Love

IOAA2

Depending on the people involved there is an expression I think from Al Anon " If I'm invited to a fight that does not mean I have to participate." BE WELL