PhaseTwo

So I moved to do my internship. I'm livin in a house with my boss, his wife, and mother in law. I'm not having any major cravings but his mother in law has been offering me drinks every day which I've been declining. I also am sleeping in the basement next to his wine cellar, which actually isn't really a problem since I was never a wine guy, but talk about irony. Ugh, I guess it's time I told the mother in law that I can't drink ever. It's becoming pretty apparent that she won't get the hint.

LadyBlue0527

If she's offering you drinks every day it would be a good idea to let her know that you don't. You don't have to tell her your life story, just be matter of fact about it. The last thing you need is someone testing you on a daily basis.

pinkdog

Hi Phase, yeh just tell her that you don't like to drink. That you simply don't drink. Best wishes.

PhaseTwo

Yeah thanks you are both right. I really don't need this every day after work.

Tamerua

She sounds like she is trying to make you comfortable. Just say you don't drink ever. That is ok. congrats on the internship, that is exciting!

Dee74

yeah just say you're a non drinker

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Boleo

Perhaps the mother in law is a bit of an alcoholic herself?

Even if she is not - You might benefit from attending a few Al-Anon meetings.
You need to learn some things about boundary's and detachment if you are going to live in the same house with drinkers.

Ruturn

Yes, just tell her you don't drink. I never really drank socially so its been maybe 5 years or more since I had any alcohol to drink with another person even in the room. I would publicly abstain and then privately get hammered. Some people are threatened or weirded out by me telling them I don't drink, but they are very few and far between. In situations where people really wanted me to say more I just say that I exceeded my quota a long time ago. Good luck with telling her and I hope it goes well and easy.

PhaseTwo

I told her. I don't know why I made a huge deal out of this, looking back I think the cravings were worse than I let on but feels like a weights off my chest now. Boleo what do you mean about boundaries and detachment? They don't drink alcoholically, the mother in law has a few drinks every day but she's never drunk. I have no problem seeing people drink around me. I've come to terms with the fact that their reactions and mine are not the same.

PhaseTwo

Well I do have a problem when people drink alcoholically around me. But not with casual drinkers.