robgt350

wow what a sad day? your sister had strength. but how are you doing? how are you feeling? you said that you were concerned about it. well give us an update.

blackoutgirl

I'm not sure why the groom didn't show up. He was reportedly with his best man and didn't call to let anyone know that he wasn't planning on marrying my sister. We were all dressed up in our gowns, make up...white chairs, white tables everywhere, gifts stacked, flowers everywhere, the whole nine...

My Dad was there but didn't make a scene or become belligerent. I was concerned about that prior to the wedding, since no alcohol would be served. He did bring a case of beer in his vehicle. More or less, when everyone was waiting for the groom to show up and was becoming more stressed, his vehicle became a "speak-easy."

Luckily, he didn't get out of hand. I think he was so overwhelmed with thought, as everyone else was, that getting drunk wasn't his main objective, for once. He was trembling like a leaf when he arrived, probably from trying to abstain for the event. Even though he eventually drank, it was nothing to his true capacity.

I held it together for her. I didn't drink and I feel good about it. Today I'm still in disbelief that yesterday even happened the way it did. I don't feel stressed and I especially don't feel like drinking.

I do feel slightly strange today. Strange as in I didn't let my alcoholic self get the best of me. I guess I surprised myself, if that makes sense. Any other time, I would have drank to my hearts content. I feel somewhat stronger after dealing with that and knowing that I didn't immediately reach for a bottle to numb the situation. This morning when I woke up, I thought, "Wow, you did it. You didn't drink! You dealt with an extremely emotionally stressful event, even with hundreds of people....and you didn't drink!"

I'm not happy that this happened to my sister, but I AM happy that I stayed sober and chose to accept the gravity of the situation with a clear mind and attitude.

I hope you guys don't ever have to witness anything like this. In the movies, being stood up at the alter is almost romanticized. The groom wasn't riding away on a horse in a flower covered field. In real life it was heart wrenching...I've never seen so many people cry, except at a funeral.

My Dad's health is failing (severe alcoholism) and may not get another chance to walk my sister down the aisle, which is why she chose to have him escort her down the aisle anyway. She had been with her fiancé for NINE years. I don't foresee anyone sweeping her off her feet anytime soon, since her emotional state is damaged at the moment.

Today I plan to call her to see how she is holding up. Thanks again for all the comments. YOU GUYS ARE GREAT and I feel fortunate to have my SR family by my side.

lommey

love to your sister and family . well done blackout for standing with your sister

SnoozyQ

What a ******* !

ReadyAtLast

That's awful. your sister is abrave,strong woman and probably needs you now more than ever. Good on you staying sober ,you will beable to support and help her now because you are sober.

Blackcat11

You would not want to be married to anyone capable of such!! But the pain
is real---Love her and hold her close!

tootsl1

I can't believe the groom could not find a less humiliating way to let down the girl he had spent 9 years with and had intended spending the rest of his life with

She is so much better without him, as time will allow her to see.
BG you and your sister should both be proud of yourselves handling the situation soberly and with dignity.

longbeachone

I'm just gobsmacked. What the H*ll was going through that man's mind? I hope he thinks about this complete failure as a human being every day for the rest of his miserable life, and have to sit by googling for information about your sister, who has become wildly happy, successful, married to the man of her dreams and mom to a beautiful family while staying lovely and gorgeous. If this wedding disaster sounds like a movie, than your sister deserves a happily ever after Hollywood movie ending.

Not all of the movies romanticize bring stood up at the alter. What about Carrie and Big? (Carrie's sadness and difficulty trying to get over her wedding disaster is one of Sarah Jessica Parkers best tour's as an actress). Remember the whole Willaby-Marrianne-Colonel Brandon in "Sense and Sensibility"? That bast**rd Willaby sitting on his horse watching while Marriane and Colonel Brandon were coming out of the church, beautiful and happy after their wedding? Hah!!! He deserved it.

Sorry to digress, I tend to think of life in terms of movies, partly due to my overactive imagination, partly to my verging on obsessive adoration of film (I even majored in it in college). Your Sister sounds amazing, far too sensible and strong to have had to spend the rest of her life with a weak, shallow man capable of this kind of cruelty. I admire her absolutely, even though I've never met her.

And GOOD FOR YOU for staying strong and sober for your sister. You gave her the best gift you could have, and it will be a proud moment for you to look back on in your new, sober life. What a story. God bless you all.

Alphabet

it breaks my heart to hear this story, I'm so sorry for what your sister and your whole family had to endure. Clearly she's better off without such scum, but that doesn't take away from how gut wrenching it must feel to have to go through this.

Very proud of you for not giving in to the drink, that must have been extremely difficult.

lorelei

So sad you had to go thro this your sister is v lucky to have you, lean on sr whilst she leans on you x