HJFgirl

I have a sponsee who has relapsed twice in 60 days. I told her maybe I am not the right one to carry the message, she doesn't seem to be "getting" what I am saying. Told her if it happens again maybe she will want to look around for a new sponsor. She insists she can only work with me. I suspect she was on a binge last week as her behavior was "off", but when asked point blank if she was drinking she said "no!" I believe she is lying because she is afraid I'll let her go and also because I will ask that she go to a meeting and pick up a 24 hours coin - which she has already done twice and hating being humbled like that. She wants people to think she is doing the deal. Trouble is, if she IS drinking I can deal with it, it's the dishonesty that is so tough to take. I told her previously "you can't b.s. a b.s-er" but she seems to get some sort of pleasure out of it! I myself relapsed three times until I finally surrendered and have shared all my experience associated with that with her, but don't know what else to do. Except remember that I can't get anyone drunk and I can't keep anyone sober. Any thoughts, ideas, suggestions are appreciated.

starcco

She likes you because she can relapse easier than with another sponsor?

tomsteve

talk to your sponsor,read the chapter"working with others" and pray on it.