Anoronha

I'm trying real hard to get out of my own head. I feel so lonely lately I had to changecmy friends they are in recovery too. I still talk to them but drifting apart. Its real hard for me to make friends I call people to talk that I don't know and I feel socially awkward. I'm really shy and don't know hoe to make friends. I just needed to vent over here. I have been trying to keep busy to get out of my head. I'm 4 months sober today. I call at least 3 people a day. I still pick the wrong friends.

davaidavai

4 months is a real accomplishment. I know what you mean. Sometimes life seems like a party everyone's invited to, but you. I suspect the only way is to be genuine. People not being friends with you is sometimes a good thing. Sometimes I feel like, "thank God that friendship didn't work out!"

At a year and 4 months, I care less. I look around my messy room and feel like, whelp, that's the way it is. At least I'm trying. I'm not sure what more I can do aside from put myself out there. What you are doing takes a lot of energy and courage.

robgt350

anoronha
wow i connected with your post. i lost pretty much all my friends when i stopped drinking. i understand how you feel you get lonely. many times i feel lonely too. i also have been trying to keep busy with my self, only so many times you can reorganize your house or clean your yard. i too pick up the wrong friends too. so i come here and got some great advice. but this is a great place to meet new people.

EndGameNYC

I'm not here to push AA or any other particular kind of help, but I can tell you what it did for me.

Going to meetings nearly every day in early sobriety kept me connected to my own recovery. I got me out of the house. It enabled me to meet other sober people, some of whom became friends. Perhaps most important, I had a support system at the ready whenever life went sideways.

Loneliness is a huge issue for many people new to sobriety.Things will get better in time as you continue to take care of yourself.

Anoronha

I hear what you are saying I go to 3 to 4 meetings a week I would go to more but I work full time and have a crazy schedule. This week I went to 8 meetings because I had more days off than usual.

Anoronha

What program do you use AA or smart recovery or another one? I know it sucks picking the wrong friends I always pick the ones that don't seem to care not that I am the perfect friend I have my faults too. I have learned over the years to not be so intense when it comes to friendships and relationships.

sugarbear1

It takes time to make friends.

When I worked through the steps, I found out that it's not about me today; it's about being a friend to others.

Paradoxical, I know!

robgt350

well i think it is hard to meet friends that you have common interests with and like to do things with. at least for me. i get along good with my co-workers and but as far as forming new friendships it is very difficult. i understand,, i have my faults too, we all due in life. but over the years i also learned not to be intense also, but also i learned to listen more to other and respect their feelings.
do you open up and develop friendship on line ok?

pennyroyaltea

I just started going back to meetings in hopes of meeting other sober friends. Loneliness is rough. I'm right there with you.

neferkamichael

Anorohna, 4 months today? You are FANTASTIC. Congratulations. I was worried about losing my friends at first, and did loose them, but the sadness, and lonelyness went away fairly quickly. Rootin for ya.